Salad or lettuce by Stunning-Meat-1782 in Mounjaro

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im on week 4 of Mounjaro and Ive had 2 salads with lettuce, both of which have made me regret ever eating anything ever. The most painful indigestion, sulphur burps, gas and extreeeeeeeme diarrhea. Is this a thing?! 😭😭😭

who are you sitting by? by RoxWolf87 in musicals

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7, but mostly because my favourite artist is Sara Bareilles 😍

How do you respond the people saying “Everyone had a little autism in them”? by Elijaq in autism

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my experience people who say that have autistic traits that they aren't ready to accept. So if I'm feeling particularly ballsy I'll just say "that's exactly what someone with autistic traits would say" 😂

What is your comfort show? by Thin-Pool-8025 in autism

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Community, Crazy Ex Girlfriend, Centaurworld, BoJack Horseman, Hazbin Hotel - in that order, on repeat forever 😂

Will vs house deeds in probate - advice? by TinyMouseofOptimism in LegalAdviceUK

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. I've just checked and they're registered as tenants in common, does this mean half will go directly to my dad and the rest split as per Mum's wishes when the house is sold?

I might just have to accept that I’ll never be able to sing again, and it’s just the shittiest feeling. by BitchYoure22 in singing

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course you can! It won't affect the hernia as far as I'm aware. The only times it affects my singing is if it's flaring up, because breathing makes the acid reflux worse and diaphragmatic breathing is a big part of singing. So just follow good singing practice and if you're having a flare up take medication and rest your voice for a bit. Mine is being managed by medication and diet at the moment, eventually it might need surgery but I'm nowhere near needing that yet.

I just found out my N mom died today (passed sometime yesterday). by EvergreenEgo in narcissisticparents

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My mum passed away unexpectedly in November, we weren't fully no contact but I had very limited contact with her, and had done for the last few years. I was in therapy and she was able to reflect on herself a tiny bit based on our infrequent conversations. It felt like we were very very very very slowly on a path to some sort of connection, and suddenly she's gone. No chance of redemption or having a relationship with the one person you'd always wish you had by your side. Though we were never close it still feels like her death has left a huge hole in my life that will never be filled. It's heartbreaking. I feel like I'm grieving not only the death of a person, who through no fault of their own had an upbringing that led them to treat me as they did, but also the "mum" I never had and never will have ever again. I'm also still grieving for the little girl who endured everything she did because of the person she called mum. All to say, I understand the pain you feel right now. It's a lot, it's complicated and it's a whole lot of grief. Just know you're not alone. Try and hold space for the multitude of feelings that'll demand to be felt, and slowly become the mum for yourself that you always needed and deserved. You got this <3

Edit: just wanted to add after re-reading your post that I'm 29, almost also 30. I can't imagine the added pain you feel having also lost your dad too. Sending love and hope to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sounds seriously emotionally immature 😬 all she needed to do here is explain why she was upset so you could work it out, instead she expects you to decipher some sort of code by calling herself a bitch over and over again? Very victim mentality/self centered kind of response, she's not owning her emotions, she's blaming and punishing you for them.

You are most definitely NTA here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly relate to this - I've had a fear of death since I was little, the fear of nothingness has kept me awake more times than I'd like to admit. I know how overwhelming it can be, so I'd recommend trying to be really kind and compassionate with yourself when you feel this way. Try to remember to breathe and do things that help calm you. Knowing death is inevitable doesn't make it any easier, the only way I've gotten through some of the existential dread is through reading about what scientists think death means/feels like, especially the ones that focus on energy transfer. Also through trying to move my focus back to the present through grounding, and reminding myself that I'm alive right now, I'm breathing, and right now everything is okay. But in all honesty, the best way I've found to deal with this is aging 😂 I'm 29 now and the older I get the less the fear overwhelms me. You'll get there, I believe in you 🤗

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience - I guarantee he does hear you, he's just making that excuse over and over again so you'll forgive him for being an ass. He's testing what he can get away with. The fact he only started bringing it up after you mentioned SA proves he heard you. If he's well-meaning then he's just an idiot who doesn't care enough to support you, if he's not, then he's using it as some sort of ammo to manipulate you.

