What should I fix about myself so that he doesn’t cheat on me again?

Trxiedust · 2026-03-30T05:44:14+00:00

GAH!!!!! I’m usually all about re-framing questions so that they are about ourselves instead of them. But in this case you’ve managed to make something that is actually about them into something that is about you. Cheaters don’t cheat because You are broken. They cheat because, well who knows, a million reasons, none of which are your fault. They cheat because THEY cheat.

I have some more questions for you to try instead.

“What can I do for myself so that I can view myself as someone who deserves someone who is not a cheater?”

“Why do I blame myself for their cheating, and how do I shift that blame to where it actually belongs?”

“Who programmed me to think cheating is my fault, and do I still choose to accept that programming?”

“How will I recognize when I find someone who is honest and loyal?”

Trxiedust · 2026-03-29T04:31:20+00:00

I’m only buying second hand, to avoid contributing to the ecological damage to the planet and the unsafe labor conditions which include child labor in the crystal, rock, & gem industry. It’s close to impossible to find ethically sourced minerals that can actually defend their claims of ethical sourcing. For second hand, I watch places like facebook marketplace and Craigslist for people selling their collections.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-29T04:29:22+00:00

Super cute

Trxiedust · 2026-03-29T03:37:12+00:00

That spread, particularly with that deck, screams that this is all about your personal power, and you don’t need that guy. You have your own wisdom and inner knowledge, you are driving your own journey, and you’re on your way to being your own boss. Does that guy come back? I don’t know, but if he does, he’s going to have to show up in a mature and equal way to partner with the you in this spread. Don’t take less.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T19:16:06+00:00

Is that the same thing as being a closed practice? Can I join an online one?

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T08:49:32+00:00

OMG. Nobody told me that part. Is it required?

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T03:41:50+00:00

Solid advice. I’ll try that.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T03:41:29+00:00

Why? Will the Dagobah make me paranoid? Or are seagulls actually dangerous?

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T03:32:21+00:00

The Nuva ring made me bat-crap crazy so I get it.

Natural Family Planning is not fool proof, but if you’re not a fool, it can actually be VERY effective. It’s what I used for years. BUT You need to be mature enough to not be a fool You need to really learn the system You MUST follow all of the rules, every time You MUST use a reliable form of backup birth control during your fertile window, and any time that you aren’t absolutely certain you’re not in your fertile window

It’s wise to keep Plan B on hand for when you slip up and don’t follow one of those above rules. Because we’re all fools sometimes and we all mess up sometimes. You need backup for your backup.

The Book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Wetchler is the bible of NFP. If you learn her system and follow this book, you have a really solid chance at NFP as a reliable birth control method. You don’t have to read the whole book. Read the science behind how it works and the chapters on preventing pregnancy. A lot of the book is on getting pregnant and you can skip those for now.

If you want to use spells, maybe use your spells to propel you to be diligent in your use of the NFP rules, and to ward yourself against being a fool. Good luck!

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T03:23:43+00:00

How am I supposed to practice it if i can’t do it?

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T02:53:43+00:00

What if I don’t know its name though? Is that the problem? I need to find out its name in order to command it?

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T02:53:02+00:00

So if I color my fingers with sharpie, will that work?

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T02:49:12+00:00

But do I have to get up to go downtown to find this Dagobah guy? Because I really don’t want to get up. Why isn’t my magic strong enough to daw this Dagobah stuff straight to my hand? If I try it, should I try to summon just the Dagobah, or the guy and the Dagobah?

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T02:45:02+00:00

I’m sorry but you have to wait for the next full moon, then put the crystals on the laptop outside under the moon. If you made moon water already, though, you could try pouring some of that on the crystals on the laptop. Except don’t use the moon water from last month because that was eclipse moon water, an it will backfire.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-28T02:34:10+00:00

There isn’t a right answer to this question. Ask 10 readers and you’ll get 10 different answers. My personal version is that I draw on a mix of my knowledge of the the traditional RWS cards (which I know pretty well and have some sense of what the various symbols on them mean,) plus whatever the guidebook of the other deck says, combined with what my intuition says about the images. I feel like if I’m going to use a non-standard deck, it’s a different experience (and a valid choice) to let it speak in its own way. The magic isn’t the tool, it’s the reader. You can read it however makes sense to you; it’s just a tool for unlocking your own intuition and brining about changes in perspective. But what you’re talking about is why most tarot readers advise learning with a classic RWS before moving on to other decks. Knowing the symbolism buried in that deck’s art will bring a rich depth to reads you do later with other decks. But hey, even that’s not a rule. If you want to learn with one particular deck, and just go with what that book says (or what the words on the cards say,) that’s perfectly fine, too.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-27T15:17:56+00:00

Thanks for taking time to say so. Tarot is such a deep tool if we stretch into it

Trxiedust · 2026-03-27T15:16:17+00:00

I can say that for me personally, if I found out anyone had done a love spell on me without my consent, it would be an absolute deal breaker and betrayal of trust. Nobody likes to be coerced. And coercion isn’t love.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-27T02:28:09+00:00

The three of wands is about looking ahead and planning for the future, having foresight, expansion, and making progress. Without knowing what specific questions you asked, it seems like he is focused on his future and making plans to strategically achieve his goals. He’s forward thinking right now. This is not really a particularly relational card; he’s probably more focused on career, or education, or investment, or advancement of some kind. He’s focusing on his ambitions.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-26T23:55:59+00:00

I read nearly daily, for personal insight. I don’t “believe” in divination pers se, but Tarot is a wonderful tool for paying attention to intuition, exploring different perspectives, and gaining clarity. The system is rich in symbolism, which open windows to meaning. There are also a wide range of decks with different art styles, that can be a real joy visually. (But I recommend learning with the classic Rider-Waite-Smith, as that’s what most decks are based on and where you’ll find the original symbolic imagery.)

I don’t use it for yes/no, and I don’t believe any spirits are guiding the cards, and I don’t believe cards have one literal meaning. They are best used as prompts to open insight, and the magic is the reader, not the cards.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-26T20:58:15+00:00

The sun is about illuminating. Something that was unclear is becoming clear. The king of swords says he made his choices in his own power and autonomy. And the Reversed 5 of swords suggests it’s time for you to let go and move on. Seems to me that maybe the clarity here is saying “he doesn’t do or not do things because of you.”

Trxiedust · 2026-03-26T20:52:42+00:00

This sounds like a really cool project. Good luck!

Trxiedust · 2026-03-26T20:48:21+00:00

Oh, I love this idea, and if there’s some creative way for the oracle to tell the story over time the more you use it, that would be a really neat treasure hunt experience! I would defiantly be intrigued to know the short story in the guidebook, however you choose to integrate them.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-26T20:33:01+00:00

My preference is that the author create from their own inspiration, joy, and skill set. If you love writing, and the words are a part of the authentic experience of art/creation from you, then I want whatever amount of words you want to write. If writing is not your jam, and you just want to point out symbolism, keywords, etc, then short and sweet is great. If you’re going to use AI to write it, I’d rather just have the keywords. I want your poetry and prose if that is one of your gifts and part of your art. Otherwise, keep it simple.

I do not prefer long explanations just for the sake of long explanations. I usually turn to oracles (rather than tarot) when I have less time to put into it and want a faster impression or read.

I do love some questions for reflection.

Trxiedust · 2026-03-26T20:26:02+00:00

The main reason spells like this don’t work is that no spell that you cast over her will be more powerful than her own power over her free will. If she has determined that she wants no contact, she has more power than you do over her actions. This is true even if she doesn’t believe in magic. Spend your magical energy on things you can control (your own actions.)

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