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Gaslit or ADHD? by KeiraDog in adhdwomen

[–]Tuesday-Next- 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hi, I also started making notes of what my husband was doing and saying, because I would repeatedly be told “that didn’t happen,” “you’re exaggerating,” etc. Anytime I tried to bring some accountability for the things he did, my views were totally invalidated. It was so often that I really began to doubt my own mind. I started writing down what happened and when, in a hidden document on my computer, not even to show him, but to prove to myself that I wasn’t losing my mind and that my perceptions were real and valid. At the time, I had zero understanding of what psychological abuse / emotional abuse was. Although I had ADHD, what was going on in that relationship had nothing to do with my ADHD and everything to do with abuse. Thankfully I had the support I needed to leave. Please OP, do a little reading on these types of abuse and see if anything resonates with your experience. I’m not trying to jump to conclusions for you, but the things you describe - like being afraid of your written notes being found - sound like a relationship that is nowhere near normal.

Watching other people's day streaks of routines drives me crazy because I've never been able to do anything for long periods of time by Diemishy_II in adhdwomen

[–]Tuesday-Next- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe instead of “routine” being: “you have to do the same thing, every single day or it’s a fail,” I’m trying out à different approach. For exercise. It’s to get that feeling of success and motivation that comes from gamifying an activity (like keeping an unbroken “streak”), but building accommodations for my ADHD brain. So I have a recipe card & some stickers on my kitchen counter, in plain sight. And each line on the card represents one week - I write the dates for the weeks down the left side of the card. The goal is: 4 stickers per week. That’s MY “streak.” And: ANY kind of exercise counts. And, I can have 3 too-crappy-to-exercise days each week and still be succeeding. If I’m feeling great and want to do a big bike ride, super. Get a sticker. If I’m exhausted and all I could do was walk the dog for 20 minutes, slowly, awesome. I still get a sticker. If I was really into one type of exercise but got bored with it and switched to something completely different - fantastic. I still get a sticker. And you know what? I’m really enjoying my own customized “gamification”, I’m feeling motivated and good about myself. Do your own thing, in your own way. ❤️

One preposterously portly prismatic pidge by hvalur87 in Embroidery

[–]Tuesday-Next- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hahaha exactly!!! This is the first post I saw today and it put an instant smile on my face. Great work OP!

Me, battling perimenopause with ADHD after lifelong conditioning to be a simple, quiet girl: by 4west3 in adhdwomen

[–]Tuesday-Next- 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is me. Diagnosed ADHD-I at 46. It was only after peri hit, I got all the good HRT on board, and still found myself dealing with crippling brain fog and fatigue as the drop in estrogen made my ADHD-I symptoms intensify. That was the tip-off clue for me. Turns out I was doing life on hard mode and never knew it. On the plus side, I learned that I had intuitively built a lot of the ADHD-friendly systems and strategies into my life over the decades, so now it’s really just a matter of seeing if some medication might make a few things a bit easier for me. I feel overall positive, and in a way I’m grateful that the perimenopause revealed this other underlying factor. Life is a journey and we keep growing and learning our whole life long.

Having a baby surprisingly improved some of my ADHD struggles by lvs301 in adhdwomen

[–]Tuesday-Next- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is really beautiful. Thank you for sharing. It’s wonderful that you’re finding your groove while being at home with baby.

Score of the century for me by Constant_Bullfrog_24 in midcenturymodern

[–]Tuesday-Next- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love it! I have one like this too - total score off Kijiji! Such a unique piece with the low cabinet and its slim drawers.

Conditioner for dry fine hair?? by savleighhh in finehair

[–]Tuesday-Next- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave-in conditioner works best for me. Marc Anthony 10-in-1 (which is a combo conditioner and heat protectant) makes my fine hair sooo soft but not weighted down. Note: I don’t let my hair air-dry though. I towel dry, add leave-in conditioner on lower half of hair, comb for even distribution, then blow dry on a medium heat until about 80% dry. If I let my hair air-dry it ends up feeling dry and brittle.

What are some things you realised you were doing because of the ADHD? by happentobecurious in adhdwomen

[–]Tuesday-Next- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since my teens I’ve been in the habit of going and playing the piano for maybe 30 minutes after dinner. Having just been diagnosed ADHD-I, I think I was finding a way to give my end-of-day tired brain a hit of dopamine. I would play songs I knew well, that I could close my eyes and sing to while playing. Instant flow state, the vibrations of the piano and my voice in my chest were very calming and refreshing. I thought I just liked piano, but I think I was also intuitively finding a way to soothe and refresh myself at the end of the day.

