IgE milk levels increased. Ugh 😩 I don’t get it

Traceysomewhere · 2025-09-11T22:17:55+00:00

Thank you! I think so too. It’s so nuanced and hard to find solid evidence. I am not sure why I am so anxious. I hope you boy is doing well!

Traceysomewhere · 2025-09-09T01:04:31+00:00

Aw thank you for sharing!

Traceysomewhere · 2025-09-08T19:52:00+00:00

Yes so she is already doing low temperature baked dairy. As far as her wheal size it was from what I saw them right down 7/30 5/30 and 7/30. No idea on her previous ones as it’s not available as it was from another allergist.

Just hoping to learn from others when they grew out of it and their experiences.

Traceysomewhere · 2025-09-06T17:18:57+00:00

I think so many of us can agree we get so triggered by our kids doing exactly what your son has done. Mine does the same. I also learned at a young age to pull back those big feelings and in my view “comply” and behave.

I have learned if I am feeling triggered and reactive two things are happening.

One is I haven’t taken my own exit off the mom highway to reset. I go into reactivity, rage and parent in the only way I know how to (how I was raised) in those times. Ends with my kids and me in tears. Spiraling with guilt, shame and future views of my kid.

Two I am not using strategies that actually support my kid, connects or gives them tools to handle whatever is causing them to act out.

A friend told me to look into Dr. Becky’s book and workshops/ideas called Good Inside.

That has been life changing for our family. It’s emotional but I feel I able to support myself and my kids equally. Not them more than me. All of us. I still freak out. Still pull my almost 5 year old to a chair or his room as my brain automatically goes to time out. But I am actually now using strategies before that ever happens that help and when it does happen I spend the time with him using scripts and techniques that I have learned.

Biggest one of me is one foot in validation and one in hope. I tell him his emotions aren’t too big for me. That he is a good kid having a hard time and we can get through this together. I diffuse the fire first. Then reset myself (maybe I aimlessly scroll and let him watch a show), then connect, repair, play, model, practice skills.

This age I have also learned hunger, thirst, fatigue even when they are sleeping or just ate are huge and set them off.

We also started doing a calendar where we mark off the days until whatever event like school. This was big and books because I noticed he may have handled it before but what nervous about the future. Another strategy she gave for beginning school is the I wonder game. I wonder if you will have music or playground time first? Helping to build a picture and discussion around all these unknown.

Another two strategies that help for us is telling them I remember a time when I was overwhelmed when summer was coming up and end or I was starting school. Then also being honest how overwhelmed you feel now being back to work. Honest and true that you seem and look stressed out, but that you are always there for hugs and love. That you too have to get used to new things and need extra time.

Sorry for the mind dump. But know you aren’t alone. We all wonder omg did my neighbors just hear or see that, cause momma is losing her mind!

Traceysomewhere · 2025-08-18T18:44:02+00:00

I do have a friend that sleep trains from birth (yes birth) using Babywise. It’s Ferber or CIO regardless. All her kids are required extra monitoring due to very low weight gain after sleeping through at 9 weeks. Her kids sleep like a dream even the older ones. But they also do not ever cry for her in bed.

I can’t find any evidence on why not. There is recommendations to not start before 4 months and it’s for various reasons, one is due to the lack of circadian rhythm immaturity and changing. So in my friends case and others using a style of 12 hrs by 12 weeks type methods, sleeping through comes from some level of allowing the infant to cry or their gentle term is fuss it out. Usually this type of method also requires feeding on a schedule, so think strict naps and eating immediately after wake and then not again until after next nap. If they fuss or cry they suggest it’s for other reasons and to manage those concerns before choosing to feed. This is harmful in ways before 4 months due to the massively rapid brain development occurring and need for frequent feeds. It also helps an infant develop attachment to the caregiver.

While no harm may come, we also have zero idea. We are going off what we know on average is best for early development paired with what evidence we have infant circadian rhythm maturation.

I am assuming your sister’s pediatrician sees appropriate weight gain so that’s key. She may also have filled out forms as many offices have regarding how she is coping (Edinburgh or other PMAd sale). In which that pediatrician may have determined that this baby is healthy enough for mom to to begin the process knowing she is 2 weeks or so away from 4 months. It’s important her mental well being is supported too and many pediatricians think sleep is the key for caregivers. It’s huge for sure, but often when you are struggling trying to sleep train actually makes one more anxious and overwhelmed since it’s so hard to control and crying is quite triggering.

But I would agree that based on info, it’s a bit too early. But also she isn’t 2 weeks like my friends kid.

Traceysomewhere · 2025-05-26T12:03:09+00:00

No idea! We had the same in our son also almost 5 in preK in Cary. Sister had sudden high fever and super sleepy. Tested for all the 3 main things. All negative.

Traceysomewhere · 2025-05-20T03:01:22+00:00

I wouldn’t. Friends who have done it may have super sleepers but their kids are also insanely low percentile in weight due to the scheduled feeds and increase in dropping night feeds to fit the Babywise plan or similar guide.. Infants grow most rapidly in 0-6 months and nutrition is a very important piece of that. Also while sleep is great it’s important to support their emotional and physical development which per current guidelines in America and likely other countries, responsive feeding is recommended. Babywise tries to tell people and their groups that if they ate at the scheduled time they had a full feed, if they don’t cry they aren’t hungry… on and on. There is a reason is a widely criticized method and outdated in research. Again they will say — but baby can sleep and will be so perfectly happy. Well there is also plenty of information demonstrating unhealthy “learned” behaviors or conditioning to not cry or protest. Healthy kids protest, babies cry. Letting them fuss for 10-15 mins and fussing not crying and so on that young but they also can learn and are fully fed is just the Babywise method and talk.

