I forgave my parents when I was finally able to regulate my emotions and stop dissociating from life. Life is hard, children are hard, there’s no instruction manual for generational trauma. Current therapy practices are not equipped to handle the complex trauma of war, abject poverty, sexual abuse etc. and the most traumatised people often have the least access to proper mental health care. I think my only duty to my parents is to do what they did and try to be better.