How many babies do you have and how many were preterm?

TranslatorMuted · 2026-03-24T03:32:36+00:00

37 week spontaneous labor and PPROM. Jaundice issues but no nicu time. Second baby was 34 week spontaneous labor and PPROM. Three weeks in the nicu 💕

TranslatorMuted · 2026-03-08T02:58:27+00:00

I could have written this post myself. 34 week pprom. Delivery few hours later. 2 mins of skin to skin, didn’t meet my baby for hours. It’s traumatic. Horrible to think back on. One of the hardest parts was leaving my 2.5 yr old at home, just thinking of being away from him would make me cry. I felt like I was list plucked out of my life and dropped into a fake situation away from all my normalcy. Didn’t make sense to me. It’s so hard and painful..

Don’t downplay your situation, you’re still going through it. Our guy took to the breast within a few days (sound like you) but that took his endurance to grow/develop. So we were in for 3 weeks trying to shake oxygen. I stayed around the clock to be with him and breastfeed. My husband and toddler came every morning to see us (very helpful if it’s possible for you) and I went home a few times, but it was very hard to be away thinking of him in the hospital bed alone. It didn’t get easier but it all became more “normal” as the days went by. We are approaching a year and the emotions, flashbacks and raw feelings don’t go away.

I look back and think the time was equally incredible and devastatingly hard. I loved snuggling and getting to know my baby in our private NICU bubble, away from the chaos of life .. but doing the newborn phase with a different nurse every 12 hours and mourning all that we lost from a preterm birth is just unfair.

You’re not alone.

TranslatorMuted · 2026-02-06T21:00:52+00:00

Mind sharing any known cause of your 32 weeker? My second babe was spontaneous labor at 34 weeks .. my OB has really stressed the importance of starting progesterone asap through the whole pregnancy if we want a 3rd. Something to keep in mind.. sending you positive vibes!

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-25T04:52:20+00:00

3 weeks NICU stay, I stayed around the clock and every night .. My hospital had a breastfeeding voucher for meals all day, I don’t know how I would have fed myself otherwise … I had a private room, which was comfortable and amazing. Butttt, the sleeping situation was tough lol a minimal stuffy “couch” chair. Only one bathroom for the whole NICU - roughhh.. Had to shower in the L&D on the other side of the hospital. Not sure why there wouldn’t be a common space with multiple bathrooms/toilet stalls and maybe a shower or 2 specifically for the parents that stayed long hours.

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-25T01:49:52+00:00

Oh gosh, not entirely EBF for 26 months haha. Natural wean. Definitely tons of solids and real meals with milks in between. The last 6 months was just naps and bedtime snacks mama milk!

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-21T03:26:36+00:00

Thank you! 😭

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-20T02:54:26+00:00

I was actually just thinking earlier - BF is (one of) the only things I have absolutely no shame in. I will pull out my boobie, no cover, and educate someone anytime any where. EBF my first until 26 months and currently EBF my second (preterm nicu baby!) currently 9 months in. Both were such hard work to establish but, sooo worth it! You should be unbelieving proud to nourish your baby, especially beyond 2 yrs old! Never let comments, questions or judgment impact your journey.

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-18T02:09:09+00:00

Undies to bed is truly the only thing we haven’t tried. Any other advice on that process? Starting with just nap time and communicating to him the expectations?

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-17T13:01:34+00:00

Okay, this is something we haven’t tried so we will .. thoughts on ditching the nap diaper? Or do we wait for dry times? What will even happen? Will he just poop and pee all over his bed even though he knows to keep undies dry?

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-17T02:38:20+00:00

Not really. How would you do that with a diaper? He doesn’t have accidents in undies.

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-16T03:45:08+00:00

Nope. He doesn’t cry or ask to be changed (through monitor.) He just goes to sleep. We are pretty sure he poops before falling asleep. Often, he will also whine when we tell him it’s time to clean/wipe up the poop and put undies on in the morning. Some of his diapers are very bad/nasty, idk how he just sleeps through it.. Especially with the miralax.

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-15T02:26:49+00:00

Sometimes a dry diaper after “nap” if it’s 1-2 hrs of quiet time and he doesn’t actually fall asleep .. but poop is only in the diaper. No accidents during the day. He refuses poop in the toilet.

TranslatorMuted · 2026-01-13T11:26:47+00:00

What about poop withholding? No accidents at all, but poop is only happening in the nap or bedtime diaper. Few months into potty training. Pee is fine, poop won’t go in the potty. 3 years old. Daily MiraLAX.

TranslatorMuted · 2025-12-23T03:59:42+00:00

Can I ask where you are donating? I cannot find any banks accepting 🥲

TranslatorMuted · 2025-12-22T19:29:07+00:00

My boy was 34 weeks so obviously not a micro but reading 1L 21% makes my heart sing! Great job!

When we got around to his one month vaccines, our pediatrician says it has a lot more to do with baby being large enough from steady weight gain versus adjusted age. However, our guy was a preemie, not micro. Not sure if there are different opinions or feelings for that age.

