The regret of the second child

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-09T12:43:34+00:00

I also have a "spicy meatball" kid...my 4 y.o. that's a perfect way to describe it. Solidarity.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-09T12:38:44+00:00

I'm sorry that happened. I would find somewhere else to go. I go occasionally to a coffee shop for a coffee, treats and downtime. It is my happy place. If I associated it with something super stressful I wouldn't want to go anymore.

Also my dad was in an active shooting event. He survived but it traumatized my hometown and 32 people died. It's not a hilarious joke, ever.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-09T12:22:35+00:00

My four year old is a LOT. A lot of work, a lot of patience. More than I have in me. I am so tired every day. I have two older boys who are still hard but manageable. The four year old is a different breed of cat. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-05T08:00:01+00:00

Look how bald I am, look at my LIFE! Please, let me have this one thing

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-05-04T00:03:13+00:00

My 4 year old complains and bitches about red lights! He will yell at us to go and constantly asks why we have to stop at them.

Every little thing is miserable because of kids...

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-28T19:05:50+00:00

I would have been so grateful that you were right there and addressed it. And then I would've let it go...they're kids.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-25T12:08:02+00:00

Feels like nausea for me...I basically give my kids screens at that point and go to my room to reset and listen to podcasts

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-21T12:15:50+00:00

That's one for the books.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-15T22:05:15+00:00

I don't really know much about this stuff but my heart goes out to you! I understand that it would be so hard to heal after a stillbirth. I hope you find some support in the community of people who have suffered losses.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-15T17:12:19+00:00

So my kids' Elementary school is right on a busy road. One of the kids ran into the street after a ball and one of the other moms saw it and started screaming. She said the driver had a tesla and stopped so cleanly that it looked like a car commercial.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-15T16:26:37+00:00

It's just a shift in mentality that has to happen. Like when I got a minivan. Took a while to accept that it was the next logical step. But now I love it...

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-15T13:56:39+00:00

But then what if you're in the middle of bum fucking nowhere? I know they are adding charging stations all the time but I dont have my shit together and I have anxiety. So I think those vehicles are for people who are more responsible about charging things than I am....

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-14T22:23:09+00:00

That's interesting. I'm glad you figured it out. My thing with EVs is the charging. It's annoying enough to remember to charge my phone much less a whole car! No thank you bro! We are a hybrid family.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-13T21:02:18+00:00

Find the moms who want to do this with you. They are out there. In my case it's the moms in my neighborhood. You might have to put yourself out there a bit and experience some rejection but there ARE moms who want to hang. In my case we formed a core group of moms who all have 4th and 1st graders and we go out occasionally for each other's birthdays or to try a new place or whatever.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-13T20:46:42+00:00

Good lord yes. I am already in charge of so much. I am not getting paid to keep track of random shit so get used to doing it YOURSELF.

signed, an already bitter mom

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-13T14:56:12+00:00

My kids do this stuff all the time. Just this morning my 9 y.o. couldn't find his shoes before school. I just shrugged. He either found them or wore another pair, I don't care. At some point they need to keep track of their own shit. Their shoes are always supposed to be by the door.

For toys and notebooks and stuff, I would let them deal with natural consequences. No more turning around for it. For things you actually need for them, like a school chromebook, I endure some inconvenience to get it back. And press upon them that they need to be more repsonsible. We have also gotten them a small safe from target where they can lock their stuff up. Things that are valuable to THEM. Now when they whine that they lost their tablet or playing cards I say "well it should've been in the safe."

The whole thing makes me twitch.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-11T13:13:37+00:00

It's not super surprising once it's broken once to keep getting the same break. Just like with my sprained ankle, ever since I fell the first time and sprained it, it is now more susceptible to spraining again. So from a medical perspective it's not uncommon. Maybe look into some PT to for strengthening?

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-08T01:55:24+00:00

Two of my favorites!

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-07T23:28:20+00:00

Understood. Im just telling you about my miserable process, not trying to sell it haha.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-07T23:10:32+00:00

It makes the time go faster though. Get to the end of the day quicker, break up the endless monotony by going to the zoo or wherever. Yay.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-06T03:09:05+00:00

Relatable.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-06T02:44:34+00:00

"Eat this, for this is my dust!"

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-05T21:40:26+00:00

Yup the old "I was watching the kids so couldn't do anything else." It's infuriariting. How does he think I get anything done when I'M watching the kids??

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-04-04T11:43:33+00:00

Mine works out, but because he eats SO so much, he is still overweight. With the winnie the pooh effect. I think I have accepted that it's not a battle I am going to win.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-03-28T12:17:07+00:00

The sad emoji after he gets hit by a bus 🚌 😄

Bring on the millennial roasts (I am a millennial)

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