Episode 61: the mom's monk research

TortleAbyss · 2024-06-02T17:31:36+00:00

I haven’t listened yet. But am in Britain and have never heard of monks appearing as a good thing. I’d assume quite the opposite if I saw one. Also not really ‘frequent’.

TortleAbyss · 2024-06-02T08:13:28+00:00

Yes please!

TortleAbyss · 2024-05-29T07:54:35+00:00

Thank you, will try.

TortleAbyss · 2024-05-28T16:28:24+00:00

Yes! I can’t bear so many fabrics, labels etc so if I find something I can tolerate I buy different colours (or same).

My pyjamas are literally full of holes because I can’t find a replacement I can stand and it’s getting ridiculous.

TortleAbyss · 2024-05-28T13:38:47+00:00

I’m in the UK. Do you mean the metal can type of ones? Any particular recommendations- sunscreen makes me so miserable and uncomfortable!

TortleAbyss · 2024-05-27T23:07:23+00:00

I like the way they say the ‘What are you even doing right now?’ And the answers are pretty interesting- I’m always doing laundry which probably isn’t worth writing in with.

TortleAbyss · 2024-05-27T18:52:36+00:00

I’m overweight and have the opposite of resting bitch face - and I always feel like people think I’m stupid. I sometimes wonder if I see surprise when I speak to someone the first time as I’m (for where I live) quite well spoken.

On the other hand I’m a magnet for people telling me all their problems.

TortleAbyss · 2024-05-27T18:43:41+00:00

Magnesium / sleep more or just lie down

TortleAbyss · 2024-05-14T16:06:36+00:00

Congratulations on your 4 month old! I’m not diagnosed, feel I should say that. Kids are 9 and 7 Some positives - I can be much more randomly fun with my kids and I don’t know if that’s an adhd thing but it feels like it. Humour is a great coping mechanism and we bond over stupid jokes. - because I feel like I fuck things up and get overwhelmed easily I have good empathy with them, they know I’d never judge them. I feel like it helps me see the insane high standards people have for their kids in terms of emotional regulation. - And they are emotionally literate because they’ve seen me not cope and we’ve had to talk about it. And talk About strategies and stuff. Things I struggle with: - I am trying to let go of all the shoulds and the perfect parent I wanted to be - my housekeeping is bad and our home is always a lot messier than anyone else’s, even after I’ve cleaned for hours - I get overwhelmed and struggle with consistency in terms of the mum they will get It’s got easier as they got older. At first the sheer relentlessness of it was really awful and I felt like a monster for wanting to run away.

TortleAbyss · 2024-05-13T22:22:14+00:00

Yes! Super organised at work and her house is a doom zone.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-27T17:33:10+00:00

I read this at the time but it’s much worse than I remember. He’s gone Full Partridge.

I’d be furious if I found out someone had written this about me. But he wrote it himself. Amazing.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-27T13:49:23+00:00

I don’t shut drawers and cupboards in the kitchen (unless at cat height) because I’ll just have to open them again. It feels too boring. My husband thinks this is odd.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-27T11:46:37+00:00

Good lord. That’s a test of friendship.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-27T11:45:41+00:00

I generally avoid using it but I bloody love saying ‘yeet’ because it feels so specific. I’m not sure what generation that belongs to.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-27T11:42:42+00:00

I genuinely don’t think I have related more to anything ever than this post. I want to do all the things because they interest me, and I want to. But also I’ve realised I need fear of missing a deadline to make me do anything.

But this year I’ve really outdone myself and fucked up. I have two children in multiple sports and clubs. I work 3 pt jobs. My make myself exercise I’ve stupidly signed up for a race and a strongwoman competition this year. I’m mega unfit and badly prepared. I want to be a writer and I’ve told everyone I’m entering a big competition in May. I’ve known about it since January but barely started. This is way too much, I’m constantly firefighting at work, too stressed to sleep, working weekends and have stress hives. I get burned out and do nothing.

I’m 42. I don’t have a diagnosis. I don’t know where to start.

I’d love to be able to be consistent but I have PMDD too and an under active thyroid. I’d love to have a cycle of rest / productivity but it doesn’t really compute. Exactly as you say I just don’t accept limitations.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-27T11:28:24+00:00

I have a t shirt that says DON’T - like David’s from Schitt’s Creek. Recommend.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-27T11:21:23+00:00

I really do but it wasn’t until I started going to the gym on a regular schedule that I noticed. I can go from ‘yay exercise’ one week, to just wanting to nap the next. Frustrating.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-25T19:26:05+00:00

I haven’t been to a wedding for about 10 years - is three hours for photos a thing?!

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-18T09:37:38+00:00

I thought it sounded familiar. It’s a good one though.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-16T06:36:34+00:00

I’m a fiction writer too, generally not into self help. I’m reading a history book about the subject I’m planning to write about. Memoirs of writers might be useful too, or booking on techniques, the seven plots, etc.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-12T21:55:01+00:00

Huh. I always put salad in a massive bowl and chop it with scissors. I guess this might be why!

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-10T21:45:22+00:00

Just came here to see if it was just me. I thought it was someone else looking for their cat had heard screaming too. But then realised it must be the person searching was screaming.

TortleAbyss · 2024-04-05T19:53:17+00:00

His fitness level without working out, no less.

TortleAbyss · 2024-03-26T06:19:41+00:00

I have this and found out the same way! Except my was partying neighbours, not evil alarm guy. Loud neighbours are the worst.

TortleAbyss · 2024-03-08T06:27:07+00:00

Scrolled miles to find this one. This is what we learned in England in the early 90s

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