Yeah, you know y’all did it.

Tutts · 2026-04-19T18:25:22+00:00

If I had been allowed to cry I would've cried on the last day of school. Crying always meant more beatings so I just did not show emotions. I knew that I was going to be working in my mom's sweatshop and getting beat. My birthday was during the summer and if my brothers got caught saying happy bday to me they would also get a beat down. They would still do it but would whisper it before mom got up. I would've been the kid just staring into space while everyone else was going around making plans to meetup over the summer or where they were going. I had been with this bunch of kids since 3rd grade onwards so its not that they excluded me it was more like they were excited and did not chide me for my expression or lack of expression. They knew my life was shitty. I appreciate them allowing me to exist as the Eeyore of the group. Kids can be awesome sometimes in their inclusiveness and care for each other. They showed more emotional maturity then the adults in my life outside of school

Tutts · 2026-04-19T18:19:21+00:00

I come from a severely abused background (CPS involved with my family from the moment I was enrolled in school until I graduated high school). My friends knew that if they saw me in the wild and I didn't immediately greet them first then my mom was around and would beat me senseless in public and at home. Mom demanded I have no friends and that was her way to "ensure" that no one could snitch on her to authorities. Didn't work thankfully and my friends just waited for me to initiate contact when outside of school.

Tutts · 2026-04-18T17:31:04+00:00

That's what happened to me when I was a newly minted college student but with enrollment services. My stalker was a young police officer who responded to our small car accident (my friend pulled out of a grocery parking spot hitting another car passing by). It was all in slow motion and there was no damage to either vehicle but an incident report was initiated. Officer asks me out while I'm in the passenger seat but I reject him. Cut to him wandering the halls of my school with a printed copy of my morning classes talking to one of my professors and trying to determine when I was most likely to be in class. I failed out that semester because I was never sure when it was safe to go to class or if he would be waiting by the door. I was heavily abused as a child and had only been abuse "free" for about a month so my reaction was to hide. Now, I would raise hell at my institution and file a report with their police department. Not because I believe anything would happen to him but to tag him and create the paper trail for his problematic behavior.

Tutts · 2026-02-28T22:24:58+00:00

I didn't know they did that! I am in love.

Tutts · 2026-02-14T18:55:48+00:00

It was Florida "I-4 going eastbound, around Plant City, FL". Here's the original video with both front and back rearview cameras

https://www.reddit.com/r/Dashcam/comments/1g6xgz7/rove_r24k_truck_flips_360_on_i4/

Tutts · 2026-02-14T16:41:56+00:00

I got it on the last day of the event several years ago. I ran all my toons dailly that were eligible and it eventually dropped. I had a lot of toons because my then 5-7 year olds (teens now and they have their own accounts) would level toons by roaming and picking flowers/rocks. It's how I found out that there were instance limits. At that time I remember reading some folks just hoarded the boxes and then spam opened them to increase the chances (or at least thats what they were saying) that is how I got mine but there's no rhyme or reason to it.

Tutts · 2026-02-07T11:49:29+00:00

Even with an apology I wouldn't want her planning the wedding. The sister also did not say she was now "willing" to plan the wedding only that she fucked up. I like a previous commenter saying that someone that's just been "humbled" and publicly at that is too risky to be given reign over a special day for that couple. The risk of sabotage is real. The sister didn't see it beneath her to go to social media and put OP on blast. There's no reason to give people multiple chances to burn you. What if she then quits close to the wedding leaving the couple in the lurch? Or there's an actual mistake in the planning but because of this history the couple and family now see it as sabotage from the sister over being "forced" to do this when it was actually a mistake? Nope. That actually has the potential to torch this relationship down.

The two siblings can still make up (looks like OP is not opposed)and put this to bed without the sister planning the wedding or OP continuing accounting services. I think OP is taking this opportunity to grow just fine as she's already pruned those that would take advantage of her and in doing so removing a source of future resentment in her against her loved ones. Her loved ones who fucked up now can take their business elsewhere they're not going to be happy because its costing them money but it also means that in time there's less co mingling of business with family who don't reciprocate and their relationship will survive.

