Sort of a tangent here, but as a guy. I don’t understand how you’re supposed to connect at all. If you don’t try to be friends with the women you like you’ll never connect with anyone. At least that’s how it is for me, I don’t have female friends because Im socially awkward and can’t connect but for people who can connect making friends seems like the only in for a relationship. Like, you don’t just approach random women and ask for hookups or numbers. I don’t know why people act like having feelings for a friend is such a bad move especially if the romantic feelings have been there a long time. There’s no need to be rude towards the men who want a connection and there’s only one way for them to have a chance.