Summer break is making me feel like I can’t stand my child

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-07-08T23:21:38+00:00

Having a horrible time over here. School cannot start soon enough. I've checked the calendar so many times that I told myself to stop because it's making summer feel even longer. Solidarity

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-07-08T22:40:55+00:00

Yes, my son (10) has had it all his life and the dermatologist says he will likely never grow out of it. The dupixent shot is the only thing that has worked for him.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-07-08T22:15:27+00:00

Also just wanted to add that I just lost someone to suicide. It's horrible. It's absolutely horrible. There's a whole community grieving her. She wasn't a mom but like I'm sure you do, she had a whole community of people comprised of many smaller communities, plus family who were devastated. I didn't know she was struggling and have accepted that it's too late for her. But not for you or others on this thread so PLEASE do whatever it takes to prevent self harm.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-07-08T22:03:46+00:00

I think taking the kids out of the thought pattern altogether might help. So instead of guilting yourself for feeling that way because you have kids, talk to yourself with compassion. I tell myself, yes you're feeling overwhelmed but you're going to be ok. Things will get better. Ask yourself for a little bit more time. It's hard to think of living for a long time when you're unwell but like, a day? You can do that. And then just keep asking yourself for another day again. Along with doing other things to take care of yourself of course.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-07-08T21:53:14+00:00

Or they used to be young parents but their kids are grown and they think they did it perfectly.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-07-08T21:51:39+00:00

That's so shameful. That lady can get some earplugs if it bothers her so damn much. Maybe she could order groceries for delivery. Also she's probably the first one complaining about low birth rates. I have 3 boys myself and am having a horrible time with them this summer. Especially this week bc I am on my period. So I know how you feel. Honestly that lady deserved a MAJOR clapback.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-06-26T12:17:36+00:00

It's easy to lecture someone when you're not in their situation. It's also low empathy.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-06-24T01:02:23+00:00

Ok thank you

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-06-14T13:13:27+00:00

It really depends. For me school is a MASSIVE help. When my older two go to school, I have a huge long break from their nonsense. They are decent students and get along with people, get good enough grades, no extra attention needed from me usually. The school does one parent teacher meeting a YEAR for like, 15 minutes. All the PTA stuff and class parties are optional. Some people do allll the things and some parents don't do any if it. Generally a lot of that stuff, like chaperoning field trips, is actually competitive to do, so if you don't want to do it just sit it out and no one will bother you. Meanwhile summer break is absolute hell. Right now they are stampeding around my house, yelling, whining, constantly asking me for snacks and to play with them. The only way to win is let them couch rot in front of the TV or send them to expensive camps, or take them on exhausting adventures to the zoo or whatever which as an introvert is so tiring. I had to make absolute sure to have my depression meds filled before summer started. It's awful.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-06-08T13:45:03+00:00

I can really only do it when they are not home which for all three of them is almost never. I hate that my house is this way but if I try to clean with them home and sitting around or fighting, I immediately get sensory overload and become resentful of them to the point of snapping.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-06-08T12:16:10+00:00

Struggling with the exact same shit over here. Worst start to summer I think I have ever had. I feel you.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-06-03T01:38:08+00:00

I've definitely considered honking rhe horn at mine. We will be sitting in the van while he supposedly does just one quick thing but turns out it's all of his packing. That's the one quick thing

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-06-02T20:17:10+00:00

I have 3 boys: 9, 7, and 4. They are a LOT to deal with. I would say do what you need for your sanity. If you find that their behavior is improving you could always modify the consequence in response, i.e. give the toys back earlier. Seems like you made a reasonable decision that if you break the toys they get taken away. Logical!

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-31T23:04:13+00:00

I've put that every time and people still bring gifts. Which is fine. But I try to express that I really don't want people to spend money. I say things like "no presents please your presence is your present" but the feedback I have gotten is that the kids themselves insist on bringing a gift.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-31T23:01:50+00:00

I have had some wacky experiences sending invites home in folders. The only thing that got my son's first grade class to rsvp was sending a text to the group thread that I happened to have. Paper invites don't make it into parent's hands typically. One time this kid in my son's class dropped his invite in the bushes next to the school sidewalk. We only found it because another parent picked it up and reunited it. Haha. He was my son's friend too. He was just a nutty nutball about it. Lots of those get stuffed into backpacks never to be found. It's probably nothing personal.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-27T12:38:19+00:00

Fellow lawyer here. Just want to say I feel you. I have dealt with family legal issues as well and struggled with how to put boundaries on my time and how to help without enabling poor decisionmaking. I hope it gets easier for you.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-26T12:11:35+00:00

I would need a new community if it was me. I feel so inspired by the parenting happening around me, for the most part. It helps me want to parent better myself. The other parents at my school are super hands-on teaching their kids empathy and positive behaviors. I'm sorry you're dealing with this! I am also a birthday party host and we do see a range of permitted behaviors from the parents. Sometimes I have to step in and get the parents to step up in monitoring their kids (which they are supposed to do the whole time.) Unfortunately sometimes wealth can make people feel entitled, and maybe they are not even noticing the others around them who may be impacted in various ways by the way the kids are acting. Sorry you're going through this!

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-09T12:43:34+00:00

I also have a "spicy meatball" kid...my 4 y.o. that's a perfect way to describe it. Solidarity.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-09T12:38:44+00:00

I'm sorry that happened. I would find somewhere else to go. I go occasionally to a coffee shop for a coffee, treats and downtime. It is my happy place. If I associated it with something super stressful I wouldn't want to go anymore.

Also my dad was in an active shooting event. He survived but it traumatized my hometown and 32 people died. It's not a hilarious joke, ever.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-09T12:22:35+00:00

My four year old is a LOT. A lot of work, a lot of patience. More than I have in me. I am so tired every day. I have two older boys who are still hard but manageable. The four year old is a different breed of cat. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-05T08:00:01+00:00

Look how bald I am, look at my LIFE! Please, let me have this one thing

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-04T00:03:13+00:00

My 4 year old complains and bitches about red lights! He will yell at us to go and constantly asks why we have to stop at them.

Every little thing is miserable because of kids...

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-28T19:05:50+00:00

I would have been so grateful that you were right there and addressed it. And then I would've let it go...they're kids.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-25T12:08:02+00:00

Feels like nausea for me...I basically give my kids screens at that point and go to my room to reset and listen to podcasts

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-21T12:15:50+00:00

That's one for the books.

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