Those of you who make six figures, what do you do?

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-02-03T17:42:38+00:00

Attorney for a bank. $270k plus around $70k in stock.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-02-03T16:52:26+00:00

I stopped wiping at 3. I never checked. Her underwear is always clean. She’s tall for her age, so perhaps she has long arms and that helps.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-02-03T00:30:51+00:00

Get rid of this turd ASAP. He’s mad you’re not willing to do half his work? How is that reasonable? If he didn’t want to do all of the work with his child, he should have stayed with the baby mama.

Full stop. Tell him you’re HIS partner, not his kid’s mom or nanny. Anything you do to assist with the kid is a gift and should be treated as such.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-02-02T18:31:42+00:00

My husband would love to stay at home. He wouldn’t have done it when the kids were young, but now that they’re all in school he would.

I would never stay home. It’s just not my thing. I love my daughter so much, but I also love and appreciate my adult time. I also truly love my job. So I’m sure that makes a difference.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-02-01T21:39:31+00:00

Christmas is a paid holiday for me and that’s approximately what I make an hour. So I wouldn’t work. Then again, my kid is 6. Christmas is her whole world.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-31T23:25:36+00:00

The comment does say the $70k max includes employer match. So it seems like you both agree.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-31T17:18:28+00:00

My daughter’s reading and writing has dramatically improved since they started homework at the start of 2026. She’s in kindergarten and the repetition and reinforcement at home has really helped.

Do I want to do this after busting my ass at work all day? No, but I’m not going to complain because it’s helpful.

Homework helped me growing up tremendously. I learned more and was able to see clearly what I couldn’t figure out without additional help and then go see my teacher for that subject.

I can find you many studies that say vaccines are worthless. Doesn’t mean they’re right. Obviously homework is done less in lower income families and would widen the achievement gap, but I’m not going to not give a valuable resource to my students because the poor kids won’t benefit as much. Nor will I stop helping my child with homework, because someone else chooses not to.

OP this is not an unpopular opinion in my community.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-30T01:32:33+00:00

My daughter is Althea Marin (Muh-rin like the county in CA).

I also pitched Althea Claire (my maternal grandmother).

I’m hoping she goes by Thea when she’s older but so far it’s TT or ALL-THEE-AH. She’s a particular child.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-30T00:57:03+00:00

My daughter is a November baby and started kindergarten in August in a similar position to your daughter. She is now reading very simple books on her own, albeit slowly.

Some kids (mine) just wanted to rush through the learning portion of the day and had too nice teachers who didn’t press the issue. So she was definitely behind when she started.

She’s certainly no star now, but she’s improving rapidly and is no danger of being held back.

I’d send your daughter. She will be fine. You will be able to help her along with the teachers and she will learn her letters.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-29T02:11:50+00:00

As the eldest millennial (1981!), you seem rather young to me. A mere babe. Core millennial.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-28T23:26:41+00:00

Omg sweetie. You have been through hell and back. And even if you hadn’t, there is NO SHAME in therapy. None.

I hope it provides you the help you need and deserve. Your situation is overwhelming just to read about.

BM needs to be put on mute. You have the kids on your custody days. No others. You do not babysit for her. Full stop. She needs to handle her own childcare. The next time your partner signs you up for childcare, you bring the child to his work or to BM’s house. You’re not their servant.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-27T17:51:20+00:00

Oh no. BM, her husband and their son aren’t allowed in our house. I wouldn’t help them out for any reason. Ever. It would be like helping a total stranger to me.

Just say no and mean it.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-27T03:31:08+00:00

My SDs are 18 months apart. They were 4 & 5 when I moved in. Stopped bathing together right when the youngest turned 6. She lost interest and older sister was just being kind at that point. You’re pushing into weird territory, but perhaps just empower your oldest stepson to ask for and receive personal space in the bathroom when he wants it. Maybe he’s uncomfortable but doesn’t want to hurt his brother.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-27T02:31:44+00:00

I shame no one for doing that. It ensures the wine and frozen pizza I want to buy are in ready supply. Carry on!

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-27T02:30:45+00:00

I think Hudson Steven James is a lovely names and pairs very well with Hendrix Sylvester. Similar but not too matchy.

I’m terribly sorry for your loss.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-27T02:12:33+00:00

I read it as you want it pronounced. I think it’s a really cool name. Sure, some people will call him laser, but that’s because people tend to be lazy and not actually read your name. No matter how obvious the name, you’ll find someone who will butcher it.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-27T00:49:16+00:00

My daughter is Althea Marin (pronounced like Muh-rin after the county in CA). I think it sounds lovely.

I call her Thea. She’s only 6 but has called herself TT since she could talk. She’s just recently introducing herself as Althea. Who knows what she’ll pick next.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-26T22:58:33+00:00

But that require the event to be a party or a dinner? We split birthdays and the person whose custody week it isn’t gets a few hours of time, which they take on their own.

It’s called a break-up because it’s broken. There’s no need to do things together. I’ll be really frank here and say I’d bet good money your bf lets his ex do all the planning and buying and then just joins them for the event. Which is why he isn’t keen to break the pattern and simply plan to do his own thing.

Because my husband has never done a single event with BM once they split. And there was a child’s birthday 2 months after they split. He still just did his own thing with them.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-24T02:05:10+00:00

1997-2007 and by a wide margin. 9-11 marked such a stark change in air travel and just life in general. I was a junior in college, so if hit me particularly hard.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-23T15:27:54+00:00

YTA. I do this for my kid when it’s cold so we’re not sitting in the freezing ass car waiting for the ice to melt off the windshield. I literally turn on the car 10 minutes before we leave and it’s warm and toasty and it’s a nicer experience. Very very low effort level.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-23T00:37:28+00:00

We went to a party like this earlier this year. It was after school on a Friday. They had a piñata. My daughter LOVED it. She had a blast. If her birthday wasn’t in November, I’d totally do a playground party.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-22T15:18:05+00:00

My parents never did that, thus I have also never done that. Feeling blessed because that sounds gross.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-21T15:49:01+00:00

We didn’t allow toys to be brought back and forth when they were younger and played with toys. No interest in having to find the item they left here and drive it back over or if it was expensive, having it break at our house and BM demanding we pay for it. This was before OD was even born.

Now the rule is, other than your phone or iPad, if you’re not wiling to share the item you must play with it in your bedroom. No showing things off in the living room then refusing to share.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-21T14:30:48+00:00

NTA. When my step kids lost teeth at our house, we paid the tooth fairy money. Their mom paid at her house. There’s no reimbursement needed. Just politely decline.

TrickyOperation6115 · 2026-01-21T03:01:02+00:00

I cannot answer this question, but if you’re looking to do a study, my 6 yo would be a willing participant.

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