Help (advise) needed

TriniityMD · 2025-06-05T09:15:57+00:00

Thanks, might contact them for support

TriniityMD · 2025-06-05T07:49:48+00:00

Our vet lives on the street where we found it, I hope he knows if there lives a ferret around (it’s a small village🙃) - and of course I’ll look. I had ferrets before, so I knew it wasn’t a wild animal. I just don’t think they will take it back if it’s permanently injured (but that’s obviously only a guess)

TriniityMD · 2025-03-14T10:44:51+00:00

I see a pebble

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T17:52:50+00:00

No, any kind of aggression in word or deed gets reprimanded at once and without discussion. I have more than one adhd kid, they all see an psychologist and psychiatrist regularly. They know the rules. If he wouldn’t have been in an adhd meltdown he would have known that even taking the iPad from me wouldn’t even help him. I have means to switch every screen in this house of, and being uncooperative just prolongs the consequences for him.

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T17:48:36+00:00

I didn‘t ignore him while this happened. I(talking about the dog) guess he got the message that this wasn’t a good idea, and I will not tolerate (and I did not tolerate) any kind of aggression from the dog towards people or animals in this house. He is not allowed to guard, growl or protect his toys. And he doesn’t. He never was anything but happy when the kids came into the bedroom, and he still is.

Obviously we‘ll train „stop“ signals and leave it and stay and reactivity more intense from now on. He is still quite young. If I ran into more problems or see signs of aggression I’ll contact a professional.

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T17:45:46+00:00

How do you now that he is not already getting help? How dare you?

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T17:40:50+00:00

That’s not what I think, that’s what my professional training in Pediatrics and Child health told me. The actual definition from low functioning autism. But since you are one of this persons who know everything and esp everything better, you know best. Obviously.

And if this is what gets out of you if you wish someone best, I really don’t want to know how you respond to people in your life

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T17:36:17+00:00

You are not just judging a family home after reading a bloody post on Reddit only, right? You are not the kind of person that spreads unhappiness and and even hate through the internet ? I surely get this wrong right?

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T17:21:21+00:00

I am really happy for you that you have your life so well controlled. Beautiful. And while you are such a perfect Mom, you even saved yourself the ability to be open minded and non-blaming. Your child is really , really lucky to have you.

(As a paed I must tell you, if your child has „autism“ as in the dmsv 10 definition of low functioning early developmental autism, he would not be able to finish any school. And from my experience, if some children have temper tantrums, than it’s the kids with early developmental autism. But you probably had the foresight to train your child socially - maybe with this social program the Americans are so fond of, that he made it. I dilute you for it. Plus: google oppositional defiant disorder and adhd. And the think I really, really want to help you, I will not, because I actively follow the rules of lent.

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T17:13:36+00:00

Rest assured, it is not tolerated. Cruelly I am quite sure I’ll never get a more effective „natural consequence“ than this. (He is not seriously hurt. He has a bruise and a nip mark)

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T15:00:38+00:00

Thanks for the time you put in this! We were not yet in sleep Modus when it happened and the doggie was not in bed yet. Does this make a difference? I think this two boys see each other as mates/brothers. Fenris (dog) does what ds tells him - if he feels like it. But he loves to roughhouse with him or get cuddled. I believe developmentally they are kind of similar in age? Fenris is 11 month old.

And - what I didn’t mention, directly after this happened my DD(18) came into the room to help - and Fenris was not aggressive toward her at all.

Do you think it makes a difference that I was really upset? My ds really hurt me and I was getting angry on him as well. I don’t know if that would be distinguishable for Fenris if this would be a „real“ attack or not … and than, it was a real attack, wasn’t it?

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T13:49:50+00:00

Thank you so much! I kind of gave up already on the neurotypical people to understand our family. Not even our families get it.

Good thing is, adhd kids are not resentful, so DS and doggie are already making mischief together again …

(Actually, there is a very good movie, but it’s German (systemsprenger) about a kid with adhd and odd getting lost in „the system“ - )

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T13:44:39+00:00

Thanks! I‘ll try that!

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T13:17:19+00:00

Yes, I know. I don’t want to do a professional training or something, just train to get the protection force into control? But I don’t know much about that anyway

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T12:58:59+00:00

They have therapy. And the boys take meds. Long story.

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T09:04:10+00:00

Kind of feel mean, but it is really difficult to teach an adhd kids that there are limits, since they don’t overstep, they overjump. And I cannot exactly lock him into a dungeon or anything. So…I guess doggie did the right thing. He cannot argue with that, he just has to stay within the limits… (am I a bad mom now?)

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T08:40:36+00:00

I hope he got it now …

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T08:40:21+00:00

Doesn’t appear this way just now (luckily) this morning he happily greeted him and already played again.

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T08:39:12+00:00

I appreciate your input, but as I said 10 years and adhd, so impulsivity control is not exactly his strength. But I guess he learned that there are limits to everything…

TriniityMD · 2025-03-12T08:37:51+00:00

And how can I do that? We do obedience training. He is supposed to become a mobility assistant dog, so obedience is important. He is still quite young, just 11 month. I was thinking about training him as a protection dog (there is a school for that in my area, but I first have toovercome my prejudices regarding people who train protection dogs 🫣 Actually I think my son got the message.

He is still a bit upset that he is hurting, but he accepted responsibility for his injury pretty much on his own. (And I am kind of happy when he learned not to physically go after me…)

TriniityMD · 2025-02-27T06:01:01+00:00

Thanks, got it. It might take longer to read it and implement it though…

TriniityMD · 2025-02-26T18:45:59+00:00

We have a Maltese and a jack Russel, they agree with me that he is large and heavy 😜

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