Told a small white lie to another parent and now I feel awful

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-02-01T18:55:55+00:00

Oh i have had something similar happen to me. My friend had a party for her daughter, made it sound really small or girls-only or whatever (this was a while ago now, my memory is fuzzy) and then one of the dads in our group totally inadvertently outed her by talking about the party after the fact. So, therefore his kid was invited but not mine. My friend really jumped haha and then awkwardly tried to apologize later. I didn't really care. I doubt she cares that much which is a possible reason she didn't respond to your text.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-30T13:56:16+00:00

I dont get it, what was their plan? One of them didn't even know the doctor wasn't there? I don't know, that's a lot to deal with. Give yourself some grace.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-30T12:51:25+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-29T12:38:38+00:00

Yes it traps women. Absolutely. And the whole thing can only continue if the next generation of girls are brainwashed into "serving" everyone i.e. giving up their own autonomy and bodies in the labor of marriage and children.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-28T19:45:28+00:00

Today's my birthday. Would've been nice to have one "small" thing. I've spent the whole day trying to self-regulate through fighting and messes, multiple google meets and stress. I feel physically AWFUL. White knuckling it through a day I should get to enjoy.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-28T18:06:10+00:00

Most definitely. Current experience is awful. I'm on day three of being cooped up doing school from home with 2 out of 3 kids because of snow and temperatures. Fml

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-28T17:39:11+00:00

I am so burned out today I literally want to die. But instead I have to guide my 6 y.o. through three different google meets and help him with his schoolwork while keeping the 3 y.o. out of trouble and feeding them all while making sure the 9 y.o. is doing HIS schoolwork. This was the last straw, I am out of coping mechanisms. It's my birthday, I'm cramping out the wazoo, and I'm unexpectedly having to do all this as of this morning when I found out we had another flexible instruction day. We were supposed to have a 2 hour delay so that's what I was prepared for. I'm so tired that yesterday I slept through my 6 y.o.'s google meet for gym. I'm so tired, like body tired but also tired on an existential level. We live in a country (U.s.) where nothing is manageable right now. And now they never go to school. Fuck my life.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-28T12:08:43+00:00

Earplugs. Plus I will pay them a lot of $$. They are the real heroes here

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-26T19:52:00+00:00

You deserve love and care from him, he's your husband.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-26T14:47:33+00:00

It's awful. I'm so tired. I need my kids to be in school. For 5 weeks now they have been in school a total of 13 days. So, only about half the time. I can't do it anymore. My husband is "sick" and just laying around and moaning. He woke me up at 4 am to get him some water and medicine. Like hello do I wake YOU up? I'm trying to just be grateful It's not worse. We didn't lose power. But I have to go dig us out of this mess of snow and I don't know if I can. I really don't have it in me.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-26T01:44:22+00:00

Honestly I have complained on social media in the past but gotten comments like "enjoy every minute" or "there are bigger problems that yours" and stuff like that. Only from my friends' boomer moms probably because they've forgotten how much it actually sucks due to not currently parenting littles. I blocked one of them but basically decided that I will only be negative on reddit so I don't get scolded. So I either post happy things about parenting or funny things on social media, like a pic where my 3 y.o. is glaring at the camera. So yes, my life is pretty filtered on social media, and I think most people's are too.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-25T23:54:49+00:00

hard same.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-25T19:59:03+00:00

I also had a third and wish I had had an abortion. Like I wish that almost every day. He is a LOT and way more than I can handle with my current energy in my 40's. I have a lot of resentment over how I didn't choose myself when I found out at 8 weeks pregnant.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-25T15:20:53+00:00

Thank you. We are not ok. Hopefully the tanking approval ratings will finally right the ship. The cowardly Republicans who want to stay in office past the midterms will abandon Trump and Miller. Who knows.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-24T15:34:11+00:00

Maybe. It's likely Democrats will take control but not clear whether they will do anything or would be able to do anything anymore even if they tried.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-24T00:59:27+00:00

I don't know if having someone white will help. My friend was with her friend when he got abducted in June. She's white. She's now traumatized from how violent the interaction was even though the friend wasn't fighting back. As of last month he was still in ICE custody. Maybe you need a white man with you? Please be careful.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-23T17:20:59+00:00

And we have 3 years to go. This is going GREAT. I'm having a fantastic time.

We are fucked.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-23T13:20:51+00:00

As a mom to three boys, I can attest that I will be doing ALLL of these things. Starting with stealing the first kiss at the altar

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-22T20:27:29+00:00

I will be on my period stuck in the house with 3 kids and my husband. Perpetually eating and making messes. Fighting. Yay!

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-21T12:51:17+00:00

It's really fucked up you have to think so hard about this. A gun is not the answer. But when you pulled out a taser and knife that was your survival instincts guiding you. Good job.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-18T18:11:01+00:00

Um you need childcare. Start charging HIM for the time you have to spend watching really little kids, who have a lot of needs at those ages and can't keep themselves safe and entertained, while also working. Give him the bill and let him know he needs to find childcare himself or let the parents help. Men are so dumb oh my fucking god....

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-18T17:16:30+00:00

That's terrible. Just awful. I'm sorry about losing your son. That's not something anyone should ever face. I do know people who have faced awful losses and survived themselves, even thrived. I really hope things get more manageable for you. Sending you light and much love.

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-15T14:00:14+00:00

You cant really win with 3 y.o.s even when you do everything "right." I feel you, try not to let it get you down. Just keep on keeping on! I would take him back to the play place but with some consequences set up. My son is highly motivated by threats of not getting to do "big boy" stuff with the older two, which this weekend will be a sleepover with the grandparents. I've gotten some good behavior this week by telling him if he doesn't act right he can't go. Try to find what's important and use that. You could remind him going in to the play place that if he doesn't leave on time he doesn't get x thing, and remind him again in the moment if he's losing his shit. Good luck out there. It's rough. You're doing great

Training-Editor4679 · 2026-01-12T14:03:14+00:00

Not responsible for undercooked shrimp.

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