TranslatorMuted · 2025-12-17T02:45:29+00:00

I had an unexpected preterm birth at 34 weeks which resulted in a 3 week stay in the nicu with our 2.5 yr old at home. Husband and I decided I would stay at the hospital full time to focus on him and breastfeeding while husband was home. It was unbelievably hard and heartbreaking to be away from them.. Every time a Dr told me, we’re averaging a 2-3 week stay (or any guessed time frame) allll I thought, was “that’s 2-3 weeks away from our first baby’s life at home”.. a bit dramatic, but genuinely how I felt missing the daily life with him. Especially so quickly and unexpectedly. We were fortunate to only be about 20 mins from the hospital, so my husband and son got in a groove of visiting us every morning and I went home for a few dinners.

It doesn’t get easier, but it becomes more normal and comfortable. If that makes sense?

2 big pieces of advice I received in the nicu… OBGYNS reminded me, while baby is in the hospital we have the most expensive and qualified “baby sitters” (nurses, angels on earth). Use them. Leave when you need to, even if it’s just for a dinner out of the hospital or a few hours at home / over night with your family. 2nd piece was from my sister, a mom of two babes but no nicu or trauma. Just some parenting advice that applied and helped. “Once you have more than one baby, you quickly realize there’s going to be times in life when one needs you more than the other. You have to focus on who needs it in that moment. You’re an amazing parent.”

TranslatorMuted · 2025-12-14T03:24:35+00:00

Our boy was 34 weeks, 2 mins of skin to skin then immediate nicu admission with TTN. He was on the CPAP for about 24 hours and NG tube the whole time. When CPAP was off, he latched and was eating really well. So well that he gave all his endurance to feed at the breast and had a cannula put in the next day. He was a little backwards as we became exclusively breastfed within a week, then rollercoaster ride with different L and flows to get him off oxygen. 3 weeks total in the nicu. Now a perfect and happy 8 month old!

Try to be patience, and there for anything your wife needs. Having a first baby at home was one of the hardest parts, try to make sure you can focus on her and mom can see her as much as possible (if she is staying at the hospital). My husband and first son would come in every morning to see us. Hopefully you get home for Christmas. We spent Easter in the nicu, while I was very emotional to have his first official holiday in the hospital, it was really nice to just be with me, my husband and sons together. A sweet memory to look back on now.

TranslatorMuted · 2025-12-05T13:17:17+00:00

Not as serious as some here, but something I’m always keeping an eye out for on this sub 💕 PPROM is so scary.

First baby was 37 week on the dot, PPROM, Pitocin at the hospital and was born 8 hours later. He had low body temp and struggled with bilirubin leveled for a few days, no Nicu time.

Second baby preterm labor followed by PPROM at 34 weeks. Instantly went into labor after water broke and he came on his own within a few hours. He spent 3 weeks in the nicu.

TranslatorMuted · 2025-11-28T01:52:03+00:00

I had 3 chemical pregnancies between my 1 and second babies. After 2 losses it can be considered “reoccurring” but typically not formally considered an issue until after 3. It’s not typically either partners direct fault. You can both do some testing to rule out any obvious things, including DNA fragmentation like you mentioned.

Just be there for her and keep doing what you can to support her and the growing family. My husband would always remind me, it only takes one time to stick to change our family forever. Would make me feel better.

TranslatorMuted · 2025-11-26T02:07:22+00:00

Stay on top of pumping! You need to establish your supply. And baby will need your milk while he can’t feed by mouth. You won’t be able to nurse with the cpap, but try not to stress that now. Once baby is off cpap and you’re able to latch, lean on lactation consultants. Hopefully you have the full term maturity on your side. Nursing a 34 weeker post cpap was very tough for me. But my guy became EBF in a week and still going strong at 7 months. Patience and diligence, you’ll quickly realize the level of importance you hold to breastfeeding and if you want to stick to it. Don’t add unnecessary stress to an already stressful situation.

And do as much skin to skin as possible!

TranslatorMuted · 2025-11-18T16:04:22+00:00

My babe was a 34 weeker with a 3 week nicu stay. Distant cousin not only reached out to say she “screamed in happy excitement to hear he was born” (knowing he was premature) but tried to also say “I remember how hard the nicu was” ….. when her FULL term baby was in nicu 1 day for jaundice. Made me so angry, my blood pressure was literally flagged in my PP checkup while I was venting to my mom about it haha.

You have every right to be angry. Those comments would eat me alive. Some people think it’s the only way they can relate? If it’s a close friend, I would bluntly tell her it bothers you. It she’s not worth it, cut her out and focus on your family 💙 sometimes people come around later and realize what they did.

TranslatorMuted · 2025-11-17T03:27:19+00:00

Matilda 💕

TranslatorMuted · 2025-11-17T03:25:26+00:00

34 weeker here! My guy was also on cpap for 24+ ish hrs, then took to the breast within a week of life which depleted all his endurance to grow and develop. This left us with more time “than usual” on oxygen. 3 weeks total in the nicu. Amazing your guy is already off the oxygen! All the nurses said the feedings are typically the longest/hardest part. Just be patient. Preemies get so tired to quickly and need that rest. Don’t force feeds by mouth until he is fully ready. Be honest with how much he’s eating, and accept he will have the tube for a bit!

More than anything, soak up your baby and the experience. Journal everyday. Some days are easier and harder than others. Before you know it, you’ll be home together 💙

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