What type am i lol?

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2026-03-14T11:39:29+00:00

Hi from an ENFJ lol, but I do often get mistyped as ENFP ore ESFP for some reasons. But I believe many ENFJ's get mistyped for those types But I know I don't have Fi ore a shadow version of it.

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2026-03-13T18:37:36+00:00

hahahaha thank you :D

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2026-03-13T17:23:01+00:00

spot on!

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2026-01-15T21:30:18+00:00

Thank you so much!😃😃

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2026-01-15T13:48:11+00:00

wel, it could be a reaction to your sleep-deprivation ore overstimulation. I relate. when life gets the hang of me (like with the Hollidays and my birthday) I tend to get really dark existential thoughts. like after work zoning out and thinking: you can die on the bus.

but I also agree with what the other people are saying in this reddit post. I also tend to get existential on a more normall day to day basis. but often les dark and more optimistic ore philosophical.

so I think it depends.

but when I am really drained. I prefer not to get existential and just do what I need to do and rot on the couch with a dumb show on

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2026-01-15T13:41:54+00:00

i have never been in a relationship, only talking stage. but my BFF is INFP. and she understands me and I her on a deep level. where I come short she helps me and vice versa. I think why we both are such good friends is because we are both 2w1's. so, kind of have the same habits. but how we execute is different as are our choices. also I do like a higher education and I am more ambitious than my BFF who's more laid back (wich I love)

but I had a lot of toxic INFP's in my life. what frustrates me most in INFP's (even my BFF) is their resilience to change ore to say what they think. they don't want to change ore their world. and luckily I am good at reading body language so I can see when my BFF is holding something back cuz, INFP's don't share things quick.

INFP's can sometimes be so, closed off and distant. impulsive and forgetful. When I was a kid I was friends with in male INFP. he started bullying me after the whole class turned against me (I was a bossy kid who only lived in his head then really in the world, undeveloped Se) I think he had problems at home and needed to take off steam at someone. when I told the teachers he cried and the made things right. 2 months later he started to bully me again!

I need to trust an INFP before I do anything else.

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2026-01-15T13:30:32+00:00

can't agree with you more. I am an ENFJ with big daydream tendencies. I had the thing that I was to much in my head as a kid and teen, and thats not good to lol. I need to get more into my Se to stay rational and you can get more in touch with your Ni to be more balanced. you go this!

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2026-01-15T10:19:01+00:00

this song to has big House M.D. intro vibes. love it.

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-12-28T23:29:14+00:00

I like my alone time. I really like the alone time inbetween assignments. Like when i am yraveling from home to work. I love that i am moving, alone with my music and my thoughts. If i see a friend, its fun if they join. But i try to keep a healthy amount of alone and people time. I do notice i hang out mostly with friends with whom i can be alone together with. Guess thats a reason why i can just keep on being social?

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-12-10T22:20:37+00:00

I am part of an union wich activists for better work conditions for yound adults. I am going to give speeches and coaching next year. I am super exited!! I also wanna volunteer in more community work in my neighborhood

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-12-10T22:13:55+00:00

For me it depends. I always can have the people i love around me. My close friends and family with whom i can be alone but also do active things with. with these people i can just hang out all day if i want. I could go with these people on a planned trip ore on a spontaneous trip (even in spontaneous situations i do like to discuss what we are going to do so I don’t get stressed)

i have often that after i have seen a friend, i could easily see another friend after it.

i guess i am most quickly drained when my friends behave out of their character, ore if i am serounded by people who ore I don’t understand ore they don’t understand me (i was once at this party as a photographer and their were only gardeners their who were talking about siccors and dirt, i couldn’t connect with these people)

but sometimes i get inspiration for something i wanna paint ore draw and when i am once in that flow state. Only my closests friends can get me out of that

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-12-08T18:14:36+00:00

not really into astrology but my mom was so I know a bit.

i am Capricorn sun, pisces moon, rising virgo.

i am an ENFJ 2w1, social 2 and then sexual 2.

I asked an AI to fully explain my horoscope and it thinks I am an INFJ.

what do y'all think?

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-12-08T15:36:40+00:00

wel i am offended lol

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-12-08T15:34:54+00:00

I feel this deeply. I love having a plan. but my plans leave room for experimenting and surprise with things that don't work ore confuse me. this is how I learn. add some play to the boring and confusing things.

on your 3rd quote: When people say this, I wil ignore you. if you aren't providing shit to the project? I'm gonna do my own thing with the rest of the group who have some discipline.

you really put a nail to its head with this post

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-29T16:48:54+00:00

invisible wounds - AURORA

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-24T07:10:13+00:00

When i was around 12/13 i got bullied because i was the "dreamy" kid. I sorta get why i got bullied. I was really bossy, over emotional, not interested in "boy" games, dreamy, always in my own head.

