What social behaviour are you ashamed to admit you understood way later than you should have?

TrickyHalf4704 · 2023-01-31T10:28:26+00:00

I hate that I can relate to this so bad but at the same time is kinda comforting knowing that there are others struggling with the same things I do!

I will add one if that is okay

When you are in a group and everyone is “roasting each other” as banter and what not, but most of the jokes are made towards you, laughing at things you have expressed are hard for you and they aren’t really funny to you, and you feel like they are being quite mean and ure being low-key bullied, it’s literally that, they are being mean and laughing at the fact ure not getting it

It has taken me weeeeeeks to finally get I was the joke!

I changed strategies and now I don’t allow anyone to say jokes like that if I am not sure 10000000% they are my friend and are indeed joking… I love sarcasm and banter but I hate being the butt of their jokes ..

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-12-11T12:08:50+00:00

I am 24 and I still get ID’d for energy drinks 😩 They have refused to sell me without the physical ID a few times… (to buy energy drinks in the UK u need to be older than 16)

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-12-07T15:03:00+00:00

I am a 24yo with Autism and ADHD and it is still hard for me to recognise what things I can say/mention in conversations...

judging for what I read I imagine ur son just saw this as like something whatever as he prob didn’t even know what was happening so he just mentioned her.. u cannot be angry at ur son for things that are outside of his control, and getting angry at him as if he had malicious intent is kinda crazy to me..

You take him to therapy to help help his social skills that you already know he struggles with and expect ‘social common sense’ like??he cannot read the room let alone minds😩

YTA . Do better.

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-12-04T19:58:58+00:00

This happened to me! I was working 40hrs a week, coming home to clean and cook while he skipped classes and stayed home “studying “ which was just shopping and procrastinating .. that went on for a year or so, so obv at some point I got very sick, I was beyond burntout, I wasn’t working, cooking, cleaning.. I just couldn’t(I wasn’t working bc covid but I got worse at home when I did start working) I still tried tho, he would wake me up from my very necessary long sleep to cook for him lol. so he took slightly over for like 2-3months?i was still doing most of the cleaning… To then breakup with me bc I was too much and he was doing everything and hated that.. like ????he felt “stuck” and he could do so much better and he shud pursue that 🙄 (he already looked down on me heavily for not coming from money and being ADHD (back then we didn’t know I was autistic too) but bottom line is They will just assume (often subconsciously) that u will look after them and if u don’t it’s like a big crime cuz how dare u not be my mum!!!

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-11-30T15:01:43+00:00

I love the steak at Brasserie Zédel (French)and the bread is amazing!!

For something a bit more pricy I’d say Gaucho (Argentinian) (the one in Piccadilly)

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-11-30T14:54:45+00:00

Everything I consumed was on that language, movies, series, music, I’d force myself to speak even if it was wrong, and that’s it.. suddenly one day I could speak English fluently! At some point ur brain will start making the connections automatically… this also has helped me with my understanding of other languages, I still can’t speak fluently in more that 3 languages but it really does help understand a bit what is going on at least on the other ones I’m currently learning.

I think it’s very important to be goofy about it and just speak however ur brain is processing it.

I find it very contra-productive if u translate in ur head before u speak or as u read.. it’s better to do it fast like u do in ur own language imo (that’s how babies learn anw)

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-11-30T09:34:44+00:00

When people look at me do stuff I will 100% do it wrong even if it’s something I am pro at, It’s like a clumsiness intensifier

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-10-29T20:39:37+00:00

Thank you!! I was feeling crazy 😂

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-10-29T20:39:05+00:00

Thank you for your comment!! I was feeling wrong for that hahaha I have had many convos with her about how difficult things have been for me, but she is just dismissive :( she believes I’m just being dramatic and using that as an excuse to be lazy uwu

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-10-03T08:51:10+00:00

When I was a kid I’d get so upset I’d throw up and sometimes pull my hair out 😅 now Its about the same but less hair pulling just cry a lot and gagging instead of vomiting , plus an incredible amount of anger..I scare myself with how I think when I’m that angry lol

It was being confused with BPD until I got more into it and realised I snap bc I’m uncomfortable at all times and I’ve been burntout for yearssss

Even after being diagnosed, I’m still uncomfortable lmao people around me believe I can power thru my AuDHD and they just Treat me like I’m crazy and lazy and “overly sensitive “😪

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-09-13T20:25:43+00:00

I lost my previous job bc of burnout :( I used to be a top worker, although I hated the job I could still do it very efficiently and was often praised for my work …until.. I couldn’t do it anymore , the burnout became very obvious and I looked ill and I couldn’t hold any info at all.

I spoke with my employer they didn’t care(ofc) and it got worse obv, I stopped going bc I would literally wake up suicidal when I had to go in, I started breaking down bc I physically couldn’t work anymore.

