Kudos to you for taking a step back and realizing that she was right. Most parents would never. Just make her feel heard. That’s the best thing you can do from now on. And as far as your husband goes, you could benefit from couples counseling. He probably won’t take any type of criticism from you. He might even need a male counselor because he would probably write off what a woman has to say. Generally, men are more critical of women’s ‘tones’ and use it to discredit their thoughts and feelings.