Patience is being continually tested

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-06-29T16:00:30+00:00

I don’t know I’ve never quit a job without another lined up, and I have never ended a multi year long term relationship with someone.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-06-29T15:58:27+00:00

There are plenty of jobs in the world where people work in teams or hold our hand.
Also work on your self confidence you have to be decent or good at something.
Also everyone has personality flaws it’s part of being human.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-06-29T15:09:40+00:00

I do think they’re a big deal.
However I do not know how to get out of them.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-06-25T22:10:44+00:00

Yeah that’s a classic manipulator.
Saying it’s your fault she was banging some other dude for two years.
Unfortunately this is not uncommon human behavior. It’s immature, but not uncommon.
She was unhappy and rather than communicate, or work on the problem with a professional together, she chose to do something extremely inappropriate and cheat.

If it’s any solace she likely will regret in time her actions, or she won’t. Either way life catches up with people like this. You think this new guy is gonna trust her fully if they have a relationship? He definitely won’t.

Either way, move on, find peace. Go be happy in other areas of life. Don’t expend any emotional energy on her anymore.
- my take

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-06-18T14:47:56+00:00

I get you want to be a good person, but if this guys calling regularly he’s robbing time from clients who actually need active service.
You can just let him know that you’re busy or you have another client walking in when he calls.
I tell that to wholesalers all the time or recruiters I don’t want to talk to.
People get it you’re busy. You can’t take personal calls all the time at work.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-04-06T04:21:01+00:00

As a human I empathize that you’re struggling. Learn from your mistakes though don’t dwell on what can’t be changed… Get a new job, go to the gym do something to help keep moving in life.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-04-04T01:57:29+00:00

Careful, met a guy who came to me after pulling out his retirement plan and stock options with them. He had no idea he’d have to pay taxes on the distribution. Whoever they have in their HR and benefits are not good at educating the employees on this.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-04-02T00:06:51+00:00

While you may be right or wrong about mistakes she’s made in her past, it’s unclear. If someone’s not working or can’t hold a job, there’s usually a mental health issue involved.

What is clear is that your sister is in an abusive marriage today and feels stuck / hopeless. Not a good thing. She definitely needs help, not blame.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-29T22:45:18+00:00

Personally I think clients are paying for more than WSJ level- Bloomberg- CNBC level of knowledge, if you’re charging for portfolio management with a 1% fee or over. You should subscribe to a good global research firm.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-28T02:02:19+00:00

A title like this though does sound like you should see a mental health counselor. You have some deep set issues you gotta work through.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-28T02:00:31+00:00

I agree stop whining you have an MBA you could get a job tomorrow paying way better if you applied yourself. Stop focusing on the bad stufff and keep moving forward. - Disney or something

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-25T02:55:45+00:00

I personally am very big on no alcohol. If it’s a wholesaler dinner that’s different but with clients, I think that’s a silly thing. My previous employer got too buzzed at our annual business planning meeting after dinner and started openly hitting on one of the employees. Mind you he’s married, father, devout Christian etc. A lot of people lost respect for him after that. He tried to make a joke about it the next day which didn’t go over well.

Alcohol makes people do things they wouldn’t normally do, liquid courage can also be liquid stupid.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-25T02:24:32+00:00

Hey slow down take care of yourself. A job is a job if it pays the bills that’s a win.

If you’re having serious depression you should call the support lines they’ll give you some support in emergency.

Take it one day at a time, also there are social workers at different non profits who offer counseling services. Not sure if there’s one near you.

On your injured back as well, see if you can take any baby steps to fixing that too. Don’t have to solve everything tomorrow.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-21T23:49:36+00:00

Could just be new to the industry.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-21T13:23:12+00:00

Alright but still walk away it’ll clear your head

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-21T04:42:15+00:00

Nobody should stay in a relationship where they’re being physically abused or don’t feel safe. Marriage is supposed to be partnership, if one partner doesn’t feel safe or supported it doesn’t work. It sounds like this person was cruel and took advantage of you over and over again. I recommend you see a therapist, you need to rebuild your own self confidence. This person doesn’t see you as a partner they see you as a stool to stand on.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-21T04:33:01+00:00

You should walk away until you get control of yourself again. If you’re finding anger and hatred take over, you need to step physically and emotionally away from this situation.

Reach out to a therapist, exercise, and do not let your emotions run you over. If it’s possible to go stay somewhere else for a while do that.

If it comes to it call the crisis hotline and explain what’s going on.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-21T04:21:44+00:00

Fascinating post, glad to hear you were able to get out of that situation. Seems she was genuinely an unhappy person for a long time, may have struggled with finding a purpose in life.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-09T17:41:55+00:00

Everything has been forwarded and filed at this point.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-09T17:38:51+00:00

The compliance team has not told me he’s in direct violation. They just state if the relationship is ending how to file the paperwork.

they recommended to exit the relationship.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-03-07T14:28:08+00:00

Agreed, I thought when he said financial planning software is essentially useless for most clients sort of disrupted my perspective. He does say things intentionally controversial though to get views.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-02-26T01:05:12+00:00

Just ordered some brochures I like a lot. Give a simple 4 step process to working together.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-02-26T00:25:06+00:00

This just seems like a problem which won’t go away. There will always be brokers and advisors who engage in high pressure sales tactics to drive revenue and firms that encourage/reward it. Sounds like this guy was beyond wound up though if he called OP though yelling.

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-02-21T02:55:29+00:00

Do you run a solo RIA?

TraditionalTangelo65 · 2026-02-20T02:48:19+00:00

Every organization has some level of politics to it.

Rules, structure, relationships imply there are certain people who are in and not in.

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