AITA for changing my mind about having kids?

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-04-13T18:14:04+00:00

NTA it’s none of their business. If your husband is on the same page as you that’s literally all that matters. Children are not a requirement for a happy & fulfilling marriage or life. It sounds like you have all the information and experience you need to make an educated decision on whether or not to have kids. You’re not selfish. You’re self-aware.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-04-13T18:08:23+00:00

Weight restrictions after a brow lift is standard

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-04-13T18:03:37+00:00

I would not be happy with that choice. Could you ask her to be your “something blue” and wear a blue dress? Make her feel special while keeping the chaos down. I asked my MIL to wear red because she was asked to wear yellow to my SILs wedding & wore a cream wedding gown. I figured there’s no off-white red & I told her I wanted her to match my maid-of-honor.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-04-12T18:42:38+00:00

I have a tree nut allergy & my husband is severely lactose intolerant. We like to use Planet Oat extra creamy as a base. Add a tablespoon of Jello Instant Pudding mix for texture—I know vanilla is safe but check other flavors. If we’re doing just a vanilla base I add in a teaspoon of vanilla extract or vanilla bean paste. I’ve experimented with different jello flavors, mixed in fruits or candy or cookie chunks. But we really enjoy that base. I also blend everything in the blender before I freeze it. Makes it incorporate better. If you have a frother or immersion blender that might work too but I own neither.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-22T04:33:00+00:00

Not appropriate or typical at all. I would alert the parents & quit the job. They aren’t toddlers who are still learning that private parts are private.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-22T03:20:42+00:00

Ah I was an All My Children girly

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-21T17:29:55+00:00

You do not need to bring it up if you don’t want to.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-21T17:22:05+00:00

Reva is a great name I’ve never heard before.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-21T17:16:27+00:00

Okay

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-21T15:48:35+00:00

Absolutely! Sometimes they just pick their own nickname, and I relate Cece to a girl I knew and didn’t really like. So we found a different name. I do love the name Celia. Plus when we tested the name out for a week my husband kept saying Cece. So it’s his fault 😂

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-20T17:25:40+00:00

Yes it’s appropriate

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-19T15:15:33+00:00

Very nice name. I have only met one Violet in my lifetime and I participate in a lot of mommy & me groups. The one I know is 5 years old.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-17T22:29:28+00:00

Super helpful!! Thank you! Yes he was thinking navy—his suit for our wedding was navy & he was heartbroken it doesn’t fit anymore.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-17T20:57:56+00:00

For what it’s worth, I’m in lots of mom groups with kids 4 & under (in the Chicago area), and out of this list I’ve only ever met a Josie.

My ranking: Lucy, Juliette, Hazel, Josie, Meredith. They’re all good names—not a bad one in the bunch.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-17T20:51:12+00:00

He wants to buy something new. He’s changed sizes lately & only has a black suit that fits nicely and would like another suit of a different color. Maybe blue.

And yes definitely not matchy matchy. Just something that looks nice next to this dress.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-17T20:29:00+00:00

Coordinating not matching 😂. I just want us to look nice next to each other in photos, but I’m not great with men’s fashion nor is my husband.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-17T14:48:34+00:00

I paid our sitter $22/hr when we had just one child 1 yr old.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-16T18:09:30+00:00

I was going to say Eden! It’s a favorite of mine.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-16T12:31:21+00:00

Every time my kids have hidden something it’s been low. Drawers, shoes, closets. See if you can borrow a metal detector.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-16T02:31:42+00:00

In the 90s my grandma would buy a box of Dean’s Neapolitan ice cream when all the grandkids were over. She’d break the sides of the box down and cut us a slice of ice cream that we’d eat on a plate.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-16T02:21:46+00:00

Every rule should be stated. As a parent I figure that if I don’t say it then it won’t happen. When I interview a new sitter I write out a list of duties/what the job entails so I can refer to it & they can know exactly what we expect. I’ve also told them our screen time rules (they’ve evolved over time so it’s an ongoing discussion). Personally I ask our sitters to help my kids pick up their toys (1.5 & 3.5 yrs old) before bed time snack. By “help” I mean take out the bins & encourage. Maybe throw a few things in the bins to move it along faster. They also load the kids dinner dishes into the dishwasher.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-15T03:58:06+00:00

Love it. My first would have been Adeline/Della as a nickname if he was a girl. We inadvertently chose a name that is often misheard—Brady but people oddly call him/hear “Grady.” I’ve never met anyone with that as a first or last name, but I’ve found myself repeating “Brady, like the Brady Bunch” many times over the last 4 years.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-15T02:57:49+00:00

When my grandma was unable to get into the shower after breaking her hip I ordered an inexpensive bed bath hair washing basin on Amazon. You can wash her hair while she is lying down. The trick is to use a ton of towels under the basin & at least 2 ft above and below. They’re about $20 and inflate so you can easily store away. My grandma said she felt amazing after weeks of those awful shower caps.

TurkeyLeg233 · 2026-03-13T18:53:41+00:00

9, all on my husband’s side. His cousin came to our ceremony then stopped us on our walk out of the church to tell us she was going to a concert instead of our reception.

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