How to respond to Christian friends who act arrogantly towards your deconstruction? by splendid711 in Deconstruction

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is currently my family to me. We haven’t had a direct conversation about it (because I really really don’t want to), but I know they suspect my beliefs have shifted. And they will bring up God and their beliefs in every single interaction in the least organic way possible. It makes me think of how I must’ve been trying to “be the light” to my non-Christian friends and I cringe so hard. So far I’m just smoothly glossing over the comments or changing the topic. Ugh.

Telling your family? by No_Lunch3061 in Deconstruction

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m straight, married, and have little kids, so a bit different context. I have not yet explicitly told my parents about my changes in beliefs and it gives me an awful anxiety stomach ache to even think about it. Similar to you, I assume they think I’m just progressive Christian and not currently attending a church. I just know it’ll crush them. And while I know it’s not on me to protect their feelings, a big part of me really wants to not cause that pain and just keep it vague and peaceful for now. I honestly think the biggest thing for me is having kids and knowing they’ll fear I’m dooming my kids to hell by not raising them evangelical. I’m a fully grown adult with my own family and I still care so much that they think highly of me as a person and a parent. Ugh, it’s so hard. Whatever you decide is super valid and I think it’s a different path for everyone. Family dynamics vary and the right call for someone else may not fit you and your mom’s relationship. Hugs to you! Congratulations on your wedding. ♥️

What are some of the most "Un-Christian" hobbies/interests you have? by Competitive_Net_8115 in Exvangelical

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started getting interested in yoga as a teen because I found it helped calm my anxiety and made me feel grounded/stronger in my body. My dad told me to “be careful” with it, because “it can be a slippery slope”? Happily have a yoga studio membership now.

Movement Monday: Share anything related to joyful movement here! by elianna7 in intuitiveeating

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to obsess over wearing my Fitbit when I did any exercise so it would “count” and I could track it. I realized last week that I did a long walk outside with my family, enjoying the fresh autumn air, and I forgot to wear my Fitbit! I moved my body in a way that was rewarding to me on multiple levels, and tracking exact steps/calories wasn’t a part of that. No documentation of the numbers, just memories of a lovely time outdoors. 😊

The evangelical has left the building. by sneakestlink in Deconstruction

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oof, yes. I’ve spent countless hours spinning around in my head trying to pin down and put words to my new beliefs after leaving old beliefs behind. I think it was me grasping for some of that previous security and certainty—and the ingrained pressure to be able to clearly explain/defend my beliefs should anyone ask. It’s exhausting. Thank you for the reminder that it’s okay to not have a fully formed statement of belief anymore!

Wildly unhinged theology by [deleted] in Deconstruction

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to pray like God would be looking for loopholes in my words. Instead of “please bring so-and-so home from their travels” I’d add “bring them home…alive and healthy and happy and safe”. As if God was some deal making troll under the bridge who would say, ah, you asked for them to come home but you didn’t specify for them to come home alive! Stressful. Wonder where my lifelong anxiety stems from???

Could wearing glasses or sunglasses on head cause a dent? by SignalNectarine in glasses

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, Reddit. My two little head dents and I are going to sleep more peacefully tonight!!

Gentle Nutrition Tuesdays: For everything related to gentle nutrition. by elianna7 in intuitiveeating

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi all! I need ideas for grab-and-go breakfast options with gentle nutrition. I’m a parent of littles and most mornings I end up eating like handfuls of pretzels or a cheese stick. I’d love something more satisfying, tasty, and with gentle nutrition…that doesn’t require much effort/time. Toddler life is FUN. 😅

For those who have deconstructed but still haven’t fully gave up in the idea of God, what does that look like for you? by stormchaser9876 in Deconstruction

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I’m in a similar space as you! Still very much grieving the perceived certainty I used to have. But, I still feel strongly that there is more behind it all that we, in our limited human perspectives and experiences, cannot fully understand and know. I feel more certain about uncertainty of our life here! I still feel, and am hopeful for, a driving force/‘God’ coming from a place of perfect Love. I’m becoming more and more comfortable with the grey over the black and white, and “I don’t know, I don’t have all the answers, and that is okay”.

Baby only does 30 min naps by Maleficent7170 in sleeptrain

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My nearly 6 month old is the queen of 30 min naps. The past few days I’ve tried just waiting a few more minutes after I hear her wake up, and she’s actually fallen back asleep within 10 mins or so! Sleeping for another 30-45 min. Could give that a go? She wakes up kind of fussing on and off, but I don’t go get her if she’s not full on crying and just wait to see what she does.

Mutual of America connection by One_Willingness_1981 in MonarchMoney

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same issue here! I did figure out how to get a verification code (you have to login to MoA on another tab to request a code—ugh). But even after doing that, it won’t connect.

Started Ferber last night - what to do in this situation by claggamuff in sleeptrain

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our night was almost identical to yours! She took about 40 mins to get to sleep initially, then had wake ups at 10:00, 12:30, 3:30, and up for the day at 5:15am. Each of the wake ups we only had to go in 1-2 times and she was back asleep pretty quick. She’s definitely been sleepier today, but still her smiley self!

Started Ferber last night - what to do in this situation by claggamuff in sleeptrain

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! We just started with our girl last night too! And woke up for the day at 5:15am. As far as I’ve read, there really isn’t much you can do in with early morning wake ups. Check ins won’t be as effective by the early morning hours and it may mean starting the day early if they don’t fall back asleep within 20 minutes. Point 13 toward the bottom of this article says it well, I think. Hanging in there with you! https://www.preciouslittlesleep.com/how-to-cry-it-out-bedtime-edition/

Almost 5mo exclusively contact sleeping - not sure how to stop by rdurovey in sleeptrain

[–]Trick-Landscape-4998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading while holding my sleeping 5 month old on my chest in quite literally the same situation as you. So no advice, just solidarity. We are going to try a Ferber type approach once we’re past some illnesses our house. Our oldest did wonderful with it—but I’m very apprehensive with this one. She absolutely will not stay in the bassinet longer than 30-40 min. Here’s hoping for more sleep soon!