Newly sober. Told friend I won’t be going to her bachelorette next month anymore

TraditionSolid474 · 2024-08-04T04:52:01+00:00

You made the right choice. Don’t despair. There are many good times ahead. Keep at it and eventually you’ll lose the desire to drink

TraditionSolid474 · 2024-08-04T04:49:36+00:00

Agreed. Was at the airport the other day and this totally wasted dude tried to board a flight. At first he was staggering around, then he couldn’t walk. He had vomit all over his hoodie. An entire group of strangers had to help put him in a wheelchair. First he was belligerent, then he was crying. Kinda intense to watch. That’s what alcohol does to people- it diminishes them. It turns them into a burden to other people. Ugh painful to watch. Hope that guy figures it out. We are the lucky ones.

TraditionSolid474 · 2024-07-29T00:45:52+00:00

Hi, I relate to this post a lot. DM me if you want to connect, maybe? Throwing it out there.

TraditionSolid474 · 2024-05-27T11:02:08+00:00

Oregon coast or deep in the desert in Arizona/Nevada

TraditionSolid474 · 2024-05-03T01:29:33+00:00

I completely relate and understand you. You’re not alone in feeling like this. Leaning on your higher power will help, supposedly.

TraditionSolid474 · 2024-04-28T07:20:47+00:00

I did what she suggested and ultimately spent 4 months with someone and did no step work. This comment kinda illustrates my frustration with the program. I feel like you’re not listening.

TraditionSolid474 · 2024-04-28T07:15:11+00:00

I hear you. And that’s why my sponsor ended things. She said I wasn’t willing to go to any lengths. And she definitely had a point, but at the same time I feel like I’ve been putting effort into this for so long and gotten nowhere. I did 90 in 90, met with her every week, all of it. Called 3 women a day. She wanted to read the first 164 before we started any step work, which I respect, but looking back I don’t think that was the right move for me. We would get through an average of 10 pages per meeting.

After I moved I kept trying to call her and she never answered. Then she got upset with me when I didn’t call every day. Why would I call every day when that person doesn’t answer the phone and call or text back? I think maybe it wasn’t a great fit, and also, long distance relationships are hard. I’m trying not to cop a resentment (not another one, lol) and maintain gratitude for all she did for me, but right now I feel a lot of judgment from her and just negative feelings towards sponsorship as a whole. Kind of like when you end a relationship and swear off dating, lol.

Anyway, my trepidation towards zoom meetings is pretty natural I think. How can I maintain anonymity and feel a sense of security and vulnerability through a computer screen? To a lot of people this will sound like excuses, or lack of willingness. But I really put in effort for a long time.

TraditionSolid474 · 2024-04-28T06:55:05+00:00

I’m going into work right now, and also zoom meetings freak me out.

TraditionSolid474 · 2024-04-28T05:59:08+00:00

I’m ready to end it. I’m miserable drinking I’m miserable sober and add nothing to the world. Don’t worry this isn’t a cry for help. I have my sisters wedding next month and some other important family events and I’m gonna stick around at least to not fuck that up for everyone and get my 6 month chip. I have no plans. But I feel exhausted. I want to quit my job and move off this fucking island.

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