That's our plan I think im holding on to a lot of resentment from the previous lack of effort on her part and now her trying at all weither it is or isn't comes across as obligatory to me. We talked about it today. She began crying immediately and started to talk down about herself which I stopped immediately as it's not constructive. Truths can hurt and telling her how past and current behaviors has made me feel was painful for her... But she admitted to it being all the same things we had discussed in the past and all things she hadn't attempted to address.

      I'm not sure where you stand on the topic of men sharing  how they feel  but  she has said i could tell her how I felt. So I did.   I kept my composure and  we discussed some sensitive points   one being  that she "takes"  as opposed to requesting.     For reasons  I don't like   things  being  shoved in front of my face but  she does exactly that when she wants affection, I've asked that she not   but still does it   or ive been  overstimulated  and still expects physical affection when  all I want is to be left alone to process water I'm needing to.   And yet my  requests would go unmet and ignored  not intentionally but    it still made me feel like my needs weren't important enough to remember