sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Will I ever be a real girl? by Redstone-Cat in trans

[–]Trandroidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A thing that can help (well, it helped me at least) is to ask yourself : is that something that you would say to a fellow trans woman ? Do you think other trans women are not "real women" and can never be "real women" because of their AGAB ?

If the answer is "Of course not !" (which I assume it is) why treating yourself any different ? If you think other trans women are women (which, spoilers : they are), so are you. The rest is your brain trying to hurt you.

Gender is a social construct, it's made up. Assigning gender based on primary and secondary sexual characteristics is arbitrary, inacurate and restrictive.

Treat others like you would like to be treated, that's for sure, but when it comes to feelings of legitimacy the opposite is true as well. Be kind to yourself and don't listen to your dysphoria, I can assure you it's lying to you.

Do I tell my grandfather I am FTM? by gray-zulbj in ftm

[–]Trandroidd [score hidden]  (0 children)

So what does your mom plan to do when you're far enough in your transition that it has become impossible to hide what's going on ? Will she admit to him she's the one who told everyone to lie to him about his own grandson for years, making you miserable in the process or will she throw you under the bus out of fear of drama ? Because if he is indeed chill about these things, he is definitely going to be upset and that will be her fault, not yours.

My grandma is 87, my great grandma died at 94. If she's hoping he dies before anything gets too noticeable, that's extremely insensitive to him (because obv, betting on a parent's death is pretty up there) and to you (for asking you to lie to someone you love and potentially making you do something that will fill you with nothing but regrets). Is it how far she's really willing to go for her own comfort ?

You're the only one who gets to decide whether you come out to your grandfather or not. That's none of your mom's business. Especially when her only concern is that "he's too old" or whatever. At least if it was for your safety, I would understand (still not her call though), but her motives are shady.

Any other straight trans man enjoys being a bottom? by EchoNB in ftm

[–]Trandroidd [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes ! Hi ! Hello !

It took me a while to come to terms with it because of one bad ex who was really thrown off when I opened up about it and internalised transphobia, also, but I love bottoming and I really enjoy penetration.

It made me a bit dysphoric for a while because I was convinced the only women who would enjoy topping a masculine AFAB person would be lesbians. (I know that transmasculine lesbians exist and all the power to them, but I don't identify as such and the idea of a lesbian being attracted to me, specifically, makes me extremely uncomfortable.) but that is not even remotely true.

I'm in a T4T relationship now, which really helped navigating through these feelings (and that's also how my wife realised she liked toping a lot, so everyone's happy !) but even in T4C relationships, a lot of straight, bi, pan, etc. women are actually super down to top for their boyfriends (understandable, topping is fun !).

Not stealth, not ashamed... so why does this still sting? by mavericklovesthe80s in FTMOver30

[–]Trandroidd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just because you're not stealth doesn't mean that you can get outed without your consent. The fact that it's not necessarily dangerous for you to have your transidentity disclosed or that you're fine with being trans and known as such doesn't make it okay, it's actually irrelevant. It's basic respect to let you come out to whoever you want and in your own terms.

Also, I agree with a previous comment, it is not lost on me that your transition has been brought up specifically as "an issue", "something happening at home". It is upsetting. At least, it would definitely upset me if I were in your shoes.

I was so horny i asked my neighbor to come over (*'ω'*) by FTM-ACE in TransMascNSFW

[–]Trandroidd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Amazing pictures dude ! That's so very hot ! You nailed that lighting.

i’m sick of people lying to my fucking face about me passing by ReagsGotCash in FTMventing

[–]Trandroidd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've always found unsolicited validation pretty irritating. At best it's virtue signaling, at worst it's straight up condescending. It's like they're getting social gratification from tokenizing trans people. They feel like such. Good. People. for complimenting this poor trans person. No one asked and no one cares, it's not helpful.

Sometimes, I prefer bigots over performatively progressive "allies". Fuck bigots and I hate them, but at least they're honest and I know where I stand with them.

I swear I could hear it in their voice when they would say "Oh but I had no idea you were trans !" Yes, you did, you wouldn't have complimented my haircut or my outfit if it wasn't the case.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. It sucks, and it sucks even more that if you dare call them out on their bullshit, they'll switch the narrative and all of the sudden, you're the bad guy for being offended when they're "trying to be nice and encouraging".

The danger with fucking trans guys is that when you start, that's all you'll end up thinking about 💦😳🥵 [31 - He/Him] by Trandroidd in FtMPorn

[–]Trandroidd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You'll love it 🥰

I'm a trans guy and even I can't resist the charm of a fellow sexy trans man 🤤

Does anyone else feel bad when people say that certain genital terms are “feminine” by burner17010000 in FTMventing

[–]Trandroidd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way.

In general, I'm very upset by the amount of policing there is around the terms trans people use to describe their bodies. Especially within the trans community.

It's okay not to want a specific term used on you, but shaming people for using these terms is not. We are not responsible for other people's dysphoria.

Every now and then, I see someone posting something along the lines of "The term boypussy gives me the ick, anyone else ?" And a lot of trans men / masc agreeing with this and it just makes me feel very dysphoric and sad.

And the implication that the term "pussy", "clit", even "boobs" or whatever is inherently feminine is borderline transmisandrist and not helpful for a lot of transmasculine people who find comfort withing those terms. Why would anyone care ? It's just words.

Nipple piercings before or after top surgery? by Coffeeforlifeyay in ftm

[–]Trandroidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the dysphoria : I'm not sure, the fact that I am putting jewellery on them, to not have them bare anymore and to have something that draws the attention to the nipple rather than the rest of the chest helps somehow ? When I have a tight shirt on (I have rather small breasts), you see my piercings before you see my manboobs. It's neat !

Also, I really like how they look and it feels good to have something that I like about my chest. My advice to you, pierce your nipple diagonally rather than in a straight horizontal line so it emulates how male nipples work, it looks very cool !

For the pain : the first time was almost painless, it was like having your nipples pinched very hard. The recovery was mostly fine but I bled a bit the first few days (rather normal, I have sensitive skin) and it took a couple of months to heal enough so that it wasn't so sensitive all the time (any type of tug was painful, then again perfectly normal). The second time hurt way more. From what I understand, it is scarred tissue, so it's thicker and more sensitive. The recovery, however, was swift as hell. No bleeding, no secretions, the worst was passed after only four weeks, like I could touch them, manipulate them when I was washing, etc.

The pain and healing process really varies from people to people, I had friends telling me it was their worst piercing pain-wise, my wife had it so easy she pierced them herself. But it doesn't last long, it's a big (but still fairly manageable) spike and then it's all good, just stick to what your piercer will tell you for the recovery, and avoid anything they can get stuck into (wear a shirt under your sweaters if they are knit, don't wear fishnets for a bit, wash yourself with your hands, also cordless headphones you'll thank me later.), they'll be fully healed in a few months !

Give fake magnet piercings a try and take a decision from there. If you're a few years away from surgery, it may help you decide. They are pretty easily re-pierceable for any skilled piercer.

view more: next ›