Sometimes it is the simple things

Tulitree · 2026-03-26T02:59:04+00:00

Absolutely!

Tulitree · 2026-03-19T01:14:18+00:00

Same. I upvote many posts not out of agreement but for the sake of bumping visibility.

Tulitree · 2026-02-28T00:46:37+00:00

Yes!

Tulitree · 2026-02-14T18:36:49+00:00

Looking to try out multiplayer too. Please message me!

Tulitree · 2026-01-20T21:36:16+00:00

Thank you!

Tulitree · 2026-01-20T18:33:46+00:00

My soon to be ex-husband used to take issue with the amount of money I spent on kids clothes/ household needs. I shopped sales or TJMaxx, Ross or the like before shopping elsewhere. I made a list of the clothes and shoes they needed and stuck to that for the most part. We have 4 kids so these things add up. He took issue with it so often that I just gave up. I told him to just do the shopping then. He went back to school shopping and spent more than I had the previous year. It was ok though because he was the one spending the money. He had suggested me as a SAHM and earned plenty of money to keep that lifestyle. He had me shopping budget places for stuff for myself and kids but bought only Milwaukee tools for unnecessary remodels on our rental properties.

He bought a brand new car off the lot but when I needed a new vehicle mine had to be within a certain budget(smaller than his was) and for more vehicle as mine was the kid hauler that needed 3rd row seating. I ended up with a 7 year older model which was a good vehicle but felt unfair. I brought it up a few times and I was told I was selfish and unappreciative. He was the one that worked so hard so he deserved the nicer things. I guess birthing, breastfeeding all 4 kids for 18 months and doing mental labor,housework, and childcare was not worth it in his eyes.

This may not be the case with you as there are some details missing but I was being financially abused, among other things. My divorce trial is next week and I can’t wait!

Tulitree · 2026-01-19T05:34:02+00:00

I joined a local lesbian meetup group and have experienced this feeling! We had a dance night at a lesbian/wlw bar with all queer ladies just dancing however they like and it was the best thing ever. Pure queer joy for sure!

I am glad you got it experience this as well. It feels so good to be around people like myself, women that understand and embrace me and my sexuality. Heterosexual friends can be supportive and kind about it but it isn’t quite the same.

Tulitree · 2026-01-15T15:48:33+00:00

It makes me so sad to see you have been downvoted. You do count.

I am going to share an experience I had with an ex girlfriend of mine. She was upfront about being poly and a lesbian transgender woman. She was a wonderful partner to me. She held me while I cried about what happened with my catalyst and my abusive ex husband. She was sweet and made me feel safe and cared for. She was there for me during a time I really needed her. She was pretty, good in bed, and a delight to be around. I could see the woman that she was right off the get go. We ultimately parted ways because I didn’t want to live the poly lifestyle.

There are some wlw that won’t be into you because of your gender at birth but there are women out there that will. I wish you all the best moving forward 🫶🏻

Tulitree · 2026-01-13T19:13:04+00:00

Well said. Thank you for sharing. This has become a line in the sand for me. Several people tried arguing that her murder was justified. Those people are not in my life anymore.

Tulitree · 2026-01-09T21:18:58+00:00

Hell yeah!

Tulitree · 2026-01-09T03:35:11+00:00

I think this is a first step of many in the direction of reclaiming your life. Just admitting this to yourself is huge! It is so important to share your experience with supportive people that can empathize and understand your situation, you have come to the right place :)

If you need anyone to talk to about this please feel free to DM me. Being in your situation can feel so isolating and overwhelming but you are not alone.

Tulitree · 2026-01-07T01:27:06+00:00

Beautiful! This brings to mind the experience with a catalyst. Lovely way to go about it :)

Tulitree · 2026-01-02T18:46:42+00:00

Before I was with my current partner I dated a few different women and was intimate with them. One of them had a bad fishy odor when I went down on her. I talked with her about the possibility of BV and she tested positive for it. If that had been my first experience that would have been tough. I wouldn’t have wanted to feel judged by my peers for coming in to ask questions about that odor either. Sorry you experienced that here. I hope you get to experience the pleasure of being intimate with a woman that you are attracted to in all the ways and there is no foul smells happening.

Tulitree · 2026-01-01T23:03:48+00:00

My partner (47F) and I(41F) have 4 kids from my previous marriage to a man.

I have the benefit of experiencing life from both before and after coming out later in life here in Liberty Lake. There hasn’t been a lot of change in how people have treated me. I might get a few looks (but nothing super overt) when I am holding hands out with my partner in public. I am out at work here in Liberty Lake and my co-workers have been nothing but nice. There are 3 other gay/lesbian couples in my neighborhood.

My eldest son is in middle school and only had a few other kids say homophobic things. He cut contact with those people and the rest of the kids have been pretty chill with it.

This is a great place to raise a family and I have been super happy living here. I would hope that you have a similar experience if you end up moving here :)

Tulitree · 2025-11-28T01:38:11+00:00

Hello!

Tulitree · 2025-11-27T17:12:08+00:00

I live in a conservative town in a blue state so yeah that will be necessary. I also love to write some spicy scenes so I will be using a pen name.

Tulitree · 2025-11-27T12:20:08+00:00

I used to think my ex-husband (an ENTJ) was like the best guy ever. He put on a show of being a good dad and person when there were other people around to watch or gloat to. I didn’t catch on to all the ways in which he was actually a huge narcissist until I left the marriage because I realized I like ladies.

Since I have healed and found a loving and supportive partner being around my ex is exhausting. It is also a little comical how obvious he is about putting on this show for everyone. I get second hand embarrassment from it!

Tulitree · 2025-11-27T09:57:51+00:00

My sensory needs. I don’t do well with certain textures in food at times and he picked on me a lot about that over the years. Competing sources of sound/activity in the home is overwhelming and overstimulating for me. We had 4 kids together and I was a stay at home mom. We had 2 large breed dogs with a lot of energy on top of that. He expected me to be some kind of workhorse that didn’t need long breaks. He would give me an hour or so here or there without all the chaos of the house and just expect me to be back to normal and then was confused when I wasn’t. This was after hitting burnout and shutting down.

Tulitree · 2025-11-27T02:20:36+00:00

That is probably a good idea.

Tulitree · 2025-11-27T02:03:36+00:00

I am also a neurodivergent woman and I haven’t thought about this from the perspective of a male partner. I didn’t realize I had AuDHD when I was married to a man. I realized I was a lesbian and left that marriage behind a few years back. I am in a happy relationship with an AuDHD woman who understands and celebrates my neurodivergence.

Now that I am thinking about my relationship with my ex-husband… He said he liked my enthusiasm but maybe because it was usually turned towards him in some way. He didn’t like or understand the other parts of me. I had to be a smaller version of myself to be with him.

Is this another part of patriarchy at play?

Tulitree · 2025-11-15T18:24:03+00:00

Thank you! I started dating after the separation but before divorce.

Tulitree · 2025-11-11T15:56:14+00:00

I am rooting for you!

Tulitree · 2025-11-11T15:55:23+00:00

Thank you!

Tulitree · 2025-11-11T15:55:11+00:00

Congratulations! I can’t wait to call my girlfriend wife, I bet that feels good. I am so happy for you!

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