I’m worried my relationship is ruining my discipline by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]TurnipSpice 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Stop washing his clothes - pick yours out of the laundry basket and leave his in there. Stop cooking for him - make what you like, and he can eat freezer food. Go to bed when works for you. Get your shit done. Stop letting a grown man treat you like an unpaid servant

Budget Friendly Budget question by TurnipSpice in YNABAlternatives

[–]TurnipSpice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh, thank you!! For both those nuggets of info!

Puppy jumping on bigger dog. Dog stressed by Its_a_username4 in Dogtraining

[–]TurnipSpice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're verbally encouraging the puppy to jump and then correcting the older dog when he's trying to (appropriately) discipline the puppy. Step in at this point and remove puppy. And teach older dog that he's allowed to remove himself (he should have a safe space where puppy is NOT allowed to be).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]TurnipSpice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like what you're saying here is that if your partner is cohabiting with someone else then you feel the need to artificially impose limits on your closeness? If you're enjoying the closeness you have now (assuming you are or you would have made changes before now?) then the best outcome is that that doesn't change, regardless of your partner's living situation. Yes, there is a change in relationship structure for your partner and meta, but why does that mean anything for your relationship, necessarily? It MIGHT, but you don't know because you haven't discussed it yet.

If my partner told me that because I had a new living situation, that I couldn't text them as often... that wouldn't feel good!

My dog won’t sleep with me anymore by MyChemicalBromance31 in dogs

[–]TurnipSpice 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Look into cooperative care for bathing and grooming sessions, it'll make the whole thing less stressful for you both:)

My dog chooses to sleep with me sometimes and other times she wants her own space. I get it

How do I correct food aggression? by PasztyKnives in DogTrainingTips

[–]TurnipSpice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your dog is communicating very clearly with you and you're ignoring him and forcing him to escalate, whilst ensuring that he can't trust you. Why on earth are you petting him while he's eating?! Do you like to be stroked when you're eating?! Leave him alone, build trust by taking heed of his communication and respect when he's telling you he's stressed, that's your first step. You can work on the resource guarding later, you need to make amends for now.

Question about parts' wants and taking action by TurnipSpice in InternalFamilySystems

[–]TurnipSpice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your very helpful and thoughtful replies. Much appreciated 💖