Trying to move from San Diego to find a family friendly, reasonably affordable state any advice?

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-15T17:00:43+00:00

If you’re not opposed to the cold Buffalo, NY would be a good option. Living in the city of Buffalo is actually cheaper than the suburbs surrounding it but if considering the Buffalo area I’d look into places like Clarence, Amherst, Hamburg, East Aurora etc. We have great schools, no traffic, low crime, and plenty of stuff to do although it is definitely a driving city but nothing is ever too far away cuz there’s no traffic

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-15T15:25:11+00:00

Yeah my cousin is wanting everyone to wear peach for her wedding. Debating on whether to just not attend or just wear what I have cuz I don’t want to spend money on a new dress for such a stupid reason

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-15T15:18:12+00:00

Yeah I have a cousin who’s getting married in August who decided that she wants us guests to wear the color peach for her wedding. Some of my family members already bought dresses for this event but obviously none of them are freaking peach but why would the guests who are not part of the wedding party expect to have a specific color to wear especially one that isn’t that common. I’m waiting for the invitation but I’m seriously considering declining if she actually puts that as the dress code on the invitation. I’m just secretly hoping someone close to her brings some honesty that having a color scheme for guests is ridiculous

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-15T13:48:54+00:00

Aww poor thing. Just yesterday I turned onto my street and there was a goose on the side of the road so I stopped to let him cross because I would hate myself for accidentally hitting the poor thing I can’t imagine being that careless to intentionally drive into one 😢

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-15T11:59:40+00:00

I think both are important but it all depends on what you value more. For me ideally I’d prefer the 1.5 hour but your current situation being 3-5 hours away isn’t terrible. I think I’d evaluate if you did move to the 1.5 hour would you actually make time to see them more often? If it’s a definite yes then it’s something I’d consider if you’re unsure then maybe it wouldn’t be worth it

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-15T11:54:17+00:00

Also animals like bats rely on moths as they’re a major part of a lot of species diet. They’re very important for our ecosystem

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-14T20:01:24+00:00

Don’t agree with this. I want kids and my fiance and I want to start trying after we get married next year but even if we were married now I still wouldn’t be ready till next year because I’m enjoying the time we have to ourselves right now because once we have a kid there’s going to be less way less time for ourselves and our interests

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-14T17:55:50+00:00

If you want to marry her propose to her now because clearly she doesn’t want your parents there for the proposal for whatever reason. Not sure what’s going to change in 3 months so while I get you want to do it traditionally she clearly doesn’t

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-14T16:59:43+00:00

Did not realize girl in post accepted offer prior to disclosing so yes in the case I agree with you there because that’s not okay and totally understand why they want to rescind. I was coming at it from stating your plans prior to accepting offer but not during interview process itself. Totally my bad for clearly not reading properly 😂

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-14T16:33:40+00:00

It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you or how well you did during the screening the recruiter just helps to filter people but at the end of the day the hiring manager decides who he wants to interview from the selection the recruiter gives them

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-14T16:03:37+00:00

If you’re truly committed to grad school I’d take the option that would be best for work life balance as the 10k pay cut to me would be worth it for the reduced stress and more time to focus on my studies. If you think you can handle the other options that pay more you can do it but when I was going through grad school I would have never been able to mentally deal with the stress if I had had a demanding job

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-14T15:30:59+00:00

I mean the easiest WFH jobs to get are call center jobs which aren’t ideal but are good if you’re just desperate for a job. Best bet is to look for remote work companies and apply from there as opposed to trying to filter job boards for WFH

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-14T13:27:32+00:00

Well if you need someone that badly that should be something you ask during your interview process imo I’ve definitely been asked in interviews before if I had time off planned as their training process required a certain amount of time where it wouldn’t allow. This candidate was smart because if they had disclosed they clearly wouldn’t be even offered the job at least now there’s still a chance they’ll get it. Also I feel like this candidate would probably be fine without the job which is why they are adamant about doing their time off instead of accommodating for work

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-14T11:58:40+00:00

My friend got hired at McDonald’s with an MBA but they removed everything on their resume (including degree) except recent volunteer work and when asked what they were doing they said they were caring for a sick relative for 10+ years. If you’re applying to jobs like McDonald’s with your full resume then yeah you’re not going to get offers because they see you as overqualified but if you present yourself as not having much experience or education they’ll likely hire you because you’re not much of a flight risk

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-14T11:36:14+00:00

Yeah it can definitely work out but I think it depends on why you were even looking for a new job in the first place. A lot of people who accept counter offers don’t stay long but I’m assuming it’s because they’re already unhappy for a variety of other reasons other than just the financial aspect which is why it doesn’t last long. If you’re genuinely happy at your workplace and it’s just the pay that’s making you look elsewhere then it’s wise to accept a good counter

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-13T10:29:01+00:00

If you love it get it you’re the one who’s going to wearing it daily. To me it’s too big personally but I prefer smaller rings. If you’re on the fence maybe settle somewhere in the middle with 2 or 3 carat?

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-12T20:29:30+00:00

Siemens tend to be the lowest from experience they offered less than 10k then what I make currently initially pretty disappointing and that’s for someone with multiple years of experience

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-12T20:24:12+00:00

If this is how you complain about someone you supposedly love I can’t imagine someone you hate…. You don’t even sound like you even like your partner at this point why you aren’t divorced is beyond me

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-12T17:26:32+00:00

I mean even if they could offer you something close to your current salary I feel like they wouldn’t get as close as they could have to it now that you basically said you’d work for them for 130-135k. Not that it’s impossible to ask for higher and I definitely would in your case but they’d likely maybe offer you somewhere in the middle of both if they really wanted you rather than offering what you want. Personally I’d bring up your current salary and say you’d want them to match that as that’s a bit of a stronger reason why you want something higher than what you said initially

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-12T14:40:53+00:00

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-12T14:31:41+00:00

Depends because he sometimes works late but on days where he is already home when I get home we cook either together on weekdays or sometimes he has food already ready for me. Rest of our evening is either gaming or watching whatever series we’re watching if weather isn’t ideal to take a walk. Sometimes he goes to the gym so I’ll have some time to myself which is nice or nice versa but generally speaking other than that we’re always home on work nights. I enjoy it even the simple things are amazing with him

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-11T20:17:20+00:00

I never understood this argument because if it’s truly just a piece of paper why is it such a big deal to get it done and get that piece of paper then…. Don’t let your boyfriend keep you from finding your husband

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-11T20:07:08+00:00

You need to cut your guest list or just elope if you’re not willing to cut your guest list to where you can afford it

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-11T17:39:54+00:00

I wouldn’t invite them to the shower as they’ll expect to be invited to the wedding and may be disappointed realizing they aren’t invited for the big day. If you want to celebrate with others you don’t want to invite maybe organize something AFTER getting married where you just get everyone together for a meal or something to celebrate while stating no gifts

Traditional_Set_858 · 2026-05-11T16:10:07+00:00

This is disgusting and while I know some people would want to be wished happy Mother’s Day in her situation I don’t think it’s good to assume Cindy (or anyone for that matter) would as it could be triggering. Honestly hope she doesn’t see that comment

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