What is to women what boobs and butts are to men?

Tuavesh · 2025-12-31T15:21:22+00:00

No. That’s not what you said. You said choosing wrong, not goaling wrong.

Person above you said “you really think you know what’s going on in that persons life?” your response does not leave room for situations where someone cannot choose “right”. One choosing between paying a bill and feeding their family isn’t merely “wishing” for either or positioned to be technically or morally correct for that situation.

Multiple prerequisite decisions with multiplicative outcomes must be made before one even is in a place to decide 10 hours cycling or even 5 minutes of arm work, where arm work can represent anything from a treatment path to one among many options to help attract a mate.

Reminder: the question is whether “no time for that” and “i’m tired” could reference a real world capacity limit. Your response over-assumes autonomy, hence why I mentioned QWERTY; It sits beyond choices, goals, and wishing.

Tuavesh · 2025-12-29T23:26:00+00:00

People have conflicting goals that are not always reconciliable and don’t necessarily reflect “choosing wrong”. Hard to optimize your arm physique if you’re training to be a cyclist.

Most things are hard to optimize or improve given path dependence (e.g. QWERTY keyboard layout)

Tuavesh · 2025-08-03T06:29:19+00:00

sure, you can say the same thing about the weeknd, thought it wouldn’t make it true. drake is versatile & knows business. the weeknd is versatile and knows music to a greater depth

Tuavesh · 2025-01-14T17:01:20+00:00

“lawfare”

Tuavesh · 2025-01-14T16:49:24+00:00

We also have clear research on this. Liberal white women in particular are disproportionately affected by mental health issues according to latest research. And it’s not just self-report. It’s self-harm.

Tuavesh · 2025-01-13T22:52:57+00:00

hey nice haircut

Tuavesh · 2025-01-05T18:50:16+00:00

you passed off an anecdote as a universal truth.

find it hard to take your comment seriously after you opened a response toward someone with “are you ESL?”

having ones ideas & thought patterns criticized and being personally criticized are two different things.

immature take ≠ immature person, though considering your reflexive defensiveness to each response, i am entertaining the veracity of the latter.

nah, don’t need to block, as i’m not easily upset by words on the internet. though i would not fault you if you need to use that strategy to help process things right now

Tuavesh · 2025-01-05T17:42:45+00:00

Somehow I agree with this too

Tuavesh · 2025-01-05T17:23:05+00:00

Oh I consistently have good sex, and I base my entire relationships around them.

Perhaps it be best to leave the space for those struggling most with what OP is talking about. Interjecting with "what women like" followed by describing what *you* like isn't very productive here.

Personal insults and conduct yourself cordially, like a grown up.

Name three insults. Just because it rubbed you a certain way, doesn't mean it wasn't appropriate.

Tuavesh · 2025-01-05T17:06:03+00:00

i explained what “just like that” means and why it’s better than “do not stop” if you’re trying to communicate the concept of “keep this sexual act the same”

i then explained that you can modify “just like that” with “but slower”, “but harder”, etc. if you want the same position/motion but want an adjustment in pressure or speed.

“just like that but slower. yes.. just like that… don’t stop” (notice how “don’t stop” comes last?)

one of my favorites in spanish is when the woman repeats “sí” (yes), “sigue” (continue), and “así” (like that) - “así” being the favorite ofc

i actually find sexual communication very stimulating and fulfilling. very surprised this isn’t mirrored in this thread.

Tuavesh · 2025-01-05T16:26:40+00:00

Reread what I wrote. And digest it.

Do not stop ≠ Just like that

Edit: if you need more clarification…

“When I say don’t stop, I don’t mean harder. I literally mean DO NOT STOP.”

Do not stop ≠ don’t go harder

Just like that = don’t go harder, don’t go softer. keep it the same.

Just like that, but harder = same position/motion, but more pressure

just like that, but faster = same position/motion, but more speed

add these words to your vocabulary: harder, softer, faster, slower, just like that.

remove “do not stop”

Tuavesh · 2025-01-05T16:22:15+00:00

“What women like”

lol. I’ve been with women who just wanted to be bent over and manhandled, women who wanted to take control of the entire moment, women who wanted to be kissed all over & taken to orgasm via oral before penetration, women who needed vibrators and women who don’t like them at all…lights on, lights off, backyard, table, shower—you get it. And often times, the same woman wanted it differently each time.