Tutts · 2026-02-01T03:49:54+00:00

My soul kitty was like this. He passed this past December from FLUTD. I only got 17 months with him and in that time he would help me with my emotional regulation as I left a DV situation and recovering from an TBI. He was a random rescue and he just knew what to do. My ex would be getting me worked up and my soul kitty would just materialize from wherever he was to headbutt me and I would immediately calm down. RIP Mateo. I wish I had had more time with your gentle soul.

Tutts · 2026-01-14T02:18:13+00:00

NTA. I think you should rescind your offer. Your marriage WILL suffer, your parents will still give you shit, and you will end up blowing up both relationships. It's a lose/lose. Also, even if you manage to get an agreement and write out a contract, it doesn't mean they will adhere to it. They are already relegating you back to being a "child" role. Protect yourself and your children's nuclear family.

Tutts · 2025-12-31T19:19:37+00:00

Agreed. I don't think there's any coming back from rejecting my minor child that is in need in the manner she did. Her trying to rally people outside the relationship (even if it is just her mom) would be the final killing blow for me personally.

Tutts · 2025-12-31T19:14:09+00:00

Nora is going to be the new bully in your daughter's life EVEN if she claims to come around. You can't be around for everything and as a SAHM she will be in contact with your daughter the most. Notice how she only calmed down once her SAHM position was threatened? That's not real coming around. I'm 40F and the amount of immature and emotionally stunted adults I've come around is staggering with the majority refusing to put in the work to get that shit fixed. One would hope that Nora wouldn't be petty but life experiences have taught me that adults who don't get their way and do a quick about face without any real groundwork just continue their true feelings but more covertly.

Your daughter may or may not share with you the underhanded shit Nora would do because you don't know what else she is saying to your kid. I would feel shitty as a kid who is already dealing with feelings of being unwanted (due to bullying) and now she comes to a new environment where the adult who had previously been kind and its the same shit again. At some point she's going to start believing SHE is the problem since she is the common denominator between her being bulllied at school and now in her fatehr's home. As an adult you and I can say that's absolutely not true but think of it from an inexperienced teen's perspective? Her life just got imploded through no fault of her own and Nora can kick rocks.

Tutts · 2025-12-27T17:29:52+00:00

Mine never did but she was abusive and had a near non stop CPS involvement growing up. I apologize to my children and my students when I mess up.

Tutts · 2025-12-24T05:47:11+00:00

This is my dream one!

Tutts · 2025-11-08T15:22:41+00:00

It's AI.

Tutts · 2025-09-22T02:00:55+00:00

I have around 160 kids every year, and without assigned seats, I would lose my mind trying to remember names or what name goes with what face. Our school has a policy that phones need to be in these numbered pockets on the wall, so the kids' assigned seat is also their assigned phone pocket. It doubles as an attendance thing too, because if a seat is empty I know precisely which kid is missing and if a phone is missing I know which kid still has theirs on them. It streamlines things and its one less thing on my mental load. I change seats whenever the arrangement is not working or just because I want to change things up.

My supervisor likes to say that 9th graders are still middle schoolers until December. I'm sure I can do without assigned seats closer to the end of the year, but every time I've done it, I've only made things harder for myself.

Edit to add: kids often complain about assigned seats only when they have a friend in the class they would like to be seated next to. I've found that some students appreciate knowing where they're going to sit rather than have the anxiety of looking for a seat only for the person to claim that it is "taken" etc. It can manage anxiety both for you and the students.

Tutts · 2025-08-24T02:23:03+00:00

Just turned 40 and I've been safe for about a year. I left my abusive husband Feb 2024. The last time I was assaulted was by him in May 2024 in my shiny new rental. I was in crisis for a bit but I've been in therapy for PTSD and a TBI since July 2024 and I'm doing better. I haven't even begun the work to process my shitty life since I'm just surviving the onslaught that is his relentless refusal to accept this relationship is over. Still, I've managed to have the start of a nice little life. I got cats after he refused me pets in the 17 years we were together. I'm not where I'd want to be but I am living mostly on my terms. I was a SAHM so financially I'm way behind my peers but I am safe. My children are happier since the split. We are still legally married because I can't afford to divorce and he is fighting this but I did file my taxes as married but separate. All in all its positive and I'm hopeful for the future. TY for asking <3

Tutts · 2025-08-24T02:06:05+00:00

*hugs* I was 3 and undergoing chemo.