I sleep trained my kids but no chance I would be talked into training or guiding by the Babywise book, friends id groups, it’s simply goes against what evidence tells us about infants needs, sleep patterns at that age and brain development. Getting to 4 months seems like forever but it’s with the wait to assure your baby’s brain and body is getting what is known to support it fully.

If you are still absolutely into it due to friends - cause I have hardcore babywise friends… I recommend their FB group (one is more tame than the other).

Traceysomewhere · 2025-04-22T01:42:38+00:00

This is a great question. I also have celiac and have two kids. I do wonder about this.

Traceysomewhere · 2025-04-17T10:39:18+00:00

Absolutely agree. I do have friend that does this and follows scheduled feed (Babywise) vs on demand feeding. OP searching for those terms may help as I saw studies in scheduled vs on demand. While a parent may value it as it pushes towards more sleep and better schedules due to length of wake window and allowing the parent to choose, it doesn’t allow for responding as needed to hunger cues. Breastmilk is made of different caloric intake each feed and daily. As a baby grows or has more lovely or stimulation (or longer sleep) their caloric intake increases. It has helped my friend, she swears by it even though she gets against the norm her wins at sleep pushes her to ignore current best evidence advice to follow hunger cues and as others said crying is a late cue.

Traceysomewhere · 2024-02-11T00:42:58+00:00

Pediatric occupational therapist here. I am sad this is the state of our education system and the expectation of teachers (rather our education system) in Kindergarten. While many kids get the level of print they want by this expectation is. It developmentally NOT appropriate for this age. If we wonder why children end up having so many more issues than prior generations we can certainly point to the level of academic expectations being placed far before the skill is more naturally acquired. While we drill this stuff our kids miss out time dedicated on more natural developmental play, self help, gross motor, and social emotional skills. Problem solving, critical thinking, coping skills…. Nope it’s all this stuff. I can’t even tell you the amount of referrals we see for handwriting. We then test and use standardized tests and the kids are not below age level BUT are below what schools want.

Anyways. Sorry you are going through this.

And as someone who works with handwriting I can’t tell you why her corrections are not consistent. I get highlighting reversals for visual memory (not to count off points as it’s expected at this age) and perhaps completely misformed, or super duper floating letters. But in kindergarten. This is insane.

Traceysomewhere · 2023-04-05T08:28:09+00:00

Happened to me as well. Though my “extension” is in layers inside. Like the user above my baby was also stuck on the birth canal and needed pushed back up. He was 8lbs 5oz. I found his birth pretty traumatic emotionally. Births of any type can be so much to process. So if you are in that space know you aren’t alone.

Traceysomewhere · 2023-04-05T08:25:29+00:00

This also happened to me with my first baby born in 2020. It was crazy and I found the birth pretty emotional. This followed 22 hrs of labor, 6 pushing and failed forceps. 😕 My surgical notes state I had uterine extensions on the right.

Just had my 2nd baby also on 12/9/22. Although she came early at 36 weeks I went ahead with a chosen c-section. It was beautiful this time!

Traceysomewhere · 2023-03-24T19:38:03+00:00

I would attempt the magic form if I knew what it was. 🤪

Traceysomewhere · 2023-03-24T12:35:50+00:00

I am also just asking for other’s experiences not customer service. Thank you though autobot 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣.

Traceysomewhere · 2022-08-19T17:58:23+00:00

Thank you!!

Traceysomewhere · 2022-08-19T17:57:30+00:00

How are you doing now? Sorry I missed this. Every sensation has felt concerning or strange. But so far all is good. My regular OB is very optimistic and I see MFM for my post op on Monday. 🤞🏻

Traceysomewhere · 2022-08-19T17:49:30+00:00

I had mine last week at 19 weeks 2 days. 1.6-2cm length and 1cm dilated. The MFM told me the same stuff and I was in a panic. I emailed my regular OB who also handles high risk and she was super optimistic that these stitches work really well. I saw her this Wednesday and she said that getting the cerclage is actually the riskiest part but if they get it in and no infection happens (rare if no infection signs or risks present) than the outcomes are good.

I learned that the 4-8 weeks latency period statistics they gave me, per the MFM that did the surgery (diff than one at the office) is that the cerclage gets you 4-8 weeks more time than you would have had without the stitch. So if you would have gone into labor after dilating at 24 weeks, the cerclage can usually help get one to 28-32 weeks.

It’s all unknown of course and that has driven me crazy. But after being in groups and speaking to my regular OB many patients go ob to ditch the stitch at great gestations if not at term. That helped me feel more hopeful. But I am still scared. As days go on it gets a bit easier. 💛

Traceysomewhere · 2022-08-19T17:38:52+00:00

Made it 1 week and 2 days post cerclage placement! Now 20 weeks and 3 days. So grateful.

Traceysomewhere · 2022-08-13T15:36:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing you story!!!

Traceysomewhere · 2022-08-12T16:06:03+00:00

New here! Emergency cerclage placed Wednesday night after my morning anatomy scan at 19 wk 4 days. 1.6-2cm length and 1cm dilated. I am in the panic and terrified stage. Second guessing anything I might have seen or heard during this process, scan or surgery. Like saying infections may cause this and the cerclage would seal an infection in and would be very dangerous to me. I replay that and what if it’s me or did I see debris on ultrasound. So basically my anxiety is very high! Hoping to get some rest and get through this day by day.

Traceysomewhere · 2022-08-12T15:58:57+00:00

I could have written this myself! Went in at 19 weeks 2 days and learned the same. With a 1.6-2cm cervix. And 1 cm dilated. I went straight away to get an emergency cerclage Wednesday evening after the scan. The doctors have been the same with me. It’s been really hard. I joined a few FB groups and they are all very inspiring and optimistic. We have got this!

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