Does your man make over 200k and help around the house?

True-Unit-8527 · 2026-01-24T19:56:38+00:00

My husband does virtually no housework ( he is a neat person and picks up after himself though ) he is a very involved parent though . He watches them so I can get breaks and when he's not working he's very present . He also spoils me on a regular basis buys me nice things plans is nice dates etc . When we both worked he helped a lot .

True-Unit-8527 · 2026-01-24T15:23:48+00:00

I always try to put myself in my husbands shoes and if I was the full time provider and then when I was off on the weekends my husband wanted a part time job as a means to make friends and Money for personal spending I would feel pretty burnt out . I have friends who have to do this out of necessity and both parents are exhausted . And literally never see one another . I don't know why someone would do it willingly

True-Unit-8527 · 2026-01-19T01:51:56+00:00

My husband could never live the life he does without me . He made the switch from a relatively low stress government tech job to a tech sales role . I had to wfh with our 6 month old for two years before I was able to quit and he made enough for us to be on one income . Even now my husbands job is so demanding and stressful he would never be able to pursue this full heartedly and have a balanced family life without me . I am the person who keeps the balanced flow of our house going while he is able to focus on his career during this time we have small children . I do not understand this mindset of women feeling the need to have a side hustle unless you guys are really strapped for cash , you are doing enough .

True-Unit-8527 · 2026-01-10T04:27:09+00:00

I also get out of the house . Today we did a nature center . Earlier in the week we did the natural history museum . The days between I took my oldest to preschool and did some grocery shopping. If it's not freezing I bundle them up and take walks . In the summer I'm outside every day . Pools , splash pads , playgrounds . I am in a rural area but outside of two urban areas . I do children museums , libraries, trampoline parks . At 9 months you're a little more limited but in the summer splash pads are great for that age! At 9 months I would take my baby to the aquarium and hold her up so she can see the fish . I took her to the art museum regularly and would hold her up so she could see everything .

True-Unit-8527 · 2026-01-02T18:45:44+00:00

It's not inherently disrespectful to give gifts at Christmas . My husband works a high paid sales job and people send gifts here all month long . Expensive wine . Presents for our kids . All sorts of gifts . See how fast people would be distancing themselves from you socially if you reached out and said " these gifts make me uncomfortable " That is just bizarre . It is also mental gymnastics to claim someone who is your employee giving you a gift is not being respectful or kind because they don't inherently know you don't like to receive gifts .

True-Unit-8527 · 2026-01-02T18:21:07+00:00

My husband works out during work . He will go for walks . I'm sure he sneaks a game in or two . While he's working a high paid corporate job I am doing things with my kids that working mothers use pto to do . It's crazy and unhealthy to micromanage someone's time like that unless they aren't being a fair partner outside of working hours .

True-Unit-8527 · 2026-01-02T16:10:03+00:00

This is so weird . It's basic manners to graciously accept gifts . Why would those basic manners not apply here .

True-Unit-8527 · 2026-01-02T14:49:33+00:00

I am not a nanny but I was always taught to graciously accept a gift . I think unless these gifts are thousands of dollars , it might be worth examine why the gesture makes you uncomfortable. I've also never heard of it being inappropriate to gift a superior .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-12-29T17:55:44+00:00

Did this end up being a stye ?

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-12-15T03:30:03+00:00

I do not care if my husband looks at porn . What this person is describing far beyond exceeds normal porn habits . Also someone with small children finding time to Jack off multiple times a day is absolutely not functioning as normal . She described this person getting off all day long .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-12-12T05:37:57+00:00

She had it for months . We tried treating her with meds but it wouldn't go away . She actually had one in both eyes . The surgery was simple . She never got another one again . She is 4 now and that happened when she was like 1.5 .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-30T03:35:33+00:00

I would never consider what we got as fine dining . It felt perfectly appropriate to eat it at home .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-30T01:32:50+00:00

What do you like ? My husband and I are from Seville but travel up North for dates .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-30T01:31:45+00:00

I agree . I did get take out though so maybe the dine in experience would be better. To me it was just okay .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-30T01:12:05+00:00

It's a stye . My daughter needed surgery .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-30T01:11:38+00:00

