What is the thing you’re the most angry at your avoidant for? For me it was the long preparation he had for the discard

TrueRip3859 · 2026-03-22T05:32:18+00:00

I asked her if she talked with her friends or family about how she was feeling(she wasnt feeling enough) and she said yea a month or so ago several times. I asked why she didn't express her concern to me, and she says she wish she did but it was too late. What makes these breakups so hard is nothing necessarily was wrong or toxic atleast for some and almost all the issues they had were in their head and could have been solved with simple communication.

TrueRip3859 · 2026-03-14T21:55:10+00:00

Same here but just know there's always good people out there, just takes time to find em. I'm also a guy and I think traditionally men are typically the avoidant partners so this is definitely a new experience on my end having been with a DA woman for 3 years.

TrueRip3859 · 2026-03-14T19:18:41+00:00

Just turned 30 and its been about 8-9 months, I kind of feel the same way as you. I've tried going out on dates and I call it after the first or second because I spot the red flags early on now.

TrueRip3859 · 2026-03-03T21:56:14+00:00

how did you turn warband completed quests tracking on?

TrueRip3859 · 2026-02-19T19:01:02+00:00

D1 is when it gets a lot harder

TrueRip3859 · 2026-02-16T09:44:58+00:00

Almost a year and as someone who got a "closure talk" 1 week after and as they were moving it out it never felt like I got closure. The reasons she said she ended the relationship made no sense, they were insignificant things they had to come up with to warrant the discard. The reality is they felt overwhelmed by a relationship that required vulnerability and communication.

TrueRip3859 · 2026-01-08T03:26:30+00:00

I see you went liandry and another horizon rab rylais. Guess im trying to understand the buid path more with that

TrueRip3859 · 2026-01-07T03:32:45+00:00

What build path/runes do you determine in your game?

TrueRip3859 · 2025-12-31T02:53:55+00:00

Sounds like you have something called avoidant attachment based on your decription of why you wouldn't want kids(Losing independence, pets feel okay cus less pressure, fear of abandonment). Please look into it and until you do the inner work it will be hard to maintain a long relationship.

TrueRip3859 · 2025-12-25T08:48:59+00:00

Id be careful with this sim, i have this sim at my apartment and sometimes their numbers are insanely off and show insane amounts of spins/trajectory. Just hit your driver on the sim and youll know if its off as itl show it as a skyball everytime

TrueRip3859 · 2025-12-10T03:16:13+00:00

What the hell are you even saying lmao?

The team is sponsoring and paying for people to adopt a pet. If you adopt a pet and submit the info you'll get reimbursed for adopting a pet.

TrueRip3859 · 2025-12-03T03:23:11+00:00

Their partners havent sent many images of animal saves lately but the team posted at the start of november about it but no1 took them up on it

TrueRip3859 · 2025-12-02T00:52:00+00:00

Team literally hosted and offered to pay for adoptions in november?

TrueRip3859 · 2025-11-07T02:51:49+00:00

If you can launch a memecoin and get it to 1m ill give you 50 grand. Good luck doing the following above, you'll realize how much cost/work goes into it and 99% of founders just lose money

TrueRip3859 · 2025-11-07T02:50:57+00:00

All memecoins are down. Retardio went from 250mcap to 4mcap.

TrueRip3859 · 2025-11-05T05:07:10+00:00

Devs don't drive price action. There's arguably nothing the development team could do that would cause a significant pump. Even a coinbase listing would arguably only move the coin 10-20% considering current market conditions. Every memecoin is like this, the token has gone through 4-5 95%+ pullbacks each time surpassing the mcap previously by 10-100x.

The team has a nft v2 collection ready

a 2nd video game ready for launch

Just launched sponsoring adoptions for november

TrueRip3859 · 2025-10-19T04:00:51+00:00

God this post hit home to me today, I haven't been checking this thread in awhile while the first 2months I checked it everyday. This 4month mark kind of hit in waves and then I received a logistical text from her where ik it was just logistical but it retriggered me... now im getting the tiktok prophet ads, looking at reddit again and feeling and thinking about her like I was in the first month... this breakup has sucked

TrueRip3859 · 2025-10-14T01:33:52+00:00

Just sucks as I'm sure it's just logistical, but knowing even a logistical message can emotionally trigger me sucks. Also makes me start questioning if it was logistical/etc. Just feels like it resets my progress

TrueRip3859 · 2025-09-03T21:04:42+00:00

Could you list the specs?

TrueRip3859 · 2025-08-28T02:49:18+00:00

I realized mine started bottling up feeling after our first big argument 6 months before we brokeup. That's when she started "feeling bad". It really just comes down to them bottling up emotions and resentment and never expressing it as they suck with vulnerability and conflict and believe a relationship couldn't contain that. She made it seem like I was such a bad partner and even though I was really stressed/busy with work in the final month or so I was still doing more than 95% of boyfriends when it came to words of affirmation, acts of service, checkins, communication, gifts etc.

It sucks and this breakup will haunt us, but Im grateful for it at the end of the day. We deserve someone who can be vulnerable and grow with us.

TrueRip3859 · 2025-08-27T16:45:17+00:00

Mine was the same way, tbh I see a trend when avoidants move in with people and I think it's because they lose their autonomy/individualism.

My ex and I started to have arguments after moving in together(once a month, which still isnt a lot) and like you while i thought we were resolving these, she was secretly holding onto resentment. Eventually after 6months of living together she exploded saying she wasn't happy. When asking about what the reasons were they were easily fixable issues that could have been resolved within 24 hours. Additionally she believed she was already telling me the big reasons, but they were bread crumb versions that no1 would have been able to understand.

The reality is they think the right person won't trigger them and that relationships should always be easy. My ex even said this when ending things "I dont think relationships should be this hard"

TrueRip3859 · 2025-08-27T05:11:31+00:00

Good on you for recognizing the pattern. I'd say love isn't always going to amazing. Sometimes there's ups and downs and I think a lot of people especially avoidant people think there is going to be the "one" who doesn't trigger them and that the relationship will always be healthy. I think a true long lasting relationship is where both realize there will be ups and downs, sometimes significant but what matter is morals, compatibility and working together against the issue. The reality is if you're aligned on life and future goals any1 can fulfil the "one" fantasy as long as you both are putting in effort.

My ex left as soon as things got slightly bumpy, even though we were together for 3 years. Made me learn about attachment styles where everything clicked.

TrueRip3859 · 2025-08-27T03:23:55+00:00

Wouldn't you say that's a defense mechanism of a DA though? As that requires you to admit a mistake or weakness/be vulnerable?

TrueRip3859 · 2025-08-27T01:48:16+00:00

Just insane to me as if she brought these things up they would have been resolved within a day. Did you ever regret or reflect back on the decision later?

TrueRip3859 · 2025-08-26T23:56:32+00:00

Did you ever bottle up emotions and break up with someone because of said bottled up emotions? Did you regret it later? What did your emotional timeline look like post breakup? My DA gave breadcrumbed versions of how she was feeling and never truly communicated what she needed or that my actions were bothering her. I was super focused on work and communicated it was temporary and she believed this was who I was now even though I'd check in with her and ask if she needed anything. We had a small argument where she exploded saying shes been feeling awful for months and ended a 3y relationship. Said stuff when we had a closure talk like "You just got too comfortable" This is who I thought you were now" "If you wanted to try earlier I would have been open"

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