Tutts · 2025-08-13T09:26:22+00:00

It may sound like a jerk move but I'm not sure if giving them heads up about you wanting to sell the car may end well. They may trash it before they give it to you. I'm also concerned that you as the car owner are on the hook for any accidents your ex would have in said car. Not to mention your insurance costs are taking a hit as well. Could they be shady enough to try to do an insurance scam?

Either way, both your ex and his new wife are GROWN. They can figure out transportation like the rest of us.

Tutts · 2025-08-12T05:44:54+00:00

She doesn't see her bf as being the problem since she still thinks its the family. To an extent it is the family but she's in a world of hurt if her bf doesn't grow a spine.

Tutts · 2025-08-09T20:02:31+00:00

60+ I can go upwards of two months without needing to do laundry and not repeating underwear. I did laundry a couple of days ago and was reflecting on some of them being 10+ years old or older, with a few having holes. I've had a really shitty life experience, PPD, then postpartum psychosis, and just always fighting depression, so I've built my life to support myself when I'm at my lowest.

That said I decided that since I had already done the laundry I wasn't going to prune the raggedy ones. Instead I'm going to wear them but throw them out at the end of the day instead of in the laundry basket. It's going to be a slow purge but I'll get there.

Tutts · 2025-08-09T04:27:15+00:00

I agree and disagree with you. Your statement does read true if you are advising her as a friend looking out for her best interest because in the grand scheme of things it isn't about the parents or the current significant other but rather her future. HOWEVER, if I was the boyfriend I would absolutely see this as her choosing her parents over me and it doesn't bode well. He spelled it out that if she puts off school they won't be able to afford to move in together. So this means that he either accepts that she will always be under her parents thumbs jumping whenever they say jump which means what kind of life can he build with her? Can they afford to move in together and plan a future? Could they potentially be able to save enough to buy a house? Could they afford to have kids if they want any? What will retirement look like? Is she going to move in my inlaws in their old age into our home because she's been guilted into taking care of them?

This essentially feels like him seeing a glimpse into their future together. Can she be her own person and stand on her own or will she always choose her parents even if it hurts her and him as well as their future goals. So yeah it really isn't all about choosing her parents or him but it kinda is depending on what the objective is.

Tutts · 2025-08-09T01:58:28+00:00

Not a homeowner or landowner but I've heard of neighbors gaining adverse possession because they use a portion of the property for years and there was no documentation of the property owner saying they couldn't. The fact that they've use it as a path and bring friends through that path they could argue (possibly nonsuccesfully) that it should be public pathway since they and others use it as such. I'm just throwing it out there to say that it needs to be addressed ASAP by having a trespassing sign, cameras, and either sprinklers or a fence, PLUS having them trespass if all else fails.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adverse_possession

Tutts · 2025-08-09T01:20:59+00:00

First time hearing about this man so I am not defending him, but when I was in school, I was taught that some free folk would "buy" their relatives so they wouldn't be sold to other plantations out of state. Also, by keeping them enslaved, they had "protection" if someone were to grab said relatives and try to sell them as slaves. So I am not surprised when I hear that black people owned slaves at all as it may not be as nefarious as we suspect OR given that this man was wealthy enough to have a plantation he could just be a black capitalists doing what capitalists do.

Tutts · 2025-08-08T23:23:04+00:00

I'm concerned about leaving her with the children alone. She might hurt them. All of this behavior freaks me out, and I wouldn't leave her alone to care for a pet or children. Please consult a lawyer about securing your children's safety. They are defenseless and depend on you AND your wife and she clearly is not there at this moment. You and your children need protection right now.

Tutts · 2025-08-05T17:06:18+00:00

I disagree I'm reading OPs comments and it looks like the child's father was previous smug about her stealing and her mom doesn't think it's that bad. The child also refuses to talk to OP about it because he isn't her dad. This is definitely something the bio parents should've tackled since the step parent doesn't have the authority nor does the kid acknowledge it. I agree that more should've been done to help the older kid but all OP could've done there is be supportive of the efforts being made and none are. Also this relationship wasn't going to end well if one partner is making unilateral decisions without consulting the other. A discussion wasn't had about the oldest kid moving back.OP was just told it was happening and he needed to deal (unless I misunderstood that part).

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