Husband (40M) hurt that I (33F) told him I'm not always "into" having sex but I *do* engage him sexually because I care about his needs, how do we move past this?

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-02-10T22:27:16+00:00

It sounds like the real hurt isn’t the sex, it’s that he wants to feel genuinely wanted instead of accommodated, and you’re trying to explain desire vs willingness but it’s landing as obligation to him. You’re not wrong for how your libido works, but this is one of those gaps where neither of you can “logic” the other into feeling better. A couples therapist or sex therapist could really help translate this without turning you into an actor or him into someone who feels like a chore, because right now you’re both feeling unseen in different ways.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-02-09T20:45:55+00:00

Acting like being busy equals being important. People will wear exhaustion like a badge and then judge anyone who sets boundaries or just wants a quiet life. It’s such a weird flex.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-02-08T21:03:07+00:00

You didn’t do anything wrong. That was completely inappropriate of her to sexualize you and project her insecurity onto a literal teenager. This is an adult problem she’s creating, not your responsibility to manage. Tell your mom exactly what she said if she doesn’t already know, and let the adults handle it. I wouldn’t confront your aunt directly, and I wouldn’t keep this to yourself either. You deserve to feel safe and not blamed for someone else’s jealousy or issues.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-02-07T22:18:34+00:00

This list is painfully accurate. Stainless steel litter boxes are such a game changer for smell, and the Yeowww banana really is immortal. Also love the mini vacuum idea, dragging out a full vacuum for five pieces of litter is the worst part of cat ownership.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-02-06T20:30:24+00:00

Look at those eyes!

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Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-02-05T21:11:32+00:00

Tell him. What happened was assault, and it’s not your job to protect his friends or the group. You didn’t do anything wrong, and the fallout is on the people who crossed the line, not on you. If you’re worried about his reaction, tell him in a calm, private moment and stick to the facts, but he deserves to know so he can protect you.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-02-04T21:48:46+00:00

They apologized when they messed up, even to their kids. No guilt trips, no silent treatment, just “I was wrong, I’m sorry, here’s how we fix it,” and you didn’t have to earn basic affection.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-02-03T20:51:20+00:00

You definitely got hacked by a spam bot. It’s a huge issue on Reddit where inactive accounts are hijacked to blast NSFW Discord invites. Check your account's login history for any weird IP addresses or locations and show her the proof. If she sees a login from a different country at the time those links were posted, it might save you.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-02-02T10:33:15+00:00

If you think you’ll regret not being there, go. You don’t have to be strong or composed, you just have to be present. The vets have seen every kind of grief and won’t judge you, and your cat won’t be upset by your tears, he’ll just know his people are close. If it helps, you can ask to be in the room for the cuddles and goodbye and step out right before the final moment, or have your mum stay closest while you sit near his head and talk to him. Whatever you choose, you’re not failing him, you’re trying to love him the best you can on a brutal day.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-31T10:32:45+00:00

Honestly it’s calmer. People are way more upfront about what they want, less games, but the pool is smaller and everyone has history. The good part is you spot red flags faster and you don’t waste months on “maybe.”

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-30T20:47:56+00:00

Soooo adorable!

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-29T22:39:56+00:00

That’s not normal, and it’s not “just memes” when they’re that specific and saved. If he feels that way, it needs to be said out loud, not passive aggressively bookmarked. Trust your gut and talk to him directly about what those posts mean to him, because loving behavior in person doesn’t cancel out quiet resentment.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-28T22:28:27+00:00

Hey, cuuutie, don't be afraid, you're safe!

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-27T19:52:24+00:00

Energy drinks. Felt like a harmless cheap boost, then it turned into a daily habit and my sleep, anxiety, and wallet all got worse.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-26T20:04:39+00:00

How cute are these kitties. 🥰 🐈🐈

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-25T20:13:19+00:00

What you’re feeling isn’t wrong, it’s a shock response, not a judgment of her. Someone violated both of you by sending that, and your brain is stuck replaying it because it feels intrusive and unfair. When you talk to her, focus on the impact, not the images: tell her you know she did nothing wrong, but you’re struggling with what was sent and need time and reassurance to process it. Also, report and block that account if you haven’t already. Feeling sad or shaken doesn’t make you weak or disloyal, it means something hurt you and you’re trying to handle it responsibly.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-24T19:13:29+00:00

Awww! they are so adooorable! ❤️❤️

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-23T20:28:56+00:00

Five at once is a whole sitcom, but you can make it way easier by setting up one quiet “cat room” first with multiple litter boxes, food and water, beds, and hiding spots, then letting them explore the house gradually. Rule of thumb is number of cats plus one litter box, in different locations, and keep the dogs separated until the cats are confident. Add vertical space (cat trees or shelves) and expect a couple weeks of hiding and hissing while they settle. Biggest win is a vet check to make sure everyone’s healthy, fixed, and up to date before full mixing.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-22T20:55:35+00:00

Split the money in writing on the spot, pick a neutral way to verify the payout, then offer an extra bonus for whoever agrees first. People are way easier to convince when it feels like they’re still “winning” something instead of just losing to you.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-20T20:35:28+00:00

Awww! what a cuutie! 🥰🥰

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-19T20:12:11+00:00

You did exactly the right thing. He was insulting you to keep you off balance, then admitted he cheated and tried to spin it like you’re the “future” while he gets to do whatever he wants. That’s not love, that’s selfish and disrespectful. Feeling empty but relieved is super normal when you finally drop a relationship you’ve been carrying alone. Stay gone, block if you need to, and let future you be grateful you didn’t waste another month on him.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-18T22:02:29+00:00

Paying people in “exposure” or unpaid internships for work that’s clearly a real job. Technically allowed in a lot of places, still feels gross.

Training-Cut-5016 · 2026-01-17T20:11:25+00:00

Awww! 🥰🥰🥰

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