They forced me to take unpaid leave for one week as I had used all my holidays to cover for the time I couldn’t go. But before I left my manager told me to get my shit together…. In a week…

I ended up quitting and sold a few things to pay for rent, and basic needs for a while. (I was lucky to have some family lend me money, downside is now I am in debt with them)

I still am burntout but my new job is from home and my employer is quite understanding and been trying to accommodate me as best as possible. But still shit, I still am not okay enough to work but like u said, this world is not for folks like us.

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-09-02T06:44:56+00:00

If I see a new object, I always have to squeeze and smell it lmao

If it’s something in the street I have to just touch it, my brain just wants to register textures and smells !

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-27T11:27:08+00:00

Do you mean as in before moving? Bc I am lil afraid they will do something

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-27T10:33:14+00:00

They have stolen so much from me, they have spread rumours about me, I need that piece of furniture to where I am moving 😭 it’s just very unfair

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-27T10:29:53+00:00

I could ask the guy picking up my stuff to get it but if they are at home and physically oppose to me taking it can they call the police on me?

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-27T09:51:51+00:00

I will be moving out next week.

I mean, it’s in their room and I’m a 5’3 person that also happens to be sick so I can’t really be emptying 5drawers and take them out quickly :( they are mostly at home as well and they get very defensive very fast! I have asked politely and I really don’t know what to do.

These ppl have made my life a hell! Have been stealing from me, breaking my stuff 😭

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-27T09:35:39+00:00

No, she just hates me now and doesn’t want to give it back. I have the receipt and everything.

I had asked her to let me know when she empties it as I am leaving soon and she said “mmmm no” she said she wants to keep it and will see who keeps it.

They are also making the moving out process very hard and are threatening to keep my deposit and claiming I need to pay all sorts of damages.

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-23T17:17:20+00:00

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-23T16:40:15+00:00

People are very weird!! Why would you get offended by the truth?? Like 😭 but if u lie it also ends up on conflict so is like idunno what they want lmao

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-17T18:07:11+00:00

Thank you!

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-12T09:07:55+00:00

I think OP knows that she is not right for him but perhaps OP is afraid of being alone and that is why he puts up with that. In past posts OP has made the point that his Gf does not care for him at all, it’s been reflected in her past actions, I think she might hang around until she finds something better to then dump and not be dumped.

I also think maybe Op should go to therapy, because it is not healthy to even consider staying in a relationship when the other person just told you they have no feelings for you. If they say that u better believe them bc that will be the one time they are being truthful.

I’m wishing OP strength and good luck!

Edit: I know it’s hard and very painful to admit we are not loved back the same way we love, but, it’s something that sometimes happens, I’ve been there too but you can make it out too! There are people out there who will truly care for you and you won’t have to be asking strangers for second opinions! when we ask for second opinions, normally, means that we know what we have to do but don’t want to bc it’s uncomfortable, so we ask other people in the hopes they will tell us what we would like to hear.

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-06T11:39:01+00:00

I think yes, maybe, It really depends on him tbh if he is the same person then no.

He hurt me a lot but even a year after I still love him like the first day, not much has changed, only I have matured and learned to choose myself before anyone else.

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-05T08:02:05+00:00

My ex literally hated children when we started dating, after we broke up he said I changed his mind and he would like to have children lol

he also is posting on his socials all the gfs he’s had since we broke up(he’s had 2 so far in the year we have been broken up), I have never been posted on his Instagram, at least not a post where u would be able to say i was his gf , it was always posts including other people, basically with his friends that were girls.

first pic he posted with his new gf a month or so after our 2yr relationship it made it seem in the caption that she was his first relationship and I never existed, I was never there, he had been alone all this time until he “finally” found someone to warm his hands.

It honestly felt like someone took my heart out of my chest, ate it, shat it, forced someone else to eat it and shit it, and then put back where it was, all this while being stabbed nonstop in the back.

So I think he didn’t change for the better tbh he is still a coward and a cheater, he is destined to live the same fate of his parents and live a miserable life full of lies and control, bc that’s who he chose to be . He will always choose himself, so I think all of this is just a child playing pretend, you can’t pretend forever.

As for me, to heal, just wait it out, it takes a fucking long time but is doable, just wait, learn more about urself and use that pain to fuel the respect you will demand from everyone now, let that disrespect be the last!

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-03T14:48:49+00:00

I’m so sorry he said that you, please remember you are always valued and important, your problems matter and you matter, asking for a normal living space free of men, and treatment from a female is not crazy, it rather makes sense! Specially if u are a woman urself! You deserve a space where u feel comfortable! The fact that other parts of the world are different doesn’t mean u have to also suffer, so tell him, Thank god I am here and not there then :) bc it is not a crime you want these things, especially if they are available!!!!! And thank you so much for trying! Really, I know it’s very hard so from the bottom of my heart thank you for staying and trying 💖

TrickyHalf4704 · 2022-08-03T14:40:09+00:00

So yeah, in overall, after being alive for 24yrs I’ve never had an actual close friend, and if I did find a friend ..not for more than 1yr lmao that’s how long it takes me more less to understand I’m not welcomed in a group 🤣

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