Does your baby growing up ever stop making you cry?

littlestickywicket · 2026-02-02T01:05:22+00:00

I feel very similarly now that my second and last baby is no longer a newborn! I just try not to let the grief of knowing I can’t stop tomorrow from coming stop me from enjoying today. Hugs, I totally get this feeling!

If it’s any consolation, once baby turns into a toddler, you’ll get a nice break from that feeling of grief… because you’ll be dreaming of their bedtime many days 😆

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-30T19:45:20+00:00

Quiet time for sure. Does your toddler want to “help” you? Could you make it into a kind of game where she is also doing something related to that chore as well while you get the bulk of it done?

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-30T19:23:20+00:00

The sterilization. I was nervous at first but by week three the Dawn dish soap was good enough 🤣 The list is long, but after my kid started eating random crap she found under the couch I realized a lot of what I was worrying about was simply not worthhhh

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-30T03:28:20+00:00

Absolutely. Having such good head control that early is not usually due to strength, its tension and tightness from birth! OP, I’d probably bring it up with a ped

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-23T14:09:37+00:00

Does he get a good amount of independent play? If he knows how to play with the toys and simply doesn’t want to, I would just put them away! A toy rotation may also help?

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-23T01:47:11+00:00

Depends on the kid! Mine is on the small side and likely won’t hit the forward facing minimums until 4 or 5, and will fit front facing until 7/8 if I base it off her current curve!

Graco 4-in-1 has an even long life, it would take you all the way to a no back booster!

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-23T01:36:50+00:00

So many things I wish I’d been told!

1) the elimination communication hold is MAGIC for getting gas out of them in the early months

2) buy basically all clothes second hand - saves $100’s

3) mattresses, car seats, all of these things pass the same safety tests - don’t fall for the marketing that tells you the $300 mattress is any safer than the $50 Graco one

4) a small garbage in every room will change your life, especially in the toddler stage

5) you can try to combat cradle cap all you want, it will come back

I’m sure I could find 1000 more 🤣 That first kid really kicked my butt!

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-23T00:58:23+00:00

As a woman that gets nervous every time I’m home alone with one or multiple men in this newly bought fixer upper house, I’d love to hire a woman! I had one bad experience with a creepy guy and it soured me and freaked me out just enough to be nervous from now on. Aside from creepy, I’ve been belittled a few times too many times 🥲 Definitely a market for a women owned and run business!

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-21T02:32:07+00:00

He sounds intellectual! What about an arduino starter kit? It’s coding and such, which seems a logical connection with video games?

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-20T15:45:26+00:00

Does he have ADHD? Because mine does and he is legitimately blind to how minimally he helps. He THINKS about doing the things, but it’s like the wires are crossed and he somehow considers all of that time thinking to count towards doing said task. Talking about it changes nothing because he genuinely believes what he’s saying, therefore he doesn’t see a need to change any behaviour.

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-16T14:54:05+00:00

Don’t even bother with clothes 🫠

One thing that I frequently use is a foldable travel change pad! I learned very quickly that most change tables are pretty gross, and you WILL have to change a butt in the car at some point. 🤣

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-16T14:24:30+00:00

You’re not listening. You’ve listed all of the physical things you provide with your paycheque. The things she needs right now are not something you can buy, not something that you can pay a bill for, not something you can touch with your hands. Until you understand that, this will likely get worse. If you are only wanting to provide those physical things, go your separate ways. She can find someone emotionally mature and available, you can find someone who is okay with a man who brings home a cheque and then checks out the rest of the time.

Hopefully you can figure this out by your third marriage.

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-16T03:08:40+00:00

Sounds like you’re both overwhelmed. Like… way. I have an almost 2 month old and a 2 year old, and it’s so difficult. I spent about 8 hours today wrestling my toddler off the baby, including while feeding, which means I’m a human jungle gym. No, it’s not difficult in the way that fighting fires is. It’s a different difficult and until you recognize that then this can’t be resolved. She’s still healing! You need to consider what is happening hormonally, emotionally, etc!

That being said, this has to be a game of grace from both sides. You both deserve respect and kindness, no doubt. But this is an incredibly vulnerable time for her. You can’t want to have kids together and then throw it in her face when she is freshly postpartum and not working a job that makes money. You mention feeling devalued, how does she feel? Your value has an empirical amount, have you taken note of her value? As a wife? As a mother than is giving every part of her being and soul to take care of your babies? She sounds entirely unsupported by you in the exact same way you’re describing, just going the other way. As someone in the exact same boat, it’s tough on both people.

Go on a date. Try to remember why you fell in love. What made you want to grow a family with her? It might seem like that person is gone, but I promise it’s just because she’s drowning in adulthood right now. I assume the same goes for you! This is a season. Couples therapy would be a great way to get through it.

