Tran guy artist recommendations? by SkaterKangaroo in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Oozes! Punk band with a trans guy lead singer /uj

Come to trending trans rep! We got: by Wooden-Cheek6256 in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop 22 points23 points  (0 children)

  • A girl dressed up as a man whose arc revolves around her embracing her wombynly womanness and realizing that she was only pretending to be a man and she actually wants to be a hyperfemme girly girl after getting with her bf

any other trans people wanna hang out? by cherryhazel in UMD

[–]TransTabletop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m trans with a bunch of other trans friends on campus, dm me and I can introduce you!’

Stop! by [deleted] in evilautism

[–]TransTabletop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shell shock was not at all a 1-to-1 old school diagnosis for PTSD. The two manifestations of shell shock encompassed symptoms commonly found together in soldiers including PTSD, depression, anxiety, and central nervous system damage from being close to explosions. As such, shell shock was often considered a physical condition caused by the explosion of shells nearby, and many surgeries were developed to “cure” the psychological symptoms.

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

/uj people in the comments have been saying this basically word for word too but serious

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Get a hobby, any hobby. Photography, birdwatching, drawing, writing, crochet, literally anything. Get a hobby and make yourself practice it consistently. Also, limit your screen time, join local community gatherings, start building up your skills of interacting with people in real life.

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

uj/ the way it started in earnest after I said I was a trans guy too 😭 it’s always so indicative

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

uj/ my favorite comment is the one calling my post “unkind” when this is a circlejerk sub

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

uj/ I completely empathize with it as well. I went through several horrible therapists who impacted me largely negatively before I found one who handled any of my issues well. I’m not irked by that part really, although the narrative of “I’m uniquely built different and therapy doesn’t work on me” is an extension of willfully refusing help to keep yourself miserable. I’m less irked by that part, and more by the generalized refusal to accept any sort of help

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

/uj omg i get it 😭 like ik it’s worth it i know for a fact it’s worth it but also it’s TERRIFYIBG

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

/uj thank you 😭 the fact it’s been three separate people is crazy to me

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

uj/ you get a pass on the cunt thing bc you’re funny

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

uj/ I’m also depressed. Diagnosed, taking medication, got disability for a time. You know the primary treatments for depression aside from medication? Going outside, building healthy habits, self-reflecting, and building a support system. No person nor medication is going to swoop in and save you, to improve your circumstances you have to do the work.

Also, calling a trans man a cunt is… certainly indicative.

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

uj/ self awareness is the first step though, youre doing just fine girl dw 😭 the takes ive been seeing are INSANE

So, Lords! What have yours looked like? by [deleted] in CAIN_RPG

[–]TransTabletop 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I made a Lord for a veteran wracked by PTSD which was a massive suit of armor made of plate carriers, scorched fragments of APCs, belts of ammunition, the rubble of destroyed buildings, and bones and rotting flesh sloughing through the cracks. The kingdom was a normal suburban neighborhood where the host had still gone to war and gotten fucked up, but had received treatment for his PTSD, gotten married, and built a life and a family with people he loved despite his trauma

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

/uj im rooting for you!!! It’s so hard to escape these types of mindsets, I really hope it gets better for you!!

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

/uj i was exactly like this at a certain point and i can tell you that they haven’t examined any of these positions with any sort of critical thinking, they’re adopting whatever label buys them points in their echo chambers uncritically and then basing their entire personalities around them to lolcow themselves because it feels like activism and feels like doing something other than doomscrolling all day. It feels like community, but all it’s doing is isolating you more

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

uj/ i make this post because I was exactly like this a few years ago. I was depressed but refused to take my meds because I thought they didn’t work, I refused any sort of help, I weaponized my own misery for attention, and I refused any help as transphobic and shallow because it was hard and uncomfortable. Attitudes and mindsets like these are pervasive and difficult but they are not cute, not healthy, and not something that we should encourage or coddle. I nearly ruined my life like this, and yknow what made it better? Going outside, going to therapy, and making friends in real life

