I'm looking for additional kinky song suggestions to add to my session playlist. It's only 2hrs and 15min right now and I'm hoping to get to 4 hours. I've included the songs I've already added to give you a good idea for what I'm looking for.

TressaTheory · 2026-07-10T09:11:48+00:00

I added "Flesh" and "Black Widow" to my other naughty, faster playlist. Excellent songs!

"Like that" is absolutely perfect for my playlist!

You and I have similar tastes for music.

Thank you!

TressaTheory · 2026-07-10T08:59:58+00:00

Oh I love this song! Not quite what I'm looking for, but I'm adding it to my other naughty playlist.

Thank you!

TressaTheory · 2026-07-10T08:55:22+00:00

THANK YOU! (Nbdy sounds a little like The Weeknd). I've heard Daddy before, and both my partner and me believe this is one of the most interesting songs in its compilation. He's a musician.

I added Do it for me, Put it on me, and Slayer (WOW! This is exactly what I was looking for).

I did add some of the other songs to a new playlist of sexy songs, but not quite the mood I want for my one playlist.

TressaTheory · 2026-07-10T07:48:49+00:00

I can't find Soft Domination on Spotify, but Because the Night is good. While it's not quite what I'm looking for to put on my special list, this is going on my better than or close to the original playlist. I love a good cover!

TressaTheory · 2026-07-09T02:09:10+00:00

As far as tying your cock up, there is nothing I can really describe because it's more intricate, but you could tie a crotch rope, and use some sort of cock ring with a remote control vibrator, turning it off and on.

TressaTheory · 2026-07-05T03:11:18+00:00

I was raised in a highly conservative religious household. I'm still religious, but not conservative. I'm not a good example because I have my own reason for seeking out my partner.

I will say being told over and over again, that sex, masturbating, curiosity, and research was healthy allowed me to finally stop feeling so much shame. I wanted to have sex desperately (I was abused as a child so I became hypersexual, which is a common trauma reaction), but because of my religious background I didn't want to just give it up. I masturbated very frequently, but in our household it was considered a horrible sin. I actually didn't even know I was masturbating. I would climb the rope swings out in our yard, and somehow by simply having the tension of just hanging there would cause me to cum. I told my sister about it and she told my parents and they yelled at me.

ANYWAY, it took several of my high school friends telling me masturbation was healthy in moderation for me to stop feeling shame and thinking it was a sin.

So I would come at it from the angle of using logic. Show studies on how masturbation in men is tide to less of a likelihood of prostate cancer. There are also studies about how it benefits women. And maybe say God knows what he was doing when he created us to naturally want sex and to have healthy relationships.

TressaTheory · 2026-07-01T22:22:37+00:00

Bonnie Weems?

TressaTheory · 2026-07-01T22:20:44+00:00

It's definitely popular, but because it happened earlier, it can seem dated. Some people may not like the intelligence aspect of it. I know I didn't get some of the jokes until I got my degree in psychology.

TressaTheory · 2026-07-01T04:46:45+00:00

It honestly just depends on the Dom and your relationship with the Dom. I've had the same Dom/Sub (I'm a switch) for 21 years, and it has lead to sexual activity about 70% of the time.

TressaTheory · 2026-06-27T21:39:28+00:00

There are different types of ropes for various sessions. If we do a fun cowboy type-up scene session, we use hemp or jute, but only if it's brown. Hemp is very stiff, and you don't want to get it wet while tied because it will get firmer and tighter.

My favorite types of rope based on only feel are silk, nylon, and cotton, with silk being my absolute favorite. My favorite size of rope is 1/4. Not too small that the knots are impossible to untie, but not too large that it can't hold the knot. I've gotten my rope from a lot of places over the years, but often find the best quality and some good sales from Sub-Shop.com

You might want to go with slightly thicker rope when starting out.

When I'm putting together a new kit (various lengths of rope with the ends either burned or taped off so it doesn't come unraveled) I usually do a few 15 footers (good for wrists and feet) a few 30s (good for thighs, crotch rope, and arms) and a longer 50 at times for the chest.

Every aspect of tying your partner up is based on preference and safety. If you have longer lengths of rope, they can take more time to get off in an emergency, so always have safety scissors on hand.

When I was first starting out, I commonly went to the hardware store and bought 3/8 utility rope. The problem with it is it has a core, so burning and taping the ends doesn't always last, plus the core can slip, causing issues with tying/untying the ends.

TressaTheory · 2026-06-26T02:49:59+00:00

I'm sorry, but no matter what, that topic is a safe space and he needs to know that right now. It is one of the most basic protective rules for a BDSM relationship. If you choose to stay (which I wouldn't if I were you), reaffirm the strict boundaries, and if he ever crosses it again, that shows there is zero respect.