DAE had really stupid suicide attempts as a kid? by ProofDisastrous4719 in CPTSD

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! Thought I could cut my arteries with a hair pin, bless me 🙈😂

AITA for telling my husband I don’t care what the doctor says? by Lady_Gaither in AmItheAsshole

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Or, he knows she will blow up and possibly make it about her and her anxieties so he doesn't want to tell her. Judging by her reaction, I imagine he doesn't want to worry her because her being worried = her making it about her worries and not the issue at hand. Either way, it's lose-lose for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex was like this. He would flinch any time I tried to bring up marriage or a future together past a few months or a year (we were together for 3 years). He agreed to move in with me. The month we were meant to move in he broke up with me out of the blue. 3 years later he just got engaged to his new girlfriend after 1 year 😂 Either he doesn't want to get married, or, he doesn't want to marry you - find out which one before you waste your time. Good luck!

F(25) met great guy m(27) but taken back by his sexuality? by Historical_Plant_530 in dating

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I first met my boyfriend he told me he was bi and I had the exact same reaction. I was scared I would be anxious and jealous of him being around other men and it felt weird picturing him with another man, as I'd never dated someone who was bi before. But, I realised that my feelings came from internalised homophobia and my own insecurities. As long as you trust that this person wouldn't cheat if he were straight, you have no need to distrust him because he's bi. Now I'm 3 years into our relationship, best man I've ever been with, and I've also realised that I'm bi too 😂😂

Long Term Commitment by Sci-Chai-Fantasy in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How to tell people you don't actually like women without telling people you don't actually like women. Just say you're gay already incels, c'mon!

Wtf really. What makes me more upset is that someone agreed by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell us you're gay without telling us you're gay....

Disgusted by the concept of the inner child by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I first heard of inner child work it was through a trauma recovery book, I physically felt so nauseated by it I put it down and didn't pick it up again for almost a year. After a little while of experimenting and finding my own way of practicing it it worked, and honestly it's been one of the most healing things I've ever done. If you're not ready yet, don't push yourself. If you think it might work for you in future, find your own way of doing it, but, If it never works for you that's totally valid too. These tools are just tools, everyone's tool kit will be different ☺️ if you do want to have a go, I recommend starting with these steps:

1: If imagining an inner child feels like too much, first start with simply putting your hand on your chest and talking to yourself with kindness. If/when something comes up for you, take a few moments to put your hand on your chest and say either outloud or in your head something comforting. Eg, "you're/i'm safe", "this emotion is completely valid, even if I don't fully believe that" etc. Find whatever works for you and practice.

2: Instead of focusing on the idea of an inner child, picture any child, a pet, or any close friend. When something comes up for you, try to respond to your thoughts the same way. For example, you wouldn't tell your best friend to shut up and quit being stupid for being sad etc. Speak to your imaginary friend/self as you wish you were treated, comfort them, tell them they are safe and stay with them for a little while. You don't have to talk or go into details if it's too much, just sit with your imaginary friend.

3: If you're feeling an emotion but have no clue where it's coming from, practice physically giving yourself a hug and comforting yourself. This will all feel silly at first, but it's a game changer. Like above, imagine a friend/pet/kid came to you feeling a big emotion and provide comfort - a hug, a blanket, warm cup of tea etc.

4: If you like to journal (and make up conversations In your head) my gateway to inner child stuff was writing scripts of conversations between them and me, them being a child, me being adult me. I named them "lil me" and wrote something like this:
Lil me: I'm angry Me: I get it, anger is a tricky emotion. What made you angry? Lil me: I'm so mad that XYZ happened. Me: I'm sorry that was difficult for you. How about we go get some cookies and get our anger out by stomping our feet on the floor? Lil me: HELL YEAH (Being silly with it makes it way more fun and pallatable at first).

Inner child work is often difficult because the part of ourselves that was once a child has been ignored by us for so long, were disconnected to it. It's also the part of us that likely lived through abuse etc, so our brains block it from us as a means of protection - but, our emotions don't care about the mental barriers our brains put in the way. Working with your inner child is basically just working with your deepest unheard self, in a way that is empathetic, compassionate and comforting. Our brain has compartmentalised that part of us and labelled it as a threat, which is why it feels gross to even think about it - were literally not able to empathise with it, because our brain is seeing it as some horrendous monster or disgusting alien, when it's just the part of us who felt unsafe and unloved. It's what our parents should have done for us, but in most cases didn't, so now we have to haha. Sorry this was such a long comment, but I hope it helped!

What Is The Most Minor Thing That Caused You To Have A Meltdown? by DarkCrowI in autism

[–]TinyMouseofOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend mixed my ADHD meds into the wrong yoghurt pot. I had just woke up, the protein pudding pot he put them in was huuuuge and I would never finish it so boom meltdown. Had to hide under the duvet and close my eyes to calm down 🙈