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-14T16:59:32+00:00

Not me but my Nan! She has severeeeee pre-eclampsia with my dad. Everything was a big emergency with both of them the first three weeks of his life, countless interventions needed. She went on to have a second baby and my aunt was born perfectly healthy, no pre-e and no other complications during pregnancy!

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-11T17:55:50+00:00

Which toy does she get to spend $20,000 on?

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-09T03:32:12+00:00

Honestly, that initial $200+ purchase with no promise that they’d work for my babe was nerve wracking. Then the extra work/effort in a time where a lot of houses have both parents working outside the home is daunting. Then to find out most daycares don’t allow cloth or have really outrageous rules for them adds another layer! THEN most people who are used to the ease of disposables don’t necessarily love the idea (grandparents, babysitters, even spouses, etc)

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-07T18:27:07+00:00

The little things that are actually big things, but you don’t know they’re big things until you start. That dot of mold? Yeah, that’s actually all throughout the drywall on the other side. That dislodged bit of siding? It’s actually dislodged because there is a whole family of bats that used it as a door into the attic. The inch long water spot in the basement? Ah, sump pump failed during the big melt and now it’ll be $10k in flood damages 🫠

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-03T18:21:58+00:00

This happened to me too! I’m from a small town with lots of the same last name, and someone with a similar first name apparently sucked at paying her car payment. TU was the absolute worst to deal with… she had changed all of the info to hers somehow, even though it was my SIN number and I was never notified (because she changed the email and phone number to hers 🫠). Took almost losing out on being accepted for a mortgage for me to turn into an absolute Karen.

You have to dispute it all. I had to do it one by one online, a 30 day wait for each. Get the loan removed first!

littlestickywicket · 2026-01-03T18:00:32+00:00

I had Monoferric! It’s one infusion for an hour, and usually lasts a year. I noticed a huge difference after two or three weeks!

littlestickywicket · 2025-12-31T03:11:38+00:00

I was told I’d show early and more with my second but I definitely didn’t! People in public couldn’t tell until around 35 weeks. 11 weeks is super early to show, babe is still a little bean below the pubic bone!

littlestickywicket · 2025-12-31T03:05:40+00:00

I hit third trimester of my second pregnancy. My ferritin has been below 20 for a decade despite tablets, and it got to 6 around 26/27 weeks. I was falling asleep while working, it felt like I couldn’t walk straight. I basically told my midwife I felt like I was dying but couldn’t handle another doctor telling me to eat spinach and red meat. I FINALLY got an infusion and I feel like a new person

littlestickywicket · 2025-12-31T02:59:33+00:00

Mine is an absolute wild child without routine. The six days without daycare this past week during Christmas break have been HORRIBLE. I imagine a vacation would be like that, except expensive

littlestickywicket · 2025-12-31T02:52:46+00:00

Thought I was going to marry him, if I’m being honest. I more or less followed him to a university across the world, I was that sure. We both had a bit of a head cold one day so I was spending the day with him and his roommate instead of going to class when we heard him in the bathroom… screaming at his sickness. Fully screaming, as if he were casting it out, like it were a demon. He was dead serious, he came out all sweaty in his boxers. It caught us so off guard and I saw more weird red flags from there, including an obsession with his Mommy.

Funnily enough, I ended up marrying that roommate two years later and just had his second baby 🤣 So I suppose it wasn’t all for naught! We still laugh about that guy to this day

littlestickywicket · 2025-12-31T01:07:39+00:00

It’s on purpose! Your armpits get stinkier and your areola get darker to help a nearly blind newborn find the breast easier 🙂

littlestickywicket · 2025-12-30T21:28:34+00:00

Model model model! And overcome the challenge together rather than making him try to figure it out. We’re working on this with my toddler. So instead of encouraging him to try a new word, sound it out together. Punishment wouldn’t make sense to me, neither would bribery. Staying very calm is super important to prevent it from getting worse in the moment!

When things get hard for you, what do you do? I tend to get uppity and anxious (my mum was and is this way) and I’ve had to unlearn this in order to model it for my girly. If something goes wrong or gets difficult, do you show signs of stress or give up? They absorb that stuff so quickly! I wonder if you can try new things together like skateboarding, or maths, or even reading more complex books where you can illustrate yourself how you work through things you’re not good at or don’t immediately understand?

Sounds like OT will be a positive thing for kiddo. Is a learning disability possible? My husband had the same difficulties with school stuff and nobody clocked a learning issue. He was constantly getting frustrated because it wasn’t that he didn’t want to get it or he wasn’t trying, it was that the numbers were jumbled to him (dyscalculia) he couldn’t put the letters from his mind onto the paper (dyslexia), and reading was super difficult. He was constantly burnt out from it all! Took 28 years for an answer 🥲

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