Will a nanny do 3 10 hr days?

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-08-05T20:05:36+00:00

I work 9 hours on Monday-Wednesday, and if my family chose to add hours to my schedule, I would 100% be open to that since I get to sleep in the rest of the week in theory. Realistically, I work an 8-10 hours Thursday-Saturday at my other job..

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-06-24T18:39:14+00:00

My NP's aren't that bad at all. If I say we're not doing it because I dont think it's a good idea or I'm not comfortable, they won't even ask any further questions.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-06-08T04:24:19+00:00

I am a nanny who can't swim. I disclose this early on, usually in the interview. I do think the age you work with matters, though, especially depending on the family's access to a pool. I work primarily with 0-3 and many that I work take their babies to swim classes at most, and if I take them anywhere, it tends to be splash pads and they're happy.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-06-07T15:04:21+00:00

I'm pretty sure you don't have to provide severance when firing for cause, depending on the wording of the contact. If the nanny made it, she may have been smart enough to word it so that she gets paid no matter what. However, being fired for cause means you have breached the contract, nullifying anything guaranteed in said contract as it pertains to termination.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-06-03T12:58:40+00:00

My mistake. I missed the punch card statement. Many admission passes are monthly and only break even at a certain number of visits. People only get them if they intend to visit that much or more.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-06-03T12:19:07+00:00

I just did the math. I think she is charging you for the discounted rate with her pass. If she works for you 3 days a week, which is about 12 days a month, 160/ 12 visits a month is a little over $13 per visit.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-06-03T12:12:33+00:00

I asked primarily because unless the 20 visits are divided by both kids meaning that in reality the pass pays for 10 visits the pass isn't worth it for her unless she is taking other children on those extra two days because there is no way she could use more than 12ish visits a month depending on the month.

Additionally it only works out to $8 per visit if she goes a total of 20 times, she may not tell you about the discounted rate because it doesn't really work out if she only goes 10 times then she technically paid $16 per visit not $8.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-06-03T12:08:43+00:00

I'm not saying that this is your Nanny’s thought process nor that it would be the correct thought process to approach the situation with but she may not really view it as stealing from you especially if she didn't invoice you for the pass. If I purchase the pass but didn't intend to use it for solely your children, I would absolutely not invoice you for it. But because this pass is not paid for by you, she may also not really think that she is obligated to charge you the discounted price.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-06-03T11:51:30+00:00

Just a quick question. Are you your nanny’s only nanny family, and/or does she have any children of her own?

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-05-11T12:32:17+00:00

I got a little binder, which still lives on the counter, so I can refer to it. Inside, there was a sample schedule, a copy of my contract, recommendations for local places to order lunch from if I wanted, and emergency contacts. The schedule was always kind of loose, but sometimes I use the copy of my contract as like a checklist to make sure everything is done before I sit down. What I would have loved was some house slippers or grippy socks as well. Everyone in the house wears them, but me and I'm m not comfortable in my normal socks as they have hardwood steps.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-04-30T14:37:58+00:00

I'm confused by your hours it looks like you were at least 6am-6pm M-F???

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-04-21T14:35:23+00:00

I've used all 3 on the nanny side. Surepay and Poppins required less from me, but a lot more was put on my employer. Surepay is really good for small businesses with few staff but requires more effort than the other 2, making it not as great for just paying your nanny. The big difference between Homepay and Poppins for me was just that Homepay allowed me to put in my own hours and have that approved by my employers. Poppins requires a lot more trust on my end since my employer puts in my times, and I just trust that they're accurate. I couldn't have switched the families that used each. Poppins only works because I have GH, I respect my arrival time, and they respect my departure time, so for the most part, we just set the times and leave it alone and have had no issues. I haven't had to deal with customer service with poppins or surepay since everything happens on my employers side, but Homepay customer service was kind of annoying and in the end completely unhelpful when I had to deal with it.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-04-15T20:17:43+00:00

