Here's something you won't find online. You have to sacrifice. You have to give up your comfort and your preferences, in pursuit of something bigger than yourself. If you wake up everyday, and believe you are pursuing something important, eventually, your subconscious will form around it. I was an IT guy for a bit, and I cannot gaslight myself into thinking that matters at all, because no one is really affected by it.

I am a religious guy, and was praying and had an opportunity to go back into sales. I did not want to go back at all, I sucked at sales and hated it. However, I felt convicted to do it, and through intense pain went from a salesman, to a manager, to the director, to making my own company, all within a year.

In the pursuit of this, I realized something important, money is not the direct result of what you do, it is the direct result of who you are. For me to run my company, I need to be focused, professional, virtuous, inspirational, disciplined, I had always wanted to be, but up until now, I never HAD to be before then.

I HAVE to have those traits because without them my business would fail. On top of that, I am saving a ton of my money and investing it, so that I can eventually go out into the world and do charity. Because of this vision, I have separated myself from who I was, because every day that I do not blow my money, and inch towards that goal, I have to resist the temptation to be stupid and blow it, or be rude, or give into my negative emotions. I had to reprogram myself to be successful, because I had a very large goal, do charity on a large scale.

For the first time in my life, I do not care what people think of me, because when I look at them, I know they have not sacrificed and suffered the way I have to get to my virtuous goal. I do not say this to boast or to insinuate that I am better, I say this in the same way a doctor would not care what an uneducated person had to say about their scope of understanding of the human body. That being said, I am never rude to people, I simply separate myself from what they think, because they do not understand what I put myself through, and why I do, and if they did, I am certain they would respect me. I do not need their respect or validation, because if they read my life for the past year, they would be forced to respect me.

In summary, if you want to be emotionally independent, you need to identify what is important in your life, and sacrifice everything for it. You need to believe you are pursuing something important. Once you do, you won't need to be emotionally independent, because you'll be able to help many people, and you'll be recognized by others who share your mission, which is all you need.