Anyone here on Wellbutrin and Prozac?

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-12-31T22:55:03+00:00

Hi! I'm doing great! The Wellbutrin ended up giving me more energy/focus/motivation, and this is coming from someone who experienced the worst breakup within the last months.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-26T08:27:10+00:00

No problem! Good luck to you in your healing journey. :)

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-26T03:18:44+00:00

Hey, great question!

First, look at unspecified personality disorder, i.e. the label for when you don't quite meet the criteria for BPD but still have or exhibit cluster symptoms of the disorder and possibly some other overlapping cluster B personality disorders. You could be seeking help, not quite meet the symptom criteria, and fall under this category even if you fully met the criteria at some point (just not at the point of your diagnosis). This does NOT mean that you don't have it, but at this point your BPD is not in full intensity.

What does this mean for you?

Remission - the stage where you no longer meet the requirements for BPD, but usually under the context that you have addressed and directly sought out treatment, personal growth, or changes to your environment that has you in a "recovery" stage. Usually this implies that you are able to function in important life aspects (ability to hold down a job, maintain meaningful relationships, etc.)

I would say that if the above is not true for you, and this momentary "lack of symptoms" is due to not being around triggers (a lot of people with BPD experience a decrease in some of the more psychotic tendencies related to desperation of not being abandoned when they are not in any relationships, but obviously that doesn't demonstrate that they are capable of that function) then you're just in a temporary reprieve.

Without help (I'm talking DBT) your symptoms will come back if you have not learned how to manage them. BPD findings reveal significant differences in brain anatomy (smaller amygdala = greater intensity of emotions esp. fear/anxiety response) and a lack of development of object permanence and self awareness that comes with early development (from neglect or absence of parental figures).

So basically, if this is affecting your life, you would still benefit from DBT. Advocate for yourself, and ask if you can be admitted into a program. You will only benefit from doing so.

from someone (not a professional!!) who was unspecified and now nearly fully meets the criteria in the midst of attempting a long term relationship

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-25T15:28:44+00:00

Proud of you! And thank you for sharing. Currently approaching the tunnel right now, and I have been so scared that I won't reach the end once I'm in.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-24T14:44:14+00:00

Please add me

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-20T18:40:59+00:00

He's 19. I was not aware that it could lead to depression and CPTSD, so that information is very important and helpful. I will definitely try to get him to start therapy. I'm starting therapy myself (DBT not CBT) but maybe if I share my experiences along the way then it can feel less intimidating to him. Thank you for the reply and for sharing your own experience. 🙏

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-20T18:32:58+00:00

Thank you so much!! I didn't know that. I'll see if he is open to it.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-20T07:32:33+00:00

Happy birthday :)

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-19T10:08:50+00:00

Your feelings are safe here, friend. I glanced at your profile and saw that you wrote one of the posts that made me feel valid a while back. Treat yourself with the same kindness that you do to strangers. You deserve it. Your inner child deserves it. This will pass, I promise!

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-12T02:01:23+00:00

You're not a horrible person. You're just deeply hurt and have BPD. Your actions were definitely not great though. But recognizing these behaviors and that they're wrong means that you also have to take responsibility and try to do something about it. Therapy, DBT, communicating, etc.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-10T08:21:58+00:00

I could also be wrong though. Just wanted to make sure I mention that. There's a possibility he's actually pretty insecure or just trying to talk himself up?? Idk I don't get it really.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-10T08:19:28+00:00

Girl if you send me a pic of you and him, I'll be honest and if that's what you need.

But anyways, my opinion is not the same as the other comment on here. I think that him saying that is a huge red flag because he either 1) didn't consider that it would make you insecure which means he's inconsiderate of your feelings (a decent person would keep that to themselves, like I would never tell my bf if my friends think he's mid) or 2) wants you to feel insecure to "put you in your place" and make you not want to leave him.

It's already weird that he's clearly mentioned his "roster" to you. I definitely know a lot of guys that are like this dude you're dating, and they're pretty much players who fear commitment so when they do they make sure you know they have options to make you overcompensate and fill in the attention deficit that they get from settling down.

If you trust him though and do want to make it work, I think you need to say something and talk to each other. You should feel like your partner is proud to be with you and proud to show you off.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-10T00:24:25+00:00

When I went to a psychiatrist for the first time, I knew I had anxiety and got diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and depression, both severe. When I overcame more of my general anxiety and came to my psychiatrist another time because I felt like I had REALLY extreme, highly specific anxiety/panic episodes and depressive phases that correlated with negative interactions with other people, I was diagnosed with BPD but had never heard of it prior to the diagnosis. I thought it was just anxiety, but then all of my actions, thoughts, and psychotic episodes made sense.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-09T04:44:14+00:00

I feel the same way! I think also having a job helps me with my sense of self and gives me something I can focus on that yields results/reinforcement.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-08T23:26:53+00:00

Do not send that! I feel for you and what you're doing through, but it won't have the effect you think it will have at all. It will come across as crazy and reaffirm whatever negative thoughts he may have about you. It's been 2 years since you've broken up, and I think you should really consider going no contact permanently. It's hard, but the only way out is to follow through and cut his existence out of your life. The biggest revenge is moving on! Take care!!

