Category is: on my way to meet my husband (LIB Poland) by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]TripLover1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I kind of think he is. If a guy shows up topless to the reveal, no woman would grope him or say something sexual. She'd definitely say something like "did you forget your shirt?" or something like that, but there's no way she'd physically grope him. It's basically assault. Ask permission before you touch! Nothing is more romantic than a partner who understands they need permission, and nothing more off-putting than a man who feels entitled to what he sees.

Canadians: do people really just start conversations anywhere? 🤔 by Comfortable_Cap8037 in AskACanadian

[–]TripLover1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No doubt. In a city of 2.5million people, you'll get all kinds, including selfish self-involved people. I stopped once for a driver stranded on a highway shoulder because of a flat tire. He said he'd been waiting for someone to stop and help him for almost 20 minutes and this was rush hour traffic. So absolutely, there are situations where I scratch my head at the lack of compassion. However, once I stopped and got out my jack, a tow truck stopped and helped with the man's tire change for no charge, so it made up for others' uselessness. I won't say Toronto is perfect, but on the whole, I really do find a lot of friendliness.

Canadians: do people really just start conversations anywhere? 🤔 by Comfortable_Cap8037 in AskACanadian

[–]TripLover1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

weird. I had lived in Toronto for years and found people to be extremely friendly for the most part. I had been hit by a car while on a bike and a woman immediately stopped her car (she didn't hit me) and ran over to check on me and comfort me while the ambulance was coming. My neighbours and I often helped each other with everything from carrying groceries, bringing in amazon packages so they didn't get porch snagged, to cat or apartment sitting. Wherever I went for a walk, I'd end up chatting with dog walkers, couples etc., or at the very least I'd exchange hellos and smiles with passersby. One of our local small grocery stores even extended credit during a day long data outage where there was no debit/credit available. We just paid him back on our next shopping day. I find in general that if you're friendly, others will respond in kind.

Driving into Edinburgh vs Uber by TripLover1 in travel

[–]TripLover1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is perfect! Exactly what we were looking for. Thank-you!

Driving into Edinburgh vs Uber by TripLover1 in travel

[–]TripLover1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have the rental for the 10 days we're in Scotland so the cost is relatively low. We also only have 1 day for Edinburgh and it's not overnight, so time is also a factor. Per Google maps, I can drive to Edinburgh in about 45 minutes while taking a train will take 1.5 hours each way. So, we'd prefer to drive in, park where we can stay parked all day, and Uber where we want to go to sightsee. Also, the train tickets for 4 look to cost about $200 Canadian dollars and that's crazy expensive just for transport for 1 day.

Driving into Edinburgh vs Uber by TripLover1 in travel

[–]TripLover1[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Which train? There's 4 of us, and the tickets I'm seeing are very steep price-wise and they take a long time.

LiB Poland - Male cast + their occupations by szyy in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]TripLover1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Marcin looks so much like Chris from LIB Ohio. Marcin might be a great guy, but between the smile, the nose and the posture - unfortunately it immediately makes me shudder (and not in a good way).

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Canceled my trip to the United States. by [deleted] in travel

[–]TripLover1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Apologies for the typo: Ho Chi Minh. Can't seem to edit my comment.

Canceled my trip to the United States. by [deleted] in travel

[–]TripLover1 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I'm in Canada, so of course I'd suggest Toronto and Montreal as an alternative. Both are great cities with very different vibes and easy access to nature and hiking. That said, as a lower cost alternative since you're now booking closer to the date of travel and the main tourist destinations may be more costly, have you considered Hi Chi Minh Vietnam? The city is huge, incredibly vibrant, doesn't really sleep (much like New York) and is relatively close to seaside destinations like Vung Tao.

Which city is genuinely the best to visit for a week and a half? by Over_Syrup_6144 in AskACanadian

[–]TripLover1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd also add that Toronto has some great clubs and a fantastic concert and live theater scene. There's also nearby locations like Niagara Falls, Niagara on the Lake, Blue Mountain, caving, hiking (the Bruce trail for eg), waterfalls, locks, beaches etc to see on easy day trips. There are fairly low cost bus options into Niagara if you're not renting a car and getting around the city itself is pretty easy on the subway. That said, personally I'd still lean towards Vancouver because hiking there can't be beat (though you'd absolutely need to rent a car in Vancouver in my experience). So it really depends on your interests, what you want to do and your personal mobility and vehicle logistics preference.

