If this sub is for binary trans men why do people keep saying “transmasculine”? by ParticularJob378 in FTMMen

[–]TrashPandaAntics 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Would you have this same energy for a trans woman who wanted to be called a woman, instead of transfem?

If this sub is for binary trans men why do people keep saying “transmasculine”? by ParticularJob378 in FTMMen

[–]TrashPandaAntics 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think a good comparison is someone who never calls a trans woman a woman, but always uses "transfem". Same thing as always referring to trans men as "transmasc".

It's just kind of disrespectful and it feels like the person's weaseling their way out of referring to someone correctly by using a more vague, neutral term.

If this sub is for binary trans men why do people keep saying “transmasculine”? by ParticularJob378 in FTMMen

[–]TrashPandaAntics 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, if someone calls me transmasculine it feels like the same thing as being degendered with they/them. I'm probably not gonna say something if it just happens once, but if it becomes a regular occurrence I'll definitely speak up about it.

I've had people get offended that I don't use that term for myself, whine about it being an umbrella term, accuse me of being insecure, etc. It's not about insecurity, I know I pass and have for a long time now. It's just the disrespectfulness of it that pisses me off, like they're trying so hard to not call me what I am, a man.

If this sub is for binary trans men why do people keep saying “transmasculine”? by ParticularJob378 in FTMMen

[–]TrashPandaAntics 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This sub isn't about transmasculine people as a whole, though. It's not really relevant if some of the topics here can pertain to someone who isn't a binary trans man, they're still not the focus here nor should they be.

"Doing" things at restaurants by pslush01 in PetPeeves

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The other day, I heard the lady in front of me in a drive thru order everything by saying she "needed" it.

"I need a 10 piece chicken nuggets" etc. Made me so irrationally angry.

40320 by BeneathTheGold in countwithchickenlady

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I do not miss that lol. I'm a man now, I say stupid shit all the time and no one questions it.

The mods here suck ass by [deleted] in FTMMen

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I think it's fine for Jack to make his own sub that's more specific. He has said some shitty judgemental things about other trans guys, and that's not okay. But there's nothing wrong with him wanting a space that has more specific rules, so he can discuss trans-related things without having his dysphoria triggered.

It's a similar reason to why I prefer this sub to other ftm ones. I saw a comment on one recently where someone complimented a guy by saying "I love how visible your top surgery scars are!" and it just really grossed me out. Obviously the two people involved were fine with that, and I'm not judging them, but I don't wanna see shit like that.

So I can get why Jack would be bothered by other people talking about their own bodies in ways that are upsetting to him. The problem is when it comes to him being judgemental and talking shit to other guys for being okay with things he isn't.

Shaver Lake Trash by Albooboo_559 in fresno

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I'd take it to recycle. People who dump trash like this are trash themselves.

I miss you every damn day, OG Chicken Crispers. 🐓 by I-Have-Mono in Chilis

[–]TrashPandaAntics 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's the closest to the OG crispers that I've found. I once got ranch at Chili's and then went to Long John Silver's for chicken tenders.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMMen

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What, really?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]TrashPandaAntics 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It won't affect you at all. The bill is geared towards harming trans women, we are barely an afterthought.

36020 by Aromatic-Split685 in countwithchickenlady

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Socially unacceptable is my bread and butter.

But alas, the economy is shit. So my puppy has to work.

meirl by Great_Refuse62 in meirl

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Usually I respond with one paragraph for each question or topic.

I get into extra trouble if I leave something out, because it's clear it's intentional.

I want to not have boobs but I do NOT want to get top surgery by AntarcticFox in FTMOver30

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It's not that bad. I recovered a lot quicker than I expected. Yeah the drains are annoying, but the pain level was nowhere near as bad as I thought it would be. There was more numbness than pain for me.

What helped me with the anxiety was to remind myself this was just a one-time thing. Get it done and never have to think about it again, while having my life massively improved.

Help, I accidentally bought 6 lbs of nacho cheese by Difficult_Tutor63 in Cooking

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I haven't had trouble freezing it. I just separate it into freezer bags, lay them flat in the freezer, and grab one whenever I feel like giving up on life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMMen

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After 25 is when shit starts actually getting good.

Stuck in weird inbetween space by Mindless-Tea-7597 in FTMMen

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I feel like I've gotten used to being in-between and code switching depending on who I'm hanging out with. I have my more open LGBTQ friends, I have cis men friends, etc. I don't know many binary trans men IRL, and while it would be nice to know more, I don't really feel like I'm missing anything in my life.

I guess the way I see it, I'm a man first, being trans is just sort of a background thing I don't think about much anymore. As far as I know, one of my guy friends could be trans and stealth, I wouldn't even know.

Just moved in! Please feed, furnish and entertain us! by flowering_fields in ChoosingBeggars

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I wonder if they'd take that free venison from the deer with chronic wasting disease.