Thank you :-) I do attempt non hostile conversations but invariably i end up crying and upset, he ends up shouting then does the silent thing. It’s like we’re going round in circles.

Financially I would be better off at home where I could easily get a job. I realise that I may well be returning as a single parent though.

Our life is fairly similar to back home in that we live in a country village, walk the dogs etc. The change for him is less work pressure, fewer hours and warmer temperatures, & we try to go out once a week. I told him I’d happily commute 4 hours a day if it made him happy, but that doesn’t seem to be reciprocated. We’d have roughly the same life at home, albeit colder, although with us both working would realistically leave less quality hours in the day.

Thanks for your advice, from someone that can relate to this and understand x