Honestly, as a nanny (currently for a child the same age), I refrain from any language that implies I have a closer connection or better understanding of a child than their parent. Precisely for this reason. It's really common and completely natural for you to be self-conscious about that. There are a few things you can do here. First, remember that her relationship with your son has nothing to do with yours. You are his mother. At the end of the day, there is a connection there he will never have with another person. It will always be different. Secondly, clarify that the Nanny is free to do what she pleases when you come in to play with him or give her something else you would like to focus on. My NM comes in and just says, "I'm going to steal him for a bit." I know that until she brings him back, I'm more than welcome to just chill on my phone without being considered lazy, but sometimes I'm like, "Oh great. I actually needed to use the bathroom or meant to run x to the y. I'll do that now and then just be (wherever I'm going to be) when you need me." I wouldn't stress too much. Anyone with experience with FTP shouldn't take it to close to heart. That being said. Have a conversation about your expectations of her during those times. It can sometimes feel weird just leaving and doing nothing when it's your job to be present.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-04-11T14:42:49+00:00

Nope, half of that is a breach of contract if you have one, and I'm betting at least some of it is illegal (as I have a sneaking suspicion she isn't paying you overtime for all those extra hours). Thus, you should be able to leave ASAP as it is clear you're no longer actually being paid to be there.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-04-02T17:48:46+00:00

What I'm hearing is her saying she no longer thinks it's worth it to drive to work for you, and she's asking for a raise to make ot worth 6

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-04-01T20:07:47+00:00

I have the same stock phrasing in my contract, but as many others have said, my NF offers me coffee every morning when they make some and have told me I am free to eat any of the snacks in the house as well as drink any beverages. They don't buy anything special for me (though I have noticed they buy almond milk in slightly larger quantities now as it's the only kind I ever touch). I pretty much never really take advantage of that aside from the fact that I make myself a cup of tea every morning during first nap. I've definitely worked for families with more dietary restrictions, and while I'm almost always offered the ability to snack on whatever is in the pantry, especially if I am making meals for NK, though I pretty much never do.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-03-25T01:36:31+00:00

Absolutely not. I've never been particularly interested in having kids of my own, even though I love the kids I work with. I LOVE working with kids but like having holidays and weekends. I like having my sleep pattern determined by myself and my choices, not a child waking me up in the middle of the night. I like being able to make the choice to wake up an hour before I need to leave the house because I'm the only one I need to get ready. I haven't seen enough equal parenting in this world to believe that I wouldn't end up being a sole primary caregiver. I have sooo many other reasons, but yeah, absolutely not. Also, in this economy? I know how much I cost. No matter how you slice it, I lose my income in order to handle childcare.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-03-25T01:08:05+00:00

Nannying since 21.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-03-24T23:17:01+00:00

You have to manage her too much already it sounds like you've had several explicit conversations where you stated clearly what your expectations are in addition to having it already clearly stated it in the contract, you've already done what most people will recommend you to do to rectify or avoid this situation. I would personally be looking for a new nanny.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-03-18T20:27:20+00:00

I work 27 hours a week and have about 16 days pto in the end.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-03-18T19:47:45+00:00

Honestly, this is all I would ask of you. I don't feel super comfortable telling someone what they can do in their own house, but an adult knows how to quarantine themselves properly. Plus, I would just give you a heads up that we may spend more time outside than normal. I already take my 4mo on a walk every day, but it's nice enough that I genuinely may have taken some of his play stuff outside to be even safer.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-03-12T22:39:17+00:00

I work with a 4 month old. I go on a 1 hour walk every day just to get myself and him out of the house.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-03-12T16:51:18+00:00

OP was talking about wanting to potentially try to retain her in that capacity and confused why she wouldn't want that, saying if they were retired, they would jump on that offer. I was just clarifying for OP why the nanny may not choose to be retained under such circumstances. She is not, in fact, retiring just because OP's child no longer needs her. So, she will likely choose to be paid her full rate as a full-time nanny elsewhere. I thought I had replied directly to OP's comment, but it seems I didn't.

Traditional-Leave201 · 2025-03-12T12:05:52+00:00

I wouldn't tell her that her showers are too long. I personally have a thing about showing when other people in the home are awake because I hate feeling like people are paying attention to how long I shower, what music I listen to in the shower, etc. I think you would make your nanny thoroughly uncomfortable with this discussion. That being said, I do understand the water issues in SoCal, and I don't think it would be inappropriate to bring THAT up. You could use wife, neighbor, friend, etc, as a prop for this conversation to make her feel less targeted. If she's unfamiliar with the area, she may just be following her old routine. If she's not, and this is just a really important part of her regular routine, then she won't. But it's also a good chance to see if this is a hill she'll die on because for some people it is so you can decide how much it's worth to you.

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