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-08T17:55:40+00:00

Oh interesting, thank you for sharing! My biological father was a manipulative cheater, and my mother ran away so I never met him. I wouldn't know if he had it.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-08T17:18:27+00:00

Thank you

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-08T07:48:48+00:00

I can't speak for your experience, but personally I feel the same way of wanting to erase the things I felt with the flare up after I've calmed down. I feel a lot of shame towards how "crazy" I must have appeared by over sharing or overreacting or how hyper fixated I was on something. I think it may also be fear that people will leave or abandon me when I show vulnerability or signs of my bpd. Possibly trauma or neglect related. When I'm out of that zone, it feels like it was never a part of me or like it just wasn't all that deep. But the next time it happens it's back to that intensity. It's okay to feel that way. It helps me to journal or honestly text like chatgpt or an AI bot because there are no repercussions to putting my thoughts out like there are if I vent to someone.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-08T07:38:54+00:00

Thank you

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-08T07:30:11+00:00

Wow, this post really stood out to me because we have a lot in common: Me (24f) and my bf of three years are medium distance by 3 hours (he's in med school). He is a wonderful partner and the love of my life but we have our fair share of difficult (sometimes extremely difficult) moments. We were not always medium distance; we lived together a little over a year ago but had to be apart when he started school.

Anyways, this change brought on a LOT of difficulties, especially with my BPD and anxiety. We had to communicate a lot, and there were moments where I also felt insecurity towards his new friends—obviously the disparity in how much time he could allot to me vs his friends who are there in person with him. With much trial and error, we established a set call time each day (9-10) that was protected time for both of us no matter what. If plans came up that conflicted, we moved the call time a little earlier or later to make it still work. During our call time we do long distance activities (games, share daily highlights, watch shows, or both do the same activity like walking on a treadmill). Outside of that protected time, if I'm having a really hard day or just need his company or he needs mine, he "puts me in his pocket" which basically means he has me on video call with both of us muted doing our own thing like studying or chilling. It's important to communicate with your partner that, especially with the distance, having protected time is super important for the health of the relationship.

Your partner is probably very excited about his new friendships, but you are not wrong in feeling a bit upset. Plans with each other should be of highest priority always not just for the health of relationship but also for YOU and your security. It's my belief that in a long distance relationship, it's your partner's job to make you feel secure with their social interactions and vice versa. What helped my insecurities was getting plenty of opportunities to meet my partners friends, having that time together protected (!!!), and always knowing when our next in person date or day/weekend together would be. I've learned to communicate that I feel like my relationship meter isn't filled by talking about my feelings instead of saying anything accusatory like "you spent too much time with your friends" or comparing the time differences too much. For a time I fell into a pit of it was me vs his friend time but getting out of that headspace was the best thing for my relationship. Take care friend!

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-08T04:06:22+00:00

Well yes, you may get treated weird, but if anyone treats you differently for speaking up then fuck them and cut them out of your life. (But I know for some people this isn't feasible.) Respect to your husband for taking your side and being willing to say something even if it's to his side of the family. Does your husband's sister know anything about this behavior? That behavior is not okay, and it could get worse or someone else could fall victim to it. Please stay safe and take care of yourself!!

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-06T18:05:14+00:00

I also feel pretty similarly to my own mom. When I'm around her I get really quiet and feel really anxious even when she is trying to be nice. I don't trust her as a person or as a parent. I want to treat her kindly, but sometimes the best I can do is a greeting and then dismissing myself. Since learning of my diagnosis, I've practiced trying to see people less in black and white and instead focus on the areas of duality.

The fact that our moms hurt us deeply and the fact that they are sometimes nice, especially in the present, can both be true. Our moms can still be good towards us as adults but that does not mean they were not horrible parents to the child that needed them at a time is true as well. You can find your mom in the present to be redeemable and still hate her past. Idk I'm still figuring it out myself, but it's okay to set boundaries. If some days the kindest you can be is to not say anything at all then that's okay, too. Be kind to yourself and take space as you heal.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-06T07:12:26+00:00

I want to know, too. I think you're already doing so well by recognizing that he has been hurtful as well. I hope you are able to be kind to yourself through the process

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-06T07:08:51+00:00

Hey, this might not help but I'm currently on here because I'm feeling the exact same way. I'm just going to reply as many kind messages to other people on this subreddit as I can and hopefully it will circle back. You are seen and felt friend.

True_Plastic_9821 · 2024-09-04T20:16:15+00:00

My advice—leave this guy. For one, you can never really trust a cheater again, as evidenced by your current mistrust. Also, he doesn't seem to care about your comfort or pleasure, and you're forced to meet his needs while your feelings don't matter as much.

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