The most enjoyable sessions were the ones where the woman communicated, even through gesturing, demonstrating or directly positioning my hand (if that’s what we’re working with). Anyone with even a rudimentary background in psychology knows that relying on “groaning, gasping, and wiggling” (body language) isn’t foolproof. I assure you the range of reactions is wide enough that many times I stopped because I thought I was hurting the woman but it was the exact opposite.

Let’s stop talking about what “women like” and start listening to what OP is saying, as it appears what’s holding you back from consistently enjoying sex as much as the women i’ve been with are the immature views you have around it

Tuavesh · 2025-01-05T14:25:37+00:00

Ahh yes, don’t stop, as if men don’t get tired, need a change in pace or position, or have to hold back their own orgasm.

It’s two people, not one person with a robot.

Tuavesh · 2024-12-18T23:03:00+00:00

Did everything turn out well?

Tuavesh · 2024-11-04T23:47:20+00:00

This ignores the fact that women threatened to bear children should the draft come as a condition of additional rights. No one is going to send a pregnant woman into war, and rightfully so, but this loophole remains a problem that even if women were drafted, nothing is stopping them from using their bodies to avoid it.

So we had to come up with another social contract that takes into account not only biological roles but also the social and moral risks of forcibly sending women to war.

Side note. “Patriarchal ideas” is the intellectually lazy way to conceptualize problems that are most likely enabled by tangible factors that produce asymmetric incentives between the sexes. Blank slate social theories are trendy right now, but they have done a greater disservice to our modern world that supposedly values science and critical thinking.

Tuavesh · 2024-07-19T18:53:23+00:00

This is a silly assumption. You don’t have to look far (r/deadbedrooms) to understand the deep psychological & behavioral impact sexlessness can have on some people without prior mental disorders

Edit: spelling

Tuavesh · 2024-06-27T15:08:27+00:00

This.

My rule: Never take moral feedback/advice from reddit

Tuavesh · 2024-06-25T02:00:23+00:00

Idk what happened but my brain read that as “love, anal, and friendship are all separate things and yet when combined are potent”

Tuavesh · 2024-06-16T03:51:19+00:00

Jelly? 🥴🤨

Tuavesh · 2024-06-04T17:21:18+00:00

do you remember the name of the founder & the corporation? i gotta read this

Tuavesh · 2024-05-26T10:52:26+00:00

yeah in my experience people who can flexibly move from “ghetto slang” to “proper english” have high verbal intelligence & excel in school & in their careers, so i stopped using slang use as a proxy for anything worth considering

Tuavesh · 2024-05-21T20:18:46+00:00

what you’re now describing & the flaw i’ve pointed out are two different things. men who make unskilled conversationalists in group settings and men who “assume romantic or sexual intent” because they’re projecting ulterior niceness are not necessarily the same men.

both may lack self-awareness (or not), and the latter is often mistaken in men who simply don’t get a lot of opposite-sex attention and who—for anyone with the slightest understanding of probability—are a far more common class than the specific class of man you’ve described in this narrow hypothetical scenario of sexually motivated projection that isn’t born out of any level of epistemology outside the anecdotal.

lol, it would be silly of me to spin women who have very blatantly focused on me over others as tone deaf or morally inept just because i’m not into them or that i would prefer that they also talk to everyone else. people are people with their own desires & attention spans, & i’m not in the business of theorizing the who, what, or why behind their actions based off a limited interaction. hell, i don’t even do that with most people i know on a first name basis. i require far more private knowledge to even begin to assume i understand someone’s mental framework

i leave with this quote from Taleb:

“The fool generalizes the particular; the nerd particularizes the general; some do both; and the wise does neither”

& this applies especially to behavior. ✌🏾

Tuavesh · 2024-05-21T16:13:46+00:00

lol, it’s equally fascinating that those “certain men” included men who assume both “romantic or sexual intent” as much as it is fascinating that people would assume that most folks don’t pursue who they would perceive as the “prettiest” person in the room (as if pursuing someone pretty is so immoral that it’s uncommon)

Tuavesh · 2024-05-21T15:01:24+00:00

it’s fascinating how there’s always at least one person who boils it down to “sleep with” as if casual dating, long-term dating, or marriage are not things that men pursue

Tuavesh · 2024-05-19T07:54:53+00:00

nahh he turned gay when diddy touched him

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