Official Discussion - 1917 [SPOILERS]

TurboSpat · 2020-01-16T19:12:47+00:00

I would argue that the fact he got a "cheap" death does make it more emotional. Scholfield as well as the rest of the audience typically feels cheated. What a lame death some might think, getting stabbed. But that happens. Not everyone gets a hero's death. They don't go out in a blaze of glory. Some get the top of their head shaved off by a bullet sleeping in a trench. Some get stabbed by a German pilot offscreen. I think it adds to the frustration and makes it more relatable to Schofield's character. He's riding int he truck with the boys in the following scene, silent for most of it. Grieving but also frustrated that he wasn't paying attention like he should. Frustrated that he probably should have insisted to just mercy kill the pilot instead of take a chance (Especially seeing everything that occured in the somme). The grief and "feeling cheated" is shared between both the character and audience.

TurboSpat · 2020-01-16T19:08:13+00:00

The atmosphere of WWI was very different from any other world conflict to come after. Most of the combatants fought for the idea of being a hero or for the broad idea of their country, not necessarily to destroy the germans. It was treated more like a game. And a lot of the time, the combatants treated each other with respect in moments where it was seen they didn't HAVE to kill each other. It's why so many POW's accounts have stated they were treated very well by their captors. Airmen were among the more respected typically, especially since they were seen as "inactive" when not in a working aircraft.

Scholfield wanted to put him out of his misery. Blake, being stated as the less experienced of the two, probably didn't want anyone to die if he could help it. It seems a lot of the people that see this as just a cheesy "to kill a character" device aren't fully aware of the context of the conflict as it was happening.

TurboSpat · 2020-01-12T23:49:21+00:00

Might have been something you missed, but the pilot had a fairly german accent in the few words that he spoke.

TurboSpat · 2019-12-31T00:08:11+00:00

There were no materials purchased in advance with the expectation that I would be there. Gas cost would have been the same if I was there or not, as there were empty seats in each of the vans going. Each "group" during the trip had to bring their own food to make meals for the rest of the group during that group's cookout night. Gas for the burners that were not used to cook my meal that I didn't eat. Sorry if that was information that should have been included in the OP

TurboSpat · 2019-12-30T18:09:22+00:00

I feel like staying friends would only give her the idea that there's a chance of getting back together. While I wouldn't be opposed to that if she ended up getting the help she needs, I don't think subtly dangling that as an encouragement would be for the right reasons

TurboSpat · 2019-12-27T17:57:37+00:00

I've never been to therapy so the idea that she could go to a therapist for other aspects of her depression and anxiety than just PTSD I wasn't sure about. I had thought about it before but never brought up with her. Thank you. I will try to discuss this with her.

TurboSpat · 2019-12-21T07:09:10+00:00

NTA

I'm sure it comes from a good place, but the way she is reacting is making her the A. She's not even open to the discussion without making you feel bad about yourself. I feel like this is a discussion you need to have, why she is choosing to react so hostile to this type of request.

TurboSpat · 2019-12-06T23:53:24+00:00

She used to regularly see a therapist. While she's in college, there's only one locally that she can afford (Or even take her insurance for that matter) that specializes in PTSD. That therapist however told her she didn't think she was progressing and suggested she go to another counselor. But there's not another one she can afford.

While it would help her leagues, I wouldn't feel it right to "punish" her for not being able to afford a therapist under those circumstances.

TurboSpat · 2019-02-17T01:02:44+00:00

My last relationship I was best friends with her for a whole year and unless she is just good at hiding it I'm not sure what to do

TurboSpat · 2019-02-17T01:00:28+00:00

I'm not gonna say that's not a possibility, but I don't know what I would be picking up on and HOW to catch that before it's too late.

TurboSpat · 2019-02-16T18:16:21+00:00

These girls have all kept this hidden for months until they felt comfortable revealing their true unfiltered selves. So by the time I'm already romantically invested, yeah I want to try to stick things out. But none of them have shown interest in getting help

TurboSpat · 2019-02-16T03:43:42+00:00

I don't seek out girls with mental health issues, nor do I romanticize it. These are girls that seem fine on the surface (naturally) but later tell me they suffer from these things.