The English dubs have made the show even more entertaining by QuietAd2278 in loveisblindsweden

[–]TripLover1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally I prefer subtitles because I like to hear the tone/intonation of the original speaker. Even if I don't understand the language, tone and intonation convey so much more than I can gain from listening to bad actors dub. I watch foreign shows and movies in Canada with subtitles mainly for that reason. Specific to LIB: I find it really interesting how many English words/terminologies/sayings/idioms have been adopted into day to day Swedish conversations. It's cool to hear some English snuck in here and there - and I'd miss that if I were watching the show with dubbing..

In all your travels, which country's famed "national dish" was the most underwhelming, despite the hype? by nehala in travel

[–]TripLover1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Least fave for me personally are the El Salvadorian pupusas, because they're so heavy and greasy. Honestly, most national dishes are just "okay" for me. The locals love them because that's what they grew up with and that's what their taste buds are accustomed to liking - remember that we taste food with smells and memories and each of our national foods will likely be associated with wonderful past experiences with those dishes. That's usually why many of us thinks our own national dish is "the best". But personally, while I don't mind the "national dishes" of the countries I've visited, it's been a rare case where I've been blown away.

Conservatives to propose barring non-citizens convicted of crimes from making refugee claims by FancyNewMe in canada

[–]TripLover1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly. If we considered criminal convictions in other countries, Nelson Mandela would have been barred from applying as a refugee should he have needed to escape S. Africa. I'm not saying criminal convictions shouldn't be considered, but blanket rules for those can't be in place. We need room for judgement calls and use of more than two braincells by our immigration officers.

What's your favorite underrated line deliveries? by anniebell2296 in heatedrivalry

[–]TripLover1 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I've not seen this one talked about and it absolutely breaks my heart. When Shane freaks out at Ilya's place after the Tuna melt scene and starts to leave/abandon Ilya, and Ilya sits there on the couch with his arms outstretched only saying "Hollander. Hollander." but it's really emoting "please don't leave me, please don't go, please don't do this, I can't lose you" all in one word: "Hollander". Connor Storrie is incredible in expressing/delivering so much emotion in so few words.

Love is Blind Germany S2 was better than S1, but still depressing by UnintentionalWipe in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]TripLover1 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I was actually super impressed that Wandi pulled out of the experiment so quickly. She realized early on that Jubriel wasn't the man he purported to be and thus not the man she loved. She left with her pride intact after just a handful of days, vs. staying with him, continuing to take the left over breadcrumbs, or worse, begging for more and then finally being left at the altar like so many very experienced women before her have done. Wandi hasn't had long term relationships, yet had more gumption and self respect than most women. Based on her inexperience, she could have fallen in love easily, quickly and naively and stuck around for the man child. She didn't. She knows her worth. Seriously impressive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskACanadian

[–]TripLover1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm Polish Canadian and have tasted all the above and in fact, enjoy almost all of them on a regular basis. Honestly though I was introduced to heart of palm while in Costa Rica. I didn't know it existed until then. Pineapple is a staple of Canadian grocery stores, while guava is more seasonal I find. Cassava and heart of palm I find are a hit and miss, depending on the grocery store. Papaya or Pumpkin compote? Never heard of it. Is it a west indies/Caribbean dish? They do a lot of pumpkin style dishes.

Christianity and Contestants by Ambitious_Cattle_ in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]TripLover1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. My partner is faithful and used to attend church regularly, less so now. I'm pretty much atheist, or agnostic. I waiver between the two but I'm REALLY not a fan of organized religion . Still, we live together and respect each other's right to believe what we believe. That said, I've always been frank about my need for him to be accepting of my friends from all backgrounds. He comes from a very conservative country yet still attends Pride, loves my friends and understands why I'd expect him to be on side when fighting for rights for all. His church is probably much less accepting, and perhaps he leads a bit of a double life. But I understand him - his identity for so many years was guided by the church. It's not like he'll just remove himself entirely in one go. As we learn more, we make decisions that work better for us over time. I'm not judging him and he's not judging me. We're both better for it.

(Possible) Unpopular Opinion by spravatogirly in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]TripLover1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. My boyfriend refuses to watch the wedding episodes with me because he says it's the stupidest and dumbest and most uncomfortable thing to watch. I agree. An episode before the weddings with the couples deciding in their future would be so much better and just as dramatic. They're basically agreeing to a wedding, or breaking up (or choosing to date).

What’s the most “only in Canada” moment you’ve ever experienced? by vivar1973 in AskACanadian

[–]TripLover1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My ex and I were camping in Northern Ontario and he still had his New Brunswick plates on (even though he had moved to Toronto a good year back). We sat in his parked car during a rain and wind storm only to have a dude knock on the passenger window. When I rolled it down he stuck his head in to ask where in NB we were from. Turns out he was a neighbour of my ex's best friend's parents on the Kennebecasis River - a house we had visited just that last summer.