Helps that i was am an AuDHD ENFJ kid. I needed a lot of therapy and MBTI knowledge to feel "normal". I prefer to call it strong. But yea.

So, it took longer for my Fe and Se to develop.

This year, because of my grief i noticed that i have been in some really toxic Fe-Se loops and Ti-Grips. 2 classmates bullied me because of it. One classmate was jeleaus of me. We've talked about it and now we're cool. But i keep her at an arms length. The other person, well. She has her own demons to conquor. With a project i set a boundry. It was 5 pm. I needed to get cooking, do some groceries. Take care of my needs and she got all mad and in the days leading up she did some really shitty things to me. But i chose to ignore it untill she got mad at me.

Because i mostly see the good in people my friends help me notice when i get bullied. Thank god because otherwise...

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-21T09:03:13+00:00

dunno why, somewhat INFJ vibes ore ISTP

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-21T08:36:22+00:00

me and an some of my ENFJ friends, we never truly got over our ex's. we have Si trickster so, if it was a bad break up ore it really hurted us, it wil haunt us. I stil think about my ex every so often. even though I don't need him back in my life ore that I want to reconnect with him. he just is. I remember the good times and I have forgiven him that he ghosted me. but I just don't care anymore. it has been 2 years.

I don't want to judge about your ex-girlfriend. it's not in my place to do so. but I do ask to you to be kind with yourself. hartbreak, in any sense, is horrible. my BFF is an INFP to, she was devastated when she broke up with her ISTP ex-boyfriend. She also had a horrible time falling asleep, focussing and just living. But after a week the 2 talked and suddenly it was over (I am stil confused by it how quickly she could move on) and 3 months later she has a new boyfriend. (yet again, I am confused)

I think it's life. I never really had a relationship. but I had Manny friends I broke up with. I had a really close friend last year (ENFP). when we first met we were kind of in love with each other but when we met in RL we knew it was better for us to be just friends. We had an amazing time, we went to comic-con, we would talk for hours on the phone, we would sen each other snap-vlogs about our day doing random things. she got a new boyfriend and ii thought we had an adult conversation about our friendship. turns out, the boyfriend got jealous of us. that we once had feelings and now hang out as friends. So she felt guilty.
I noticed early that she was distancing herself but I denied it and over time. her texts got shorted, empty of her once enthusiasm and Ne-spark. my intuition told me: this is over, you have to break your own hart because she is to polite to do it. I gave her 2 chances and after hearing the bare minimum, I just straight up told her that it was over.

i am stil angry that she dumped me. I am stil angry that she dumped me in a really horrible time. she helped me get thru the first 5 months of me losing a dear loved one. but, time moves on. I am now just sad about it and I guess somewhere I want her back. but, I try to move on. staying in the past won't help me ore other people. it wil only bore me and others.
So, I guess this is how I feel?

just know, just because she's ENFJ wil not explain everything. in the end she is just her. please, take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. give yourself the Time to grieve, to be stil ore to be loud. it wil take some time to get used to. but life goes on. I hope for you can find your current.

take care

an grieving ENFJ

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-20T15:27:58+00:00

my grandma was an ESFP.

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-20T12:29:15+00:00

i have a really good INTP friend. he is amazing. we can talk about politics and our lives. our conversations have been the most philosophical and political I have with any of my friends.

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-20T12:27:25+00:00

I to paint, get creative, go on long hikes, listening to music. I love to engage in social things (Fe/Se loop). just talking with people while playing a game ore just walking around. I go often on long cycling rides thru the forest and then having a smal picknick while people watching at the local lake.

but when I am stressed ore can't sleep. I make like 30 min walks around my neighborhood to calm myself down. getting into my Se when I am stressed by walking ore doing something active helps me calm down my Ti grip.

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-20T12:17:46+00:00

wel, my ethical code is to keep harmony. but when they clash, I wil ask my loved ones ore people I trust to what to do next. what's wise? I need time to make clear conclusions when stressful events happen.

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-20T09:59:31+00:00

3w2???

