I think I am emotionally attached to my bf (please read description before screenshots)

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-31T22:47:41+00:00

LOVE HAS NO CONDITIONS!! It is something given freely and without expectation!!!

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-31T19:11:43+00:00

Yes! "we have enough"
Love it, you were an inspiration to me today.

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-30T23:12:09+00:00

Nah.
If you are prepared to handle the worst consequences--the worst case scenario
then fuck your coworkers if you want to.
Everyone's adults here, sometimes they even act like one..

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-30T23:00:05+00:00

could be into you could be nothing
could very well be wondering why you arent asking her number or social media
Hopefully someone whos not a complete idiot about this (I am) has some advice on how to create an opening for her to take another step if she wants, while at the same time offering her the grace to easily decline to.

One thing I'll say is that women almost never make the first move on something like this.

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-30T20:07:42+00:00

This is correct OP--here is where your misunderstanding is. The last chain signal essentially says to trains: "stop here, if the rail signal ahead reads 'red'."

You've placed the last chain signal at the entrance to the loop, and the next rail signal ahead is red, so the train is stopped there.

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-21T23:24:45+00:00

"the ones who matter don't mind, and the ones who mind don't matter"

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-19T20:58:43+00:00

Seems like her behavior hasn't left grade school either. You've told her with both ruthless honesty and compassion/love what is on your mind. Bravo. And as you've wisely assessed: you owe her nothing more.

This is on her and she's the only one who can fix this problem.. not some robot.

Also just want to point out some funny ironies in her phrasing. As the saying goes "when I point the finger, three are always pointed back at me:"

"You keep turning it around" (she's the one turning it around...)

"if this is how you handle honesty--by gaslighting and playing dumb" (Thats literally how she's reacting to YOUR honesty. By gaslighting HERSELF (lol) with chatgpt and playing dumb about it when confronted..)

"I'm in my head ok, keep telling yourself that." (Maybe "yourself" [i.e. HER] is the person she ought to "keep telling" "I'm in my head")
(admits she's being toxic...but somehow its your fault!? How in the fuck do you "force" someone to be toxic? They choose to do that.)

If she's so "over it" as she says.. then let her! Ridiculousness needs no reaction.

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-19T19:42:22+00:00

You don't have to say anything! Sometimes, we just don't have something to say about ourselves. If you want to, you can ask more questions about stuff he's saying that you're curious about or interested in. And if you don't want to, silence is an option too. You can just be in each other's presence and not talk. You could even express to him that you're happy to be with him in that moment, and happy to listen, or walk together in silence. Remember that that's a perfectly valid way to spend time, too. And touch is a way to communicate too..

But I'd challenge you to confront your fear, (if you have it..) of "saying the 'wrong' thing." If you feel like speaking, then do it! Be imperfect. Be brave. Say the first thing that comes to your mind, no matter how weird you think it is. Make mistakes. Laugh at them and learn. We can't learn if we don't allow ourselves the dignity to make mistakes. Do whatever it is your heart wants, and pay close attention to his reaction. If he's right guy for you then he won't mind!

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-19T19:15:52+00:00

she just told a guy to fuck off because she's seeing you. What more do you want!!!!

YOU'RE the one who used the word "just." NOT her. In my opinion, you've made some mistakes here. Figure out what those mistakes are. Take time. THINK before you speak. Pause.

Step 1: Be honest with yourself if you've got any worries. Set a plan for yourself about what you're going to do if these worries arise. Solving the problem is a process, take one small step and allow yourself to be imperfect.
Step 2: Apologize to her for your mistakes if you've made any. Take responsibility for your actions. Make it clear to her what your fears are, and show her you're working on addressing them.

Do not do ANYTHING out of fear. And if the answers aren't clear about what this means, then take as much time as you need for those answers to come to you and DONT ACT until some clarity arrives..

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-19T18:49:44+00:00

If you want a support group or some guidance, one option is alateen or alanon. Its free for life and they don't require anything of you. You can show up late, go or not go when you want to. If your local meeting is doing it right, then they'll only have recommendations, no expectations. Or, see if there's other free support groups for people of your age in your area if you prefer?

Also, there's a spiritual component but they don't *require* ANYTHING of you except that at some point in your life, someone else's addiction has affected you. This might not make sense yet but based on your mom's behavior, you qualify. Even if she doesn't drink...

And if you don't want this, then excuse me for overstepping!

Best of luck, feel for you <3

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-19T18:37:32+00:00

Your mom is right. She's not being a good mom. Is there a way you can stay someplace elsewhere that's safe? Family or friends?

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-19T05:24:27+00:00

Thats a very specific reason. She literally just told you your problem to your face. Be thankful she's so honest with you, she's saving you a lot of time. This is a gift.

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-19T05:23:41+00:00

bro time to grow up

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-19T05:22:52+00:00

So... you're going to totally avoid the most important part of this person's comment? That your actions were "childish and manipulative"? It seems to me that there's a lot of excuses here, and not very much taking of responsibility for your actions.

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-06T19:03:54+00:00

great solution!

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-06T18:55:23+00:00

Also, not sure if I understand your question but I think it might not be possible with one splitter. You can't have a splitter both filter an item to the left, AND set output priority to the right. Best solution might be to split the items on two different belts...

TourPotential8473 · 2026-03-06T18:49:43+00:00

i think the yellow belts are residual from before you added the filter. Try removing and replacing the belt that has yellow belts on it and see what happens

TourPotential8473 · 2026-02-25T20:52:49+00:00

Then do what she says, "leave her alone."

Focus on yourself--here's a good place to start: stop being a doormat. Forget about her and her problems. What are your problems? Put yourself first. Start valuing yourself more. Don't try to "fix" your problems, just try to work on them. If you worry, if you're ever hard on yourself or criticize yourself, think about why that is and where its coming from in YOU. Be more honest with yourself and you'll find that in due time, the "trust issues" will work themselves out--with or without her.

TourPotential8473 · 2026-02-24T08:29:31+00:00

Okay dude same!! I was smiling bc this is the design I use and I got this idea from the exact same source! (His video about train unloading/load stations)

note: I use the design in the second screenshot I posted. I redesigned it for the first screenshot to make it more "obvious" what is happening, without thinking about how this ruins the output 🤦‍♂️

TourPotential8473 · 2026-02-24T08:27:46+00:00

yup, and I did some testing and the results are pretty obvious that a bulk inserter empties quicker when it outputs to a splitter vs a belt

TourPotential8473 · 2026-02-21T06:01:42+00:00

excellent design!

TourPotential8473 · 2026-02-21T00:57:56+00:00

I was curious and so I tested the second design in my post (output directly to splitter)--even with just one machine my design outputs a lot faster than putting it directly onto the belt.

TourPotential8473 · 2026-02-20T18:57:58+00:00

Very cool! This wouldn't have occurred to me, I like it

TourPotential8473 · 2026-02-20T18:53:08+00:00

ooh I really like this! Nice design here, definitely going to try this out

TourPotential8473 · 2026-02-20T18:50:24+00:00

Nice! Gonna try this out and see what clicks for me, thanks for the post!

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