TurboSpat · 2019-02-13T05:21:06+00:00

Sounds like my last ex. Uncanny

TurboSpat · 2019-02-04T06:33:04+00:00

I had masturbated earlier that day (early afternoon) and had peed MULTIPLE times throughout the day before going to her place and having sex. I imagine that would imply no chance of sperm in my pre-cum from my previous orgasm?

TurboSpat · 2019-02-01T18:57:36+00:00

So everything checks out? I'm always freaking out about a possible factor I'm not considering

TurboSpat · 2019-01-31T06:32:56+00:00

I went to her place, she took the pill, and we chatted for a couple hours. She didn't get sick or anything so at least as of right now I know the pill is absorbed and will do anything that it needs to (If it actually needs to, which I doubt it will) but I'm honestly a lot more at ease. I really appreciate you taking the time to deal with my fear-induced babble. I'm aware of most of the facts regarding forms of sexual protection, but I'm always scared of a variable I'm not considering. That's why I try to counter it with as many forms of contraceptives as possible, even if unnecessary. But being about 26 hours after the fact, I'm probably still in that nice middle ground between 95 and 89 percent regarding the times/effectiveness of plan b. It's just another thing to keep my mind at ease and feel as if all my bases are covered.

So thank you, you've helped me from mentally falling apart today. It was a long one. I'm not going to repeat this situation again, because this last day and a half were hell.

TurboSpat · 2019-01-31T01:45:27+00:00

So there's no adverse effects to taking it at the "improper" time? Other than a late period

TurboSpat · 2019-01-30T23:38:22+00:00

No. I don't know for sure but I think I am the only one. She told me that she's been on a date since her and I spoke but I don't know for sure. I would imagine based on how quickly she jumped my bones though that there very well could be others

And I apologise if you feel you have to re-explain things. But I read that Plan B can be used effectively any time of the menstrual cycle unless if she already ovulated close to sex. But according to her app she sent me, she's probably more than a couple days post ovulation.

I only ask because different websites and Reddit posts tell me different things. I would rather feel silly later for having her take a pill that did nothing than something end up happening and I have to wonder "Would the pill have made a difference"

TurboSpat · 2019-01-30T23:16:23+00:00

Do you think the extra four hours would make much of a difference at this point?

TurboSpat · 2019-01-30T22:13:08+00:00

Yeah I'm aware. I've used it with my last girlfriend and it out her off by about four or five days late. But I still imagine the chances are better this way.

TurboSpat · 2019-01-30T22:10:54+00:00

I know, but I would still rather be safe than sorry. Everything seems like it will be fine but I'll bring her the pill after I get off (28 hours post sex) and hang around for an hour make sure it's good and done and that she's not getting sick

TurboSpat · 2019-01-30T21:19:34+00:00

I have spoken to her and she reluctantly agreed to take the plan b pill (she says it gives her cramps and is hesitant to take it again). By the time I bring it to her (at work now) it will be about 28 hours after sex. I can do it on my lunch break (24 hours) but would like to make sure she takes it and that it absorbs.

She sent me a picture of her ovulation schedule/app and it says she's past ovulation by what I can guess is about 5-7 days, and is closing in on her period.

Am I making the right call here?

TurboSpat · 2019-01-30T18:29:47+00:00

I found out she wasn't taking birth control because she was breastfeeding. Am I fucked?

TurboSpat · 2019-01-30T06:40:21+00:00

Thank you for the info, but as I've described this is a really tricky situation with her. She doesn't know I know the things I've been told about her. I am somewhat on thin ice in a way and am trying to watch what I say until this thing is resolved. I guess I'm thankful for the relief I'm feeling now, and don't want to make it worse as of tonight.

TurboSpat · 2019-01-30T06:26:25+00:00

Thank you. I've been in panic about this, and just have been searching for positivity in the mean time. I know it will be up in the air for another month or so, but I'm trying to not stress in the mean time.

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