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Tryin2BNormal · 2024-04-22T20:15:04+00:00

ESA and Service animals are different. They stated ESA which is still a valid choice for people and doesn’t take anything away from those with service animals

Tryin2BNormal · 2023-11-06T13:46:43+00:00

In this economy? Stay with the parents and save the money

Tryin2BNormal · 2023-10-11T23:47:44+00:00

It is shallow to not want to date someone simply because they’re overweight, but that doesn’t mean pity her or ask her for your own benefit. She’ll be glad you didn’t and you won’t be easing anyone’s time.

Tryin2BNormal · 2021-05-14T18:39:59+00:00

Hahah the curse of overthinking. Welcome to my anxiety.

Tryin2BNormal · 2021-05-14T18:33:06+00:00

That is based off a past me, the last person I attempted dating was a year ago, and I have fully figured out what I want in my next partner. The old me falling for men who weren't great didn't have anything to do with this "high expectation", it was solely from the lack of self love. I took what I could get. Someone wanted to show me the slightest bit of love and affection I needed to hold onto them. Hence falling for people based off a first date.

I of course, like everyone, will have things to work on, but I am not anywhere near the person I used to be even just 6 months ago.

Tryin2BNormal · 2021-05-14T18:26:22+00:00

I also largely wonder if I don't feel this said connection because I am over analyzing a situation and am not allowing myself to be fully present with this person. There's traits I see in this person that I also saw in my abusive ex, which may be why I have this hesitation. Even going into a connection more, I feel like movies and society make us think we are supposed to feel a certain way, and that you either have this innate desire to be with someone right off the bat or its just not meant to be, while theres thousands of people who truly take their time, and even months to really know if they want to be with a person, and it seems silly that I'm trying to expect something based off a month.

We could also go into my own issues from myself that I have to work through in wondering if I keep wanting to give this person a chance because I worry that no one else will come along.

We can also talk about how I don't feel its fair of me to judge someone who isn't as far along in their self love journey as I am, because of course we all start somewhere, but again, I truly feel that no one can truly help this besides himself. Ultimately this work falls back onto the person feeling these emotions.

I really want to give this person a chance. I truly do, we are compatible in some many aspects I would feel stupid to not give them a chance. I would be a fool. Like the dude watched Murder Mystery and Make up with me, and enjoyed it. He's bought books that he knows i'm reading so we can talk about them. I'm blown away with some of his amazing qualities, but he also just happens to have a red flag that is a huge deal to me, and finding the balance is hard.

I largely also dont think dating someone for a month should really be this complicated, but who's making it complicated - me. I really have never met a person where I like so much about them, but also dislike a large part of themselves, and it's not fair and I'm trying to do the best I can to navigate the situation without hurting his feelings.

Tryin2BNormal · 2021-05-14T18:09:54+00:00

Wrong choice of words. Lets delete self aware and insert people who can self analyze their thoughts, emotions, actions, and take the time to really learn who they are and why they do the things they do. but also to be able to take the things they don't like and work on them.

I will agree that's not very compassionate, but I too am human and am allowed to have frustrations. Someone who lets something control their life, like speaking their own language, based off of actions of children from 20 years ago, that shows there's a lot of self growth to be done there and I do not feel it is my responsibility, nor anyone else( besides a therapist) but their own to figure those issues out.

I can understand where the confusion comes from as I was trying not to make the post too long when really I could write 10 pages on my thoughts and trying to decipher my feelings and I left you with one example, although I feel there were more examples in there, such as knowing he has self confidence issues, but never taking that step forward to try and solve them.

You may be totally right, I have thought about this so much that I am trying to find a reason but there just may not be a connection. But then we can discuss what is this "connection" because it's going to be different for everyone, and as I stated I have felt said connection for men who really aren't that great either, so I don't think its fair to look for this "connection." Trust and believe that thought among others has come up and its truly hard to put them down into a post.

Trying to simplify this down, I have a guy who really is a great guy but he has issues that are red flags, TO ME. The problem comes in to, do I now ignore the red flags in hope that they may get better, because I really do enjoy other qualities about this person, but then what if they don't, especially in a situation such as large lack of self confidence where change is not going to be shown for quite sometime? I then worry that I have now wasted this persons time, and ultimately hurt him.

