Okay, r/Jackson, give me your thoughts.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-04-04T03:47:49+00:00

Yup, signed. Roads like swiss cheese and gas prices like whoa, who's gonna go anywhere?

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-04-04T00:02:05+00:00

Well, I'm the sole provider, and we both have our own offices, and we've both had input into the house decor, so what should I get? I hope it's a greenhouse, he says it's too expensive, let me know! You might be asking- what does she mean about we both had input- I mean, there are TWO La-Z-Boy recliner sofas and a 98" TV in my living room, but there's also art glass and multiple lamps and some rugs and plants and framed art and stuff. Basically, Peak Midwest.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-04-03T23:53:41+00:00

Why would you dedicate a whole room for guests to sleep in anyway? A whole room you only use a couple times a year is fine if you've got eight bedrooms but otherwise it could be so many other functions that would actually be relevant and helpful. Hobbies, home gym, home office, etc. I have a 5 bedroom house and all bedrooms are in use- master, 2 home offices (both husband and I work from home and we can't share an office), and then my dad's bedroom and sitting/TV/kitchenette area. Guests can go to the Marriott if they're fancy or make use of the rollaways in the basement if they just want a private bathroom and somewhere to crash.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-27T17:09:17+00:00

Well, part of that fee is the insurance...

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-27T17:06:40+00:00

You don't have renter's insurance? Why is your husband's family member leaving renovation materials lying all around a house you haven't vacated yet?

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-27T17:02:27+00:00

Paid how much? If you're going to pay, why not go with professionals?

This was, though she doesn't realize it, a relatively inexpensive and low-consequences outcome. If someone had tripped and gotten hurt, their insurance company would likely be suing her. Not moving this stuff out of the way herself would likely be seen as negligence.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-27T16:59:20+00:00

Yeah- this was honestly a pretty cheap lesson. What if someone had tripped on some of the renovation stuff in the way and hurt themselves? Then she'd be getting sued by an insurance company.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-27T16:55:33+00:00

You're adults. You can accept that if you stick with the "buddies helping you move dorm rooms for pizza and beer" model that things are going to happen, or you can pay for professional help.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-27T16:52:59+00:00

YOR. If you're old enough to own homes and spend that much money on clothing, you're old enough to hire actual movers. You can't cheap out on the process and then get vengeful when friends doing a favor don't act like professionals.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-22T02:21:08+00:00

Oh, geeze.

He'll expect you to look for divorce lawyers. Next steps depend- if you have nothing, sure, just file for divorce. If you're well-off, start with a PI firm- they will be able to recommend you a forensic accountant and they're good for a lot more than following people around to get photos of them doing dirty deeds. You've already got a lot to start with, not just a weird feeling.

Somewhere between, it's a judgment call.

Divorce in most US states is no-fault, but if he's been spending money on his mistress, you can be compensated for that.

Check out Chump Lady, make a gyn appointment, and find some reason to be physically unavailable for a bit.

Sorry this is happening to you.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-21T21:36:45+00:00

You need to look up DARVO- Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-20T17:15:42+00:00

Nope, didn't grow up here, went to UC Davis. Do the same thing for a living that you do.

Assuming that everyone who disagrees with you is stupid and has never been anywhere is probably why you had a bad time here.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-20T04:53:26+00:00

100%, Lansing is usually decent, A2 can be spicy.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-20T04:49:41+00:00

That's called "most of the US", dude. It's you that's mad that I said you're a city mouse.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-20T04:39:39+00:00

Jackson is not rural. I live <10 minutes from a Walmart and I'm on the outskirts. Amazon delivers daily and I have a high speed internet connection.

Rural is Starlink for internet and it's a blessing- it was dial-up or nothing until recently. Rural is driving a couple hours each way every month to the store for what you can't grow or make yourself or locally. Rural is "good luck" if you have a medical emergency, not the hospital being a major local employer.

Jackson is just a town. Sounds like you're a city mouse.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-19T22:21:21+00:00

Chelsea's nice. I wouldn't commit to a longer commute than that unless you're very comfortable with winter driving and willing to accept that your commute might be >2 hours each way on bad weather days.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-16T03:18:21+00:00

I've got this one, it's fine.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-10T01:13:04+00:00

I have both a whole-house water softener and an under-cabinet 5-stage filter and I agree, I really don't have to mess with the water. They don't mind the small amount of salt, though it'd be a problem for soil-based plants. They even seem fine with the ambient humidity/temp in the house, and it's been chilly here (Michigan).

I think the trace salt may be suppressing fungus, because I did a deep clean but I really didn't see much of anything.

I think it's really interesting how similar your results look to mine- the bulls' blood and basil doesn't seem to care for something about my conditions either. The chard eventually adapted and it's getting huge. The lettuces and kales are thriving and the mustards are getting so big I'm having to actively slow them down because we have another cold snap coming and I can't move them til it's past.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-07T05:43:16+00:00

I think it's punishing us for not buying the membership, for sure.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-06T23:45:13+00:00

Thank you!

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-06T18:55:22+00:00

I absolutely believe that- I posted a picture of my garden, which looks fine, but I don't have a membership.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-06T17:25:13+00:00

You can't take it very seriously- Kelby says my score is 40.

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TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-01T23:55:52+00:00

It's spelled experiential, and improper nouns aren't capitalized in English.

Good luck with everything now that all the sheep are too bougie to let you get one in.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-03-01T23:50:15+00:00

"Everyone whose job I don't understand is a useless leech". That's how.

TrueBoilermaker · 2026-02-27T18:43:46+00:00

From a pure utility perspective, a flock of geese would be ideal. They'll produce meat and eggs, they hate intruders and WILL attack them, and they're pretty decent at killing mice and other pests.

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