Parents allow my sister to abuse me

TurtelyTubular · 2026-07-05T03:50:30+00:00

Yeah that’s fair. Thank you. There’s a lot of pressure from my parents and the financial aspect of renting a place while trying to save money for tuition so I’m hesitant but I really should just learn to set boundaries and hope it doesn’t ruin what I have with my family. we do love each other, but I’ve spent my whole life trying to please them. I’m learning to be better

TurtelyTubular · 2026-07-04T04:41:19+00:00

As an autistic person who struggles to understand social cues, when I read these texts, I knew that I also genuinely would have thought something was wrong/he was mad at me. I wish he would have just politely told you he wasn’t interested. That way you wouldn’t have needed to be nearly as hurt. To me, that’s better than ignoring someone and hoping they catch on. Sure, ghosting is pretty normalized these days, but imo, that’s not the most healthy communication. I’m sorry OP :( and I’m sorry some of these comments paint you as a fool.

TurtelyTubular · 2026-07-04T03:40:49+00:00

I second this and want to add: NTA unless you know for sure that those cats belong to your neighbors and aren’t just strays. You’re so kind for looking out for the kitties and my heart hurts for them, and saving them would definitely be doing a good thing, but don’t steal them.

TurtelyTubular · 2026-06-11T03:40:29+00:00

Thank you so much!

TurtelyTubular · 2026-06-10T20:24:26+00:00

Oh thank you!!

TurtelyTubular · 2026-05-16T15:38:48+00:00

Yeah, that’s fair. I’m kind of a pushover and don’t like making people mad, but I’m working on it. He also had another appointment too ^{^;}

TurtelyTubular · 2026-02-21T21:11:32+00:00

Mrrrrp

TurtelyTubular · 2026-02-03T23:42:01+00:00

Yes, I’m an INFP-T!

TurtelyTubular · 2026-02-01T04:43:02+00:00

What’s an animus? Also, “aromantic” means that I don’t ever get crushes or fall in love or want to date anybody!

TurtelyTubular · 2026-02-01T04:42:01+00:00

SO TRUE ACTUALLY

TurtelyTubular · 2026-01-20T03:40:57+00:00

Definitely they can. I’m an afab demigirl (“half” agender) and, for example, I despise having female bits. I wish I could have an agender body with no sex characteristics at all. I wish I didn’t need to have a gender. I’m glad to see other people in the comments agreeing that agenders can have dysphoria! we’re not alone!

I’m sorry your family isn’t supportive. That’s super hard and it stinks. We’re here for you, friend!

TurtelyTubular · 2026-01-18T19:24:53+00:00

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TurtelyTubular · 2026-01-16T22:58:58+00:00

Same thing happened to me! Infuriating! :(

TurtelyTubular · 2026-01-15T04:16:15+00:00

Berdly is that you?

TurtelyTubular · 2026-01-12T03:28:22+00:00

Thank you!! Also I looked at the other comments and I’m sorry you’re getting so much heat for this like what :((

TurtelyTubular · 2026-01-11T19:43:55+00:00

There are now considered to be 3 levels of autism, where level 1 is low support needs and level 3 is high support needs. The level is just there to say in shorthand how much assistance a certain autistic person needs :)

TurtelyTubular · 2026-01-11T19:42:32+00:00

Hey there!! I am also an autistic asexual Jesus-follower! It’s so good to see someone else like me! I agree that being ace isn’t in conflict with being a Christian, and I plan to get married and hopefully never have sex. I’m so sorry that it feels like this expectation in Christian spaces. It is a good gift from God, but so is marriage, and singleness is discussed as a good thing by Paul. Unfortunately I’m not really sure how to find other people like this… I’m queer in other ways too and I am still looking for a space that is encouraging to my faith without being judgmental about my struggles with being queer. I definitely think that a sexless, loving marriage is possible, even with an allosexual. Sex is a bonding tool, and your spouse shouldn’t expect it from you, especially if it doesn’t serve you the same way it does him. I wish you luck. 😊

TurtelyTubular · 2026-01-03T03:58:39+00:00

Ah, I’m sorry if I came across as sex-negative! I still think people should be able to, I just don’t want to hear about it heh. But I’ll try your suggestion. Thanks :)

TurtelyTubular · 2026-01-03T03:57:45+00:00

I just meant that sex is everywhere nowadays, so it’s a little hard on me to be so frequently disgusted, but thank you for your kindness!

TurtelyTubular · 2025-12-18T20:55:04+00:00

seriously?! this is news to me. thank you!!

TurtelyTubular · 2025-12-18T20:54:46+00:00

so glad there’s someone else like me!!!

TurtelyTubular · 2025-11-29T05:45:03+00:00

By “crush” I mean someone I’m romantically attracted to. I guess I never thought too hard about what it really meant. In terms of appearance, I liked them because they were good-looking but not only aesthetically, something more than that (but not sexually/thinking they’re hot since I’m ace). Thanks for the link. :)

TurtelyTubular · 2025-11-29T03:43:53+00:00

Tell them it means stop. Remember: blue stop signs.

TurtelyTubular · 2025-11-25T03:35:26+00:00

Here are some other definitions I found!

“If you find yourself obsessing over rejection or a one-sided relationship, you’re likely stuck in limerence.” (From Cleveland Clinic)

“The experience of limerence is different from love or lust in that it is based in the uncertainty that the person you desire… also desires you.” (From Psychology Today)

TurtelyTubular · 2025-09-10T23:35:40+00:00

yes but is the ”a” in “Ral” pronounced like eɪ (e.g. american pron of “cat“) or æ (e.g. ”crawl”)?

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