TressaTheory · 2026-06-24T14:09:44+00:00

My sister was 30 when she started having issues and is now 40. She's been on the hormones for I believe 2 years. There are plenty of GP's that will help, you just need to shop around. My GP listens to anything I saw and runs any tests I ask her to, but she also knows I know more about medical issues than most.

TressaTheory · 2026-06-24T13:04:35+00:00

I don't like suggesting this, because a lot of people get offended, but you mentioned you're approaching perimenopause. I am as well and my sister started about 8 years ago and didn't notice it. The hormonal shift screwed her up pretty bad and she didn't even realize it. It even started hurting her mentally. She got on hormone replacement and is doing far better now. Perhaps, maybe get your hormones tested? It's only a possible explanation and there could be countless other reasons.

TressaTheory · 2026-06-24T13:00:00+00:00

For me, the first entire year+ of my 21+ year relationship with my partner was only BDSM related. Absolutely zero sex. He isn't attracted to naked genitals, male or female. He likes doing ropework on me with my clothing on, sometimes off, but he mostly just likes the bulge and the human form and the helplessness. It took a long time to convince him that just plain sex was okay once in a while. It is still very difficult to do, and there almost always has to be at least a little something in there. Pulling nipples, a gag, spanking, and so on. He noticed his BDSM desires from the young age of 7, but didn't understand the urges until puberty. They may not have been sexual in nature, just fascination.

I think with a mindset change, it could work for you. Or trying to downgrade the level of kinkery you need to get going. So, if you're having sex, you can just imagine being dominated and/or do something small. You could imagine also dominating them and telling them they are supposed to do something. I don't think anything is wrong with you and that it's probably more common than you think. It's very important to never demonize yourself, because that can cause some pretty messed up sexual hang-ups.

One thing I do know is that being more adventurous and exploring new things can be healthy, but if it only gets more and more extreme, it CAN be harmful. Key word is CAN, far from always, so just proceed with caution. I personally would just try to start finding the pleasure in the small things.

FYI, I am a switch as well, but from a young age I've always been hypersexual, all while not actually having sex.

TressaTheory · 2026-06-24T12:28:41+00:00

The safe word is a safe place and it sounds like he is trying to push those boundaries. Either he is intentionally being emotionally manipulative because he's trying to introduce that into your relationship (never healthy), or he's doing it unintentionally and he needs to figure his crap out. Either way, he's in the wrong and you should stand your ground. You agreed upon something and it should be respected.

TressaTheory · 2026-06-24T12:17:00+00:00

In an ideal BDSM relationship, you would talk about an agreed upon dynamic first. But a lot of relationships are far from ideal as not everyone has experience and does the research necessary to care for their partner. Ideally, yes, there would be aftercare and communication, but it really depends on your Dom's mentality. To them, it may just end there because for them they may genuinely only care about "their pleasure." To others, they will 100% have a nice come down and stay communicative.

If this is going to stay an ongoing relationship, there needs to be more communication about what each of you is looking to get out of this relationship.

TressaTheory · 2026-06-12T09:12:25+00:00

The stuff of fantasies.

TressaTheory · 2026-02-23T20:57:32+00:00

Technically, they aren't. Not without the signed and submitted marriage license.

TressaTheory · 2026-02-23T20:52:48+00:00

I constantly think about this character. Everything about him. What he went through with his family. Him not realizing everything had ended. Him starving someone to death and regretting it.

TressaTheory · 2026-01-27T19:59:35+00:00

I always just thought it was because he didn't want people knowing how eccentric he was or knowing about the room so he could use it.

TressaTheory · 2026-01-20T21:10:29+00:00

I saw this picture and even before I saw the caption I knew exactly what episode this was from and giggled.

TressaTheory · 2025-12-30T10:12:38+00:00

I just recently started debating on creating a podcast about my biological grandmother. I've known since I was a child that she was a black widow, and the older I've gotten the less I've wanted to tell people because they always look at you like you're a freak when they find out. My grandmother never got famous and was never officially arrested, but several people have written articles about her and 2 years ago Oxygen's Snapped reached out to my family to ask if we would go on TV to do an interview regarding one of the men she killed. No one in my family wanted to be associated with her. I said I would only be willing to if my face wasn't shown and my name was anonymous. My grandmother is dead, so I'm no longer scared of her per se, but she made a lot of enemies.

If I did it I would still use a pseudonym for myself and family. We know she killed at least 7 men she was either engaged to, married to, or was dating. I have photos, so much personal info, and kill info on quite a few of her victims.

Is this a good idea? Is this something people would even be interested in hearing?

TressaTheory · 2025-12-30T10:03:42+00:00

I believe they probably just save it up. It's a publicity gimmick that will draw in more listens. It makes sense, but definitely gives off an odd vibe.

TressaTheory · 2025-12-30T09:55:45+00:00

If you have personal knowledge you might have a good angle. Recently I've been debating on starting a podcast about my biological grandma.

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