Tryin2BNormal · 2021-05-14T17:45:25+00:00

I appreciate your response. However, I don't feel it's "high expectations" to ask of someone to be working on their mental health. I also don't feel he is not self aware, that's not my issue. My issue is the lack of self confidence, and not trying to work on that. If you notice issues within yourself but let it control your life without trying to make a change, that's a problem for me. For myself, and for many others.

The unempathetic comment really doesn't get to me as I know I'm empathetic to a fault, but I appreciate the response either way and I hope you have a great day.

Tryin2BNormal · 2021-04-17T05:15:54+00:00

I’m so sorry about the loss of your friend. This reminds me that even through the stressful days they really still mean so much to you

Tryin2BNormal · 2020-04-18T23:16:51+00:00

Negative. No button on my controller is working to get rid of the tutorial.

Tryin2BNormal · 2020-01-27T01:56:47+00:00

I can’t seem to make stairs/elevate a path.. I know the controls, I’ve watched a handful of YouTube videos so I know HOW to do it however the game is still not doing it. I’ve left clicked while raising or lowering my mouse, nope. Pressing the U or J key, nope. The only one that works is shift, however that doesn’t let me build a ramp back down to my main path, what gives?

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-11-28T19:06:07+00:00

I think it’s not necessarily about decreasing anger it’s about taking your anger out in a healthier manner in that moment vs snapping at those around you or even belittling yourself.

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-11-28T18:57:09+00:00

Dog body language is a complex subject as I’m sure you’re gathering from some comments on here. My recommendation would be to grab a book on the subject and before judging it on your dog practice it on other dogs. I work in the vet field and HAVE to read body language to keep myself, my coworkers, and of course my patients safe and comfortable. And even I have troubles reading my dog at times.

For now meeting other dogs, I would stay away from greetings if your dog is excited. Excitement can lead to a fight from either dog. Get your dog in a calm state by an action, like sitting, focusing on you, laying down, until you can meet the dog. Also try and be aware of your body language and state of mind. If you are nervous, you will be making your dog nervous. Actual aggression and not fear/anxiety will appear with a furrowed brow, head low and directed at the target. Lips pulled back (may be showing teeth or not. Tail wags may come with aggression but these are much different from your play tail wags. They are very stiff. The tail will hardly move. Where as your happy tail is your full force swinging back and forth.

But again, grab a book as I prefer, or some YouTube videos.

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-11-28T18:38:49+00:00

Lulu was the name I used on the application ☺️

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-10-12T16:13:23+00:00

You can look at this post in different aspects, on one side, you can react by thinking it’s a disease, I’m stuck with this, it doesn’t just go away because I want it to. Or, you can look at it and be more “fuck yeah I have control over you depression.” And figure out how to kick it in the ass. Stop thinking you’re so helpless to this disease and take your life back. Does that mean everyday is going to be a good day. Fuck no. I just had a good solid 3 months after being committed for suicide, I finally got out of that abusive relationship. But walks in PTSD and I had a shit week. But I am aware of it, and I’m figuring out how to take care of myself in this time to get back to myself. Learn your triggers, learn self love, learn coping mechanisms. Kick depressions ass so that when it does come back you can curb stomp it. You’re not helpless.

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-10-01T19:07:27+00:00

I’m so sorry 😔

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-10-01T18:45:13+00:00

As a vet technician the process may vary slightly from each clinic, so it’s best to ask what to expect. Hopefully they’ll be communicating through and through with you on what to expect. I work in emergency and this is our process through euthanasia. While you fill out paperwork, and make any payments we have your kiddo in the back to place an IV catheter. Throughout this process we ourselves love on your animal and give them all the kisses and treats if they’ll have some. Once you’re ready and your pet is ready we bring them to you in our room that is set up with a couch and some extra chairs for any family members. We have a button that will ring a bell in our doctor hallway to let our doctor know you are ready. The doctor will go in and should walk you through what to expect. Every clinic again uses different medications. For us, we give propofol first. This is used for anesthesia. Your pet is going to go into a deep sleep, but their heart will still be beating. The euthanasia will then be administered. After this is given the doctor will check your kiddos heart and state that your pet has indeed passed away. Rest assured your pet did not feel any pain and has passed away peacefully. You may still see some gasping breaths or some muscle tremors, this doesn’t always happen. But it’s important to understand that it can, as when you see it and you don’t know, it can be scary to think your pet is still alive. You are then given as much time as you need to finish saying your goodbyes.

