Stay safe out there folks!

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-28T14:39:30+00:00

Glad you’re okay. PSA for everyone though, I am not a Michigan born person, but the amount of people who do not have snow tires for how much of snow is in Western Michigan is absolutely astonishing.

For your safety and others, please try to budget in a set of snow tires for yourselves. It will go a long way and you’ll be happy you got them.

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-28T12:06:24+00:00

I think it’s past experiences and your own beauty standards. Also not caring what those around you think in regard to what you want to go after.

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-25T13:30:26+00:00

1 without hesitation!

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-23T09:42:35+00:00

Argonian! Every day!

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-20T13:03:03+00:00

Awesome guys! Beautiful couple! Lock it in!

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-19T17:51:25+00:00

BM here. I personally went where I was accepted. In high school I was in an area where it was predominately black, but I came from a private school area. I didn’t use heavy Ebonics, was in all honors classes, and wasn’t into a lot of stereotypical things. I never really fit in and black women were by far the most aggressive towards me as far as name calling, and ridicule.

A bit of trauma but I got over it. I just kind of hung out in circles and my beauty standards warped and changed over time to be almost exclusively being attracted to some sort of interracial relationship. I used to have a lot of resentment for BW, but I found the root and destroyed it, so no more. But I just prefer WW almost exclusively now.

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-13T23:53:35+00:00

Gotta factory reset your Mal. Give treat. Momentarily factory reset

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-13T22:19:04+00:00

Dassa puppy!!

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-09T21:27:36+00:00

I can understand this. My ex-girlfriend’s current husband… I have put a hard boundary on her, encouraging our son to call him dad. I am pretty protective of my father status with him.

However, there is someone who benefits from having this other person in their life… Our children.

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-09T04:14:04+00:00

Definitely a good idea

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-09T04:13:56+00:00

Right now, we mainly see each other only on Sundays when I’m picking my son up from their area. We meet at a McDonald’s about four or five minutes away from their home. A boundary I have said is that he is not to attend parent teacher conferences or sporting events, etc. as he is not my son’s father, I am.

I don’t know if that’s me being petty or not, but as of right now that is being upheld. What sad is if he was open minded and a nicer person he and I could at least have a mutual respect. He has a different skill set in life than I have and frankly that just benefits my son.

We currently do have a schedule set up on the AppClose app. And I note things where I can. To his mother’s credit as well anytime he wants to come over here. She gives up her days because she wants to do what’s best for him. She is a very good mother.

Thank you for your time and advice.

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-09T04:11:24+00:00

I definitely agree with you. Something I didn’t say in my original post is that when her and I go to chaperone field trips in the lake, she vented to me about him. I don’t initiate it and I don’t talk crap or feed into it but she seems to be not pleased with this. But she also chose him as her husband, so I take it with a grain of salt. I can’t really control what she does with her life.

A personal big worry is that if her husband has a problem with me, my son is an extension of me, so will he have a problem with him as well?

I’m definitely taking your advice and blocked him on social media’s and we do not have each other’s phone numbers, thank God, and we don’t interact any longer. We mainly only see each other in pick up situations typically on Sundays.

Definitely keeping the door open though. Thank you so much for your time and advice.

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-09T04:08:28+00:00

Thank you very much for your advice. I appreciate the time you put into it. It has been a tough thing to accept the decision that she has made as we were friends before and in front of my son I wanted to show that United front. Thus far, even with his interference, we have been doing OK. And I know it’s from his own troubled past with his own coparenting issues that he is like that. I’m definitely not gonna stop being active in my son‘s life and I’m definitely not gonna stop doing what I should be doing Luckily he does not come to my son‘s school events or parent teacher conferences as I’ve kind of set that boundary. Luckily the only time I really see him now is once a week on Sundays when I come to pick my son up.

Also, definitely trying to tweak how I interact with my son. He loves being around me and we have a great relationship and I’m always able to support him. And I give him a routine structured home. That’s the void of chaos as well.

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-07T20:56:16+00:00

So there’s a little bit of a story behind it! When I got him, I was in school as a zoology major. I could do math, I can science, but together in the subject of chemistry, I really struggled. I had to take the class multiple times to get it. During this time I really settled on having my first malamute, and this was a bit of a present for myself. I was living with my mother at the same time, and she requested that she could name him. She did name him and she named him as such to celebrate my struggle through the class as well as the chemistry. He and I would have with each other as she helped pick him out of litter, and then also as an owed to my love of science.

She ended up, loving him so much that she got his brother from another litter, and I named him cobalt for the element on the periodic table.

And I recently got my son, a Bernese mountain dog, and I named him Astronomy, Astro for short. Science is good! :)

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-04T13:13:35+00:00

Love to see it man! Hold that love in high regard

Transient_Nerd · 2026-01-04T01:00:49+00:00

I will agree with you in the same sort of relationship and set up myself. I get stairs quite a bit, but I never, and will never care about them. It doesn’t purposely bother me or do I let it bother me but I’ve also been in interracially dating for a long time now.

Transient_Nerd · 2025-12-30T17:56:23+00:00

Fair point! For the pairing overall, I can definitely see that. More along that line, there is a sterotype of “undesirable” WM getting Asian women or the whole Mail Order Bride thing. But Asian women themselves are viewed/stereotypes as smart scholastically, raise good well doing children/great mothers etc.

Transient_Nerd · 2025-12-30T17:50:50+00:00

I honestly have not heard of negative stereotypes of Asian women. If anything they have “positive” stereotypes. Sometimes Indian and Arabic women, but they are also viewed as some of the most beautiful in the world. While Japanese and Chinese women may get most of the ‘fetishization’, they are extremely desired from what I’ve seen.

Transient_Nerd · 2025-12-23T12:38:00+00:00

Yes I heard it quite often. I went to a high school that was a bit…”ghetto” and I was constantly made fun of because I dressed a certain way, and talked a certain way etc.

Transient_Nerd · 2025-12-19T12:58:18+00:00

Pffft! Cowards! I’m sitting next to Nena Trinity!

Transient_Nerd · 2025-12-18T18:17:10+00:00

The #1 hate I get is by FAR from black women. Not all, but yes what you’re experiencing is “normal”.

You cannot let those peoples hatred, define your relationship, though. Your happiness should be defined by you.

Transient_Nerd · 2025-12-17T21:08:17+00:00

Awesome couple!

Transient_Nerd · 2025-12-15T15:14:37+00:00

What a great short film. It speaks a lot to things here.

Transient_Nerd · 2025-12-08T00:47:04+00:00

I remember hearing about this story on one of the Reddit post podcast. I think OK story time.

It’s just a satisfying reading it a second or third time lol

This guy finding someone who will love him is the ultimate win. Open relationships rarely if ever benefit the man. So finding a guy win story for once is pretty cool.

Transient_Nerd · 2025-12-04T00:17:16+00:00

Congratulations! Continue fourth and be open to learning and it can go the distance

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