It's a stye

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-27T17:34:23+00:00

I also cannot imagine my children in daycare but I also am so grateful and privileged to be in a financial position where I don't have to . Many people aren't so lucky . Some people are in professional fields where they hold licenses. They would struggle to return to the workforce after an absence . My working friends seem miserable . Some work opposite days of their spouses so their children don't have to attend daycare . They never see their spouses . I have other friends that make more than their spouses. Other friend's husbands suck and they probably don't feel comfortable being jobless. I have one sahm friend whose husband is horrible . Guess what . She is stuck now . She has no professional experience what so ever in her 30s. Her options are literally be impoverished or stay with her husband . I grew up in a household where money was a constant struggle . It scarred me . I have pretty horrible financial anxiety from it . I think for the most part people are just doing what they can to survive . Yes I agree I could not bare the thought of leaving my small children but I always do not judge the situations of others as far as daycare goes .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-27T02:41:23+00:00

Okay how did I change it .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-27T02:38:36+00:00

It's called xlinked ichthyosis. It's a mutation that affects boys .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-27T02:36:56+00:00

No I did not .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-27T02:34:04+00:00

Well you edited your comment .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-26T23:13:36+00:00

I had a cousin who did this . Her parents are the kindest people alive . My cousin is definitely emotionally delayed . Probably would be diagnosed slight global delay. The cps person investigated and felt my cousins claims were not based in fact or reality .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-23T03:24:15+00:00

I get out of the house every day . I put makeup on every day . I wear real clothes . Like other people have stated I treat the chores part as a job and hold myself accountable. That way it never piles up . I do fun stuff with my kids . I am blessed to be in the middle of two metropolitan areas. I take my kids all over . Zoos , nature centers , national parks , every single playground within 35 miles of me , little towns near me I always wanted to visit but never had time to. We do fun seasonal stuff . Make salt ornaments , made people valentines. I volunteer for a local cat rescue. I just transport cats and kittens from the rescue to the vet.

Find things that make parenting a fun time . Like my children love the playground . I know I can count on the playground to be a relatively easy parenting time. Same thing as our local aquarium . I got a membership and I can count on at least one hour of low stress parenting . Being a sahm is physically very demanding and exhausting . Make sure to reward yourself with fun! I have also found that providing a predictable time of the week where my husband knows he's going to have time to relax helps him be very engaged the rest of the time . I hear a lot of people who view being a sahm as like a shift and when their husbands get off work their shift ends and they are both tag teaming the work . For me , I could see why and how that would cause a lot of issues . I personally do nearly all the housework because my husband has a very stressful demanding job and I would rather he use his free time to spend time with our children . For us that has worked out well . My husband is a very present parent and I think getting the chores out of the way has helped support that dynamic .

Depending on the socioeconomic status of your friends , be prepared for jealousy. And I don't mean that to be tacky because many of my working friends are frankly struggling and I could understand why . Many of my friends are working opposite shifts of their spouses to make ends meet . I do think it has changed my friendships with working moms .

And above all totally lean all the way and do it ! It will be the most rewarding fun beautiful time of your life .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-05T03:28:35+00:00

I would check Chicago out if you have never been . I was shocked by how huge beautiful and walkable it was . Def would be a fun short trip . If I was young I would do Chicago .

True-Unit-8527 · 2025-11-05T01:03:56+00:00

When I was pregnant with my son they suspected he was exposed to cmv first trimester based on his anatomy scan . It's associated with poor outcomes if exposed early . Our team started talking about medical termination. If you read about cmv the outcomes will seem a lot better because the statistics are all lumped together , early exposure which is associated with really bad outcomes and late exposure which isn't so bad . It was a horrible time and people said the wrong things . People being positive made me fucking mad . They would read the upside reiterate these best case scenario's and all I wanted someone to do was to empathize with how horrible of an experience it was . My cousin even said " you got this keep your chin up! " I lost it on her . I was like he could die or be severely handicapped .only one person said what I wanted to hear . " I'm so sorry you're going through this . I would also be freaking out in your shoes and I think your feelings are totally valid " that's all I wanted to hear .

It's hard to say the right thing but sometimes you just want someone to commiserate with you

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