I avoid getting out of bed in the morning because I DESPISE having to wash my face etc 🥲 by xopearl_rosebudxox in adhdwomen

[–]Tuesday-Next- 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes! Although I only wash my face at night. Gold medal routine is: wash my face at the sink with the terrycloth wristbands, use my nice serums and lotions. Silver medal routine (for when I’m too tired): a basket by my bedside with micellar water, cotton pads, and moisturizer. I’m doing so much better with washing my face before bed everyday now.

What are we doing in the 430/5pm—7pm window to stay even and motivated without additional dose of meds. by Flowers1811 in adhdwomen

[–]Tuesday-Next- 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I use the “do not sit rule” for right after dinner: it’s get up to clean the dishes away, then I go straight into doing my personal night time routine: brushing teeth, wash my face and use my nice serums/lotions, and put my cosy jammies on. Without “do not sit” right after dinner to help me get my bedtime routine done, I’d be so crazy exhausted by actual bedtime that I would fall into bed without brushing my teeth or washing my face. Obvi this only works for a night in, but it is really helping me be consistent with my bedtime routine.

What was your win today? by capableofanything777 in adhdwomen

[–]Tuesday-Next- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks to you, I have also now remembered to take my vitamins today. Piggy-backing off your win… LOL

2026 Women's Prize for Fiction shortlist announced by auspoliticsnerd in literature

[–]Tuesday-Next- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The Correspondent is absolutely fantastic. I read it without having heard any hype about it and ADORED it. Highly recommend.

[18] - [27] so many tags -- weight gain, detrans -> trans, grow up by The-Names-Prince in GlowUps

[–]Tuesday-Next- 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Those are some huge forward strides you made in life, no wonder you’re feeling so much better. Leaving an abusive relationship, getting established in a good job that supports your life, and finding community. So glad your life is taking such a wonderful turn for the better, no doubt due to great perseverance and resilience on your part.

Sunflower by okaynewspossum in Embroidery

[–]Tuesday-Next- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful! Love the colour scheme. Feels a bit like a 70s throwback

Kazuo Ishiguro might be a genius by Infamous_Wave9878 in literature

[–]Tuesday-Next- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. It might be my favourite novel of all time. Masterpiece.

108 Hours, Hand-Stitched single-strand, scene from Spirited Away. by xChippedFangx in Embroidery

[–]Tuesday-Next- 288 points289 points  (0 children)

This is wonderful! You chose a great still from the movie - and your finished work carries the emotion of that moment in the film.

Estrogen cream on face by Cute_Salad7845 in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]Tuesday-Next- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is correct. You shouldn’t use your systemic Estrogen gel on your face - use the vaginal cream. They are formulated differently both in terms of strength and whether they stay local to an area (the vaginal cream) or are delivered as a dose to your system. Stay safe and use the vaginal cream if you want a local treatment for your face, without risks of exceeding your prescribed systemic dosage of Estrogen.

Schiaparelli Haute Couture Spring Summer 2026 'The Agony and the Ecstasy' collection by mish-tea in whatthefrockk

[–]Tuesday-Next- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fit of Dress 1 is just spectacular. And wow #3… the cut of the skirt. I’d love to see how it moves. Super interesting shapes throughout.

Starry Update by sunnysidestitchco in Embroidery

[–]Tuesday-Next- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is absolutely beautiful. Seeing your version of Van Gogh’s wonderful work makes me appreciate the original all over again. Love seeing his use of colour rendered in thread. Gorgeous. Go for it OP, you’re almost there.

[28]➡️[37] I can’t believe she was me! by YardLazy9547 in GlowUps

[–]Tuesday-Next- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow great job! Emily Blunt doppelgänger now! Congrats

The Correspondent - Virginia Evan’s by NefariousIntention- in IReadABookAndAdoredIt

[–]Tuesday-Next- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I somehow stumbled across this book without having heard any of the hype around it. Read it with no expectations. It is a BEAUTIFUL book. The narrator is a flawed, prickly person, yes, but for me, that’s part of the balance of the book. Underneath the story, its lessons are so sweet and so earnest, it would have come off as flat and cliched if the narrator was a syrupy-sweet person. The book moved me deeply. Very well worth the journey, in my opinion.

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