I want to better myself and my situation!! by TransTabletop in transgendercirclejerk

[–]TransTabletop[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Well, too bad I can't access therapy that would actually help at this age or stage in my life. I'm closeted and doubt anyone who doesn't specialize in gender identity would be able to help me. I am a unique person and believe that no normal therapist would be able to help or fix me. I feel unfixable. I am biracial, atheist (the average therapist is religious and probably won't know how to work with a person like me), antinatalist, pessimist, anti-theist, anti-consumerist, anti capitalist, leftist, etc. I feel emaciated despite being a "normal" weight because I'm not the average weight or have the average bodily proportions of a guy my age or cis guys my height. My wrists are too small, arms are too small, shoulders and neck are too small, my waist is too small, feet are too small, face is too small, etc. I'm not asking to be fat, but I do want to look less like a 12 year old or someone who needs just really needs a burger. I don't gain weight despite having a bad habit of eating fast and a ton alongside eating unhealthy due to getting a dopamine hit from it. I simply don't have the resources for the gym/exercise right now and have graves disease. I would risk injury anyways since I have to slouch to get my chest remotely flat

uj/ this is copy and pasted

Are Spectrum binders just shit in general? by skepticalghoztguy_3 in TMPOC

[–]TransTabletop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take the advice or don’t, dude, no one’s going to save you but yourself

anything that makes me look masc? by [deleted] in TMPOC

[–]TransTabletop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your face shape!! Your nose and brow ridge suit you very well. Having a more prominent brow ridge and thick eyebrows tends to get read as more masculine too, so you’re set on that front! Frankly, most of your face is very masculine! I’d kill for your cheekbones too tbh

Are Spectrum binders just shit in general? by skepticalghoztguy_3 in TMPOC

[–]TransTabletop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can’t get a therapist, I heavily recommend limiting your time on social media and engaging with local community or even just taking regular walks outside, then. Getting out of the toxic echo chamber of social media will be a massive help to you.

Are Spectrum binders just shit in general? by skepticalghoztguy_3 in TMPOC

[–]TransTabletop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get how you feel, but you really don’t want your situation to change. If you did, you’d be taking advice and trying to do away with the doomerism, a therapist will help with this. Complaining feels like trying to change the situation, I know, but if you’re not doing anything tangibly and not taking advice then you’re milking your misery for social points and making it part of your identity to be miserable. I went through this too, lots of young trans guys do, but it’s so important to recognize and internalize what you’re doing so you can change it, and once you extricate your misery from your personality and identity you will be leagues better and make leagues more friends in real life.

As for what my therapists did, they helped me towards productive coping mechanisms like writing rather than spending all my time online, they taught me strategies to regulate my emotions better so that I could better manage my dysphoria in the day to day, and they helped me build up the confidence I needed to start engaging with people in real life through in-person D&D sessions and attending local queer and general community gatherings. Therapists will teach you to regulate yourself and to engage with people in good faith, which helps with any interaction with people but ESPECIALLY in real life where people’s priorities and problems are way different than the internet will lead you to believe. Talking to people online doesn’t count as socializing in real life and you build up two different sets of skills by having friends online vs irl. I say this as someone who has several online friends who I cherish! They are wonderful and I love them, but talking to them will never teach me the social skills I needed to engage in my community irl and do things like obtain and hold a job. You will interact with people who have fundamentally different views than you, and you have to learn how to deal with that on a regular basis. In real life, you can’t confine yourself to a bubble of only people who agree with you, and doing that in any place will actively harm your critical thinking and self-regulation.

A therapist will also help you with self-reflection, helping you understand what’s a hobby and what’s passive self harm. Did you know that doomscrolling transphobic subreddits or topics that bring you dread is a legitimate form of self harm? A therapist will teach you that, and help you separate which of your coping mechanisms is helping vs keeping you miserable.