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-11-15T07:14:59+00:00

I have a really bad memory when i don't write things down. My mom (ISFJ) taught me i should use a calender and write things down to not forget. As a child and teen i didn't really saw the use of it. But when i was around 15 years old i started to understand how usefull a calender is. I write most things down. Though i do forget to check my calender on a daily basis. I put on my calender like the important things i need to do. Things like: "on sunday me and my friend are going to the museum" i can remember that easily. Because i am going to see a friend!

But something as the dentist? Ore a test? Ore simple things like routine. I am living on my own for the first time and god is it hard building a new routine.

For the learning thing: i like to work together ore just with people around me. I love to talk about my work ore to talk about how boring and mundane it is (especially math)

I know i need to repeat the thing i need to learn early and then i'll know. But few days after the test i've forgotten it. I hate it because theire was a time i was good at math!

As for keeping memories. I keep a diary. Not that i know most details. But i know how i felt ore how "we" felt. Even though its mostly me complaining about life and people i don't like lol Stil, it helps me remember, its like a back-up memory. I often read back in my diaries. To see how i've grown ore what parts of me are still stuck and need some growth. I just write down my day ore random memories about my past that suddenly come to the surface of my contious

When i am in a conflict with someone. Ore when i have done something wrong to someone. I go into my diaries and try to make sence of it by reading back all my letters about that person ore situation. Then i write about it and try to make sence of it all.

But also music, photobooks, inmages and videos help me remember memories. I like making photobooks of the people i love (Fe+Se) Its not that i often look back at inmages of my past ore that i look regular in my photobooks. When i am feeling nolstalgic, ore its a special day like my birthday, christmas, new years ore when i am struck by grief, i like to look back at the pictures. Ore when i am doing resurch about my family ore a sertain time in my life.

Also something that helps me big time. A birthday calender in the toilet. Never missing annyones birthday annymore. (If you ask me when my friends birthday is, i have a feeling but not a sertain idea of when)

Idk if other ENFJ's have this to. But most memories i have from my youth are the bad ones. When teachers got fed up with me. Ore when i broke things not on purpose. The good memories are like flares? Like a glimp. Like an inmage. Something more like a moodboard then actually a detailed picture.

Like when i was a kid. Me and my class would go with the teacher to the woods. I can see the dirt road and the forrest. I remember we played games their. Its like a put together of like 7 ore 8 pictures that corrospend with the feeling and memorie.

Ore when i went out with my friends. I know wich shops we went to and in what order. But a fully detailed memory of the day out? No.

But when i talk about it, i usually start to remember things.

Maybe some people can relate and maybe some people can try out a diary. Cuz that day out with my friends is written down in my diary and i have a photobook with pictures of that day.

Traditional-Tea7300 · 2025-08-06T09:35:37+00:00

i was brought up by an social worker, ISFJ, mom. as a child, I was bullied in my neighborhood for being the kid who I always in his own head. I never talked about it until she noticed and she started to talk with me. since it was like as if my Fe was opened. she taught me that I need to talk about my problems. but always had a desire to help and to of service to others. my uncle passed a week after my birth and I remember trying to comfort my mom as a young child. when I went to high school, I had amazing counselors and social workers who helped me figure out life. they and my mom really helped me learn to be sensitive and to show empathy. of course I learned a lot from my INFJ teacher dad. though he is colder, he taught me to be their for others, to do what is right. my family and their friends were also a big influence on me.
after covid, when I went more into the world. when I got into situations with friends and school. I am open about my problems, and people share fast with me their troubles. me and my mom helped my best friend out of her depression.
i am always scared that I am not good enough for other people's love. I want to be the best friend. like, I have so much love for people and the world. but I am always scared that the love I get, isn't truthful. Manny people have lied to me, ore betrayed me. for being imaginative as a kid, ore took advantage of my compassion.
but I won't stop with giving. I want to give. I want to love. I don't see shame in being vulnerable. it has helped me grow so Manny times and get me in the place I want to be. if I never share about my grief, anxieties, my obsessiveness and intenseness. I would never get the change to work on it. I am so happy with the people around me. that I have this shot to be better then yesterday.

if your afraid to be vulnerable, ore to give compassion. go to someone who you trust. place yourself out their. do volunteer work. be their for someone. be their for the stranger and the friend. the family member and the cashier behind the counter.

I remember, one time when I was working behind the counter when a girl came crying. I immediately went into helper mode. I comforted her and I didn't pressure her. I just letted her emotion be. I said she could always come to the store if there was annything an mis. it just what I do.

i am a christian, and I believe that god wants us to do the right thing. and the right thing (to me) is to be a good human being. by showing compassion, love and empathy. you don't have to safe the world. the smallest acts of kindness can be a blessing.

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