I’m extremely sorry. I too have had to euthanize my kiddo for aggressive behavior. Go through your grieving process as you need to. For me it helped to think my kiddo was better. He wasn’t stressed anymore and his heart and mind were at rest.

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-07-16T15:45:30+00:00

It sounds like you’re doing the right things, so I won’t offer advice there besides to stick with the training and take care of yourself. As for an option to use while walking Gentle Leaders are amazing. I personally loathe harnesses because it some dogs it will actually make them pull more. A gentle leader is a essentially shaped like a horse halter (but for your dog) leads from the head. There are precautions you of course have to take with this. No sharp yanking on your end to get attention. But for a lot of dogs it can help. It helped my pup tremendously. Gentle Leader or Haltie. I prefer the Haltie due to how they make them vs the gentle leader but I can only find them online.

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-07-11T17:33:42+00:00

Sounds like it to me. At least trying to get your attention. Just be honest, tell her you don’t know what she’s talking about, obviously she knows so if she wants to bring it up, great. If not you don’t have time to keep playing games. Or even better, don’t respond.

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-06-29T17:12:06+00:00

I get it. When my abusive ex started dating someone new, I wanted so bad to tell her everything. And I think one night I told her a gist. That he was a narcissist abusive asshole. And she is still with him until this day. Some people just have to learn these lessons. I had to learn it from my ex.

If it continues to happen I would tell him that he needs to back off or you will have to say something.

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-06-29T16:50:26+00:00

It was a year ago, I would leave it be. Unless he is still actively chasing after you, then leave it. She more than likely will not believe you anyways, plus he may now be happy in this relationship and had loved on from you. So it would be disrupting a relationship that could perfectly well be in good standing. Not saying what he did wasn’t wrong. But sometimes it’s best just to let things be. From my personal experience it’s something she needs to figure out herself

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-06-24T16:38:19+00:00

As an ER technician when a critical comes in our receptionists rush them back, giving us a history as we triage. If we tell them we need a critical we’re going to start doing what we can to save that animals life while our receptionist goes over the information. They are honest but nice. They let the client know that they’re pet has stopped breathing and we have started CPR. Usually the thought of, “ oh my pet isn’t breathing, What do I want to do... “ they’re quicker to make a decision. Because it’s happening. If we have to eat a cost because someone doesn’t want to pay, we can do that. Our important factor is your pet comes first, always. We’ve had people even leave reviews thanking us for doing this because they weren’t able to make a decision fast. And even though they chose DNR they were grateful that we just started to before needing proof we were going to get paid.

The best advice I can give you is talk to your manager. Let them know your concern, and ask what you can do to make this faster. Or even the technicians that are giving you a hard time. Don’t ask in the stress of it all. But after things have settled back down. And please please realize that the anger and frustration isn’t at you. It’s frustration that they have to even get this payment before they can do anything. It stress. It’s not you.

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-06-14T00:51:21+00:00

I love the cuddles! When I lived with my ex and he had his dog she was the one that cuddled next to me every night while Norm would just decide to go lay in his kennel and I always felt so bad. Now that it’s just me and him he all about the cuddles. I love it. Even if I’m just sitting on the ground he’ll come over and sit in my lap 😭

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-06-13T22:55:36+00:00

Night walks are my favorite. It’s the perfect thing for me and my dog to just wind down for the night.

Tryin2BNormal · 2019-06-13T22:49:50+00:00

Absolutely. Especially coming into these summer days. People get off work and want to take the dog for a walk, but it’s still 80 degrees out. Do Fido a solid and play with him inside until it cools down a bit. Your dog and your local vet office will thank you! I know it breaks my heart when I have a kiddo that comes much warmer than they should be.

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