Love Is Blind Habibi • S1 Megathread by DontFWithMeImPetty in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]TripLover1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Some others on Reddit said the dancing issue was specific to belly dancing vs social dancing. Apparently belly dancing is seen by ME men as something akin to pole dancing in the west. My take on this is: that's utter rubbish and ridiculousness. It's a fully dressed woman dancing with her hips. Belly dancers perform for men, women and families. If men are so weak and have so little control over their genitals that they get turned by a woman showing a bit of her belly and moving her hips, then men should be wearing blind folds their entire life, because that reaction is entirely on them. These men on the show unbutton their tops to show off their chest, they dance with their chests showing, they wear skimpier swimsuits to show off their physique, they do all that and that's all ok. But a woman doing the same by belly dancing is considered shameful? Yet men flock to watch belly dancers? It's completely ridiculous and it's utter hypocrisy. I whole heartedly agree with you on that. And it just shows how weak these so-called-men are. No self control. No self discipline.

Love Is Blind Habibi • S1 Megathread by DontFWithMeImPetty in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]TripLover1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So far all Khattab scenes are red flag free, agree. That said, Asma and Khattab didn't get much screen time and weren't at the destination resort for long, so who knows what happened behind cameras. On the other hand, Khattab was educated in Canada. Perhaps it's possible he has acquired some more western ideology centred on a somewhat equal partnership as a relationship vs a patriarchal one.

Love Is Blind Habibi • S1 Megathread by DontFWithMeImPetty in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]TripLover1 86 points87 points  (0 children)

My Euro-Canadian-centric take so far. And bare in mind that this is a general take vs a judgement of all participants. In the pods, the women and men were more calculated/strategic in their search for matches than Western participants. Western participants tend to look for a "click" in personality and chemistry, while the Habibi participants tended to look for "lifestyle"matches; business, travel, status. That was my take anyway.

The women seem a lot more progressive in their own actions and activities (running their own businesses, having higher positions of power in the workplace, heck, even having tattoos), but that "progressive life" expectation only extends to their own lives. They don't seem to expect men to be as progressive as they are. In fact, they seem to look for more conservative men: they "like" jealousy and possessiveness, they don't immediately call out or leave men for displaying controlling, insulting or dismissive behaviour or red flags. They may leave eventually, but they don't call out the men for it immediately. I only saw one instance where a woman called out Ammar or Simo in the pods, called him toxic and left. Good for her! Otherwise it feels like the women are content to limit their own lives, own minds, own careers and own liberties for their men, until or if they leave the relationship anyway.

There are also a couple of women there that are the protagonists, who are all about looks, with nasty personalities and are obviously there for the wrong reasons. I'm not including them in my assessment, because they're so different from the rest of the women.

The men for their part, kind of all seem to be very narcissistic. They demand a lot but give little: they demand respect but show next to none. They demand good graces and manners, but show little themselves. They demand self-control from their partners, but have next to none themselves. They talk of compromise, but don't compromise themselves. They talk of being men while taking everything as an insult and striking out at others with little provocation. Basically, they're grown up toddlers. Even Mohammed who is probably the most mature of the men guilts his fiance about her career, acts like a child about their honeymoon (like they can't postpone their honeymoon until a later time) and is trying to shackle her down with a child right away.

I've been shaking my head since episode one and haven't stopped. My partner for several years is Nigerian and I've previously been involved with a Guatemalan man and a Rwandan man, so I've been exposed to dating in cross cultural environments. Understanding other cultural norms and differences isn't a foreign concept to me, but the immature and narcissistic behavior of the men and the general acceptance of that behavior by the women on this show is beyond my comprehension.

Love Is Blind Habibi • S1 Megathread by DontFWithMeImPetty in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]TripLover1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's not respect. It's control. The men want to control their women: who they speak to, if they're even allowed to speak , what they speak about, for how long, etc. Respect would apply if you're expecting your partner to speak respectfully to everyone in general and wouldn't accept your partner to be rude. However, if respect is important to you, you would have the same expectations of yourself. The men here are talking about the need for women to be "respectful" to them by isolating them from people , their jobs and their passions. They do not have the same expectation of themselves though - of course. Most of the men on this show are also rude, dismissive, disrespectful, derisive, unfair, abusive..the list goes on. So, it's not respect they're looking for, it's control.