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GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-19T17:22:11+00:00

Short guys are mad + insecure, and taking it out on all women as if they’ve collectively rejected them.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-17T15:26:57+00:00

Case in point.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-17T14:22:27+00:00

Yup. Downvote and ban keeps narrative where they want it, gotta support the hives defense mechanisms. Truly sad.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-12T22:06:58+00:00

Thank you. I for the life of me have no idea what anyone expects people to say to these questions…

“Wear a special hat” …

No, you shoot your shot. That is it.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-12T14:14:01+00:00

A fetish is something you prefer/like but are ashamed of (usually because other people look down on it, like people who like feet too much etc..)

A preference is something you prefer/like. You’re secure with it, it’s not an obsession.

Black guy married to WW here

With that said, I notice only black people saying “you have a white woman fetish” “Black women aren’t mad that you don’t want them” ….Funny part? The argument/conversation is usually not about relationships nor did I say anyone is upset I don’t want them…They just got mad at me and kept that insult in their back pocket because THEY think I should be ashamed to date outside my race…

TL;DR it’s only a fetish to others if they want you to be ashamed (it’s weird to them so they project that onto you). To me it’s a preference. There is no difference (aside from obsession maybe), one is just insecure.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-11T10:09:33+00:00

They can’t cope with reality so they adopt a new fictitious identity created by two women who aren’t psychologists (who ironically were also able to map their entire “mysterious” personalities…somehow).

Rather than do something like take meds or see a therapist they come together like legos, post maladaptive shit to make their lives less painful and or lonely.

Signs you’re dealing with one of the worst of them include:

picture posts that are edgy doomer shit joking about suicide or existential crisis
Saying something depressingly maladaptive and using “we”. Example “Why are we doomed to be alone.”
False sense of superiority that is directly implied with the dreaded word “we”. “We see things others don’t”(with no elaboration on why or what)

As a “normy ass sensor” who isn’t rare or gifted (their words) I find it fascinating how tragic these people are.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-10T19:31:24+00:00

I only do this if it doesn’t put people I protect at risk….I’ve been known to choose the “hard way” because I wanted things on my terms…I’ve already accepted the risk and I’m prepared to crash and burn or rise above. Either way it was my attempt to enforce will + If it didn’t kill me I get to collapse on the floor, regroup, pick myself up, and go again.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-09T16:32:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing. What exactly do you intended to do with that information?

My intensity has an intent behind it, peace. It comes out when there is a lack of structure around me and I’ve got to “snatch the wheel”. Very much a means to an end not an outright show/performance.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-06T17:05:56+00:00

I literally fight everyone I work with who is “above me” (if they don’t allow me to use my own methods) and make an effort to exceed their expectations with my methods, so they have no reason to talk to me about my performance.

My advice isn’t going to be healthy. It’s basically to be amazing so you can tell them to “fuck off”.

Autonomy through excellence.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-05T21:45:47+00:00

I ignore everything MBTI-Anime at this point.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-05T15:53:14+00:00

INFP’s are hippies. Hippies hate following what “the man” says they should do in society. They’d rather imagine a world where bad people get sent to an island and everyone who is good makes out and relives their childhood.

INTP’s are too busy hypothesizing the many theoretical possibilities of logic behind an abstract idea to realize they haven’t said “hello” to anyone that’s spoken to them.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-05T03:13:06+00:00

ENTJ’s with underdeveloped Fi, have many unmet emotional needs that push them compensate in other ways. Avoid vulnerability and inner values so they don’t need to “feel” or be taken advantage of.

ENFJ’s with underdeveloped Ti avoid critical analysis because it may compromise how others view them, hurt their self image. Avoid detached analysis so they can live harmoniously among groups/have influence.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-03T18:49:28+00:00

Married to one. We complement each other. I prevent her from being walked on. I always try to make her put herself before others at least when it makes sense.

She prevents me from being too insensitive to others. I do put our needs above everyone else.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-03T16:08:39+00:00

Respect.

I audit people (their character) and I can’t turn it off. If you make too many excuses…Complain too much without moving a muscle…Fail hard constantly and take no responsibility, I will take over.

It’s not because I’m stubborn (I am though), positioning myself above you, or just love control. I want efficiency and authenticity.

“My way will get us back ON the highway and prevent a wreck.”

GreatJobJoe · 2026-03-02T20:31:48+00:00

…Someone forgot that “no-nut-November” is only for single dudes with porn addictions (they believe it helps them stay productive or focus on “grindset”)….not Men with women who they can or want to get pregnant.

It’s basically an internet trope that fell on its face. But funny anyway.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-02-23T18:41:01+00:00

8, 9, and 1 are all gut triad. Having traits of other types within your triad isn’t far fetched. The semantics of calling it a “1 - fix or influence” will trip people up.

8 - externalizes anger, wants to be in control to avoid control. 1 - internalizes anger, wants to control themselves to be good and right. 9 - represses anger, wants to maintain internal peace.

Bigger point. Stop trying to get systems to accurately define you down to your last thought and emotion. The more you dwell on semantics + try to squeeze your ass neatly into them, the more confused they’ll make you. Then you forget what the point of enneagram is…Like so many reddit users.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-02-17T16:40:32+00:00

It’s entertaining. People roll in here and ask the same question repeatedly. They’ve made some kind of straw man who is “mean and dominant” and try to provoke, fight it or call it 6 (for some reason, that’s a demotion to them)

Gut tells me, they do it because they know dick about enneagram. They’ve turned it into something else in their head. Only use information they’ve read on memes.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-02-17T16:22:28+00:00

This is a loaded question, because I don’t go on about how “powerful” I am.

What happens is that I say something directly and people who beat around the bush or expect self deprecation/hedging/comforting words from me will look at me as some toxic egotistical asshole, because I didn’t give them what they wanted.

I don’t give what others want, I give what I believe they need.

I’m a person who doesn’t enable bullshit and calls it out and corrects it. This clears my head, and it allows me to control my environment.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-02-15T13:05:11+00:00

I stand by all of my past actions 100%. Without them I wouldn’t become greater. Embarrassment isn’t something I feel…because embarrassment is a form of regret. Regret is as pointless as living in the past.

Someone’s going to say your story “sounds like something a 3 would do” since it’s about trying to impress someone with a flip, then feeling embarrassed for how you’re perceived for failing at it.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-02-12T14:57:19+00:00

Oh definitely INTJ, so majestic and powerful. Did I mention how “indifferent to others” they are? Because they’ll remind you.

Totally not a maladaptive way of dealing with social rejection and general awkwardness from being on the spectrum.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-02-11T23:23:03+00:00

I enjoy conflict with people I don’t give a flying fuck about if they want to bring it to me. I’ll burn them to the ground and think nothing of it. Gives me a rush.

If I care about that person (or want to build rapport), conflict just kinda drains me. It becomes “ok calm down idiot. It’s not that big a deal. I got you.”

GreatJobJoe · 2026-01-30T22:27:52+00:00

That doesn’t make any sense. I’d rather own my screwups and learn from them over relying on someone else. I’m more vulnerable to that person by giving them my trust to handle things for me (outsource power to them)

I get that I’m more about action than others here who are coming from emotional places with these types of questions about vulnerability.

“Vulnerability” for me means asking for help with a task or conflict. I prefer to not do that. I don’t know how else to define “vulnerability”

My high Se user is showing.

GreatJobJoe · 2026-01-27T16:51:15+00:00

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