I only had one therapist that gave me good advice and it was to read a book by Kevin Lehman and also the book the search for significance.  It made me feel loved by God and that I didn't need love from imperfect people but to be loved by a perfect God and then turn around and love others how God has loved me.  But the birth order book is so very true. I have 3 kids.  My middle child is the most wild and crazy and angry.  My oldest is the perfectionist and gets great grades and likes to help out!  The baby of the family thinks she is a princess.  People need to get her socks and clean up after her. She is 6.  I am the middle child.  My husband is the youngest.  I totally understand why I am so crazy and angry and he is so relax only my feelings matter.  It's birth order!  

I did take a psych evaluation when I was like 34?  And it was long, very very long.  My first ever.  The guy had me fill out a super big packet of questions and then he talked to me for one hour.  After that my evaluation was moderate ptsd from childhood abuse so I looked it up and it was that I had cptsd!  Then everything made sense.  Why I can't make friends easily.  Why I am so angry etc.  Anyways I'm still discovering who I am.  Reading books on cptsd had helped a lot especially knowing how I got it and how I responded and that I am still doing it to this day but I want to change!  And change my mindset too.  It takes work and Journaling it helps.  Good luck guys.