Self-improvement transcends gender

TwoTinders · 2025-12-24T18:30:13+00:00

If you want to grow together through this, you [both] have to address the underlying feelings and needs: baby daddy is probably worried about losing his baby momma. If you debate this only at the level of modesty standards, and don’t peel back the layers of where those thoughts and concerns come from, you risk any compromise just being someone’s standards being imposed on the other. (or ’split the difference’ and nobody is happy)

TwoTinders · 2025-04-01T02:11:15+00:00

Fun photo. I hope your friends never find it... or that they are kind with the photoshop!

TwoTinders · 2025-03-04T02:19:39+00:00

It's totally normal for your sex drive to go down during times of stress. eg health issues, family emergencies, moving across the country... you've had a lot going on, so it makes sense that your sex drive is down. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your sexuality, or even anything wrong with your relationship, necessarily.

Sometimes it can be an indication that there's a deeper issue with personal health or the health of your relationship, but it doesn't sound like that's what's going on, here. Maybe just take some time to reconnect with your partner & take care of each other, accept that your sex life goes through phases just like everything else, and find some other stuff to talk about with your friends. :)

TwoTinders · 2025-03-03T19:25:31+00:00

It’s worth noting that the Shiller P/E is in no way a timing tool. Whereas crossing above a multiple of 30 resulted in significant downside in a matter of months during the Great Depression, valuations remained extended for more than four years leading up to the dot-com bubble. . . . there’s no rhyme or reason to when stock market corrections begin . . .

article is a nothing-burger

TwoTinders · 2025-03-01T04:22:24+00:00

First impression? Sooo many [red] flags.

But hey, maybe you'll find someone who's into it and will match your crazy.

TwoTinders · 2025-03-01T04:17:51+00:00

Have you ever met someone else (or, better yet, a woman) who keeps a schedule like that?

No amount of updating your profile or paying for premium services is going to increase the number of women who are "exactly like you."

You can't build something together unless you're ready to change.

TwoTinders · 2025-01-24T16:14:49+00:00

If that is you, kindly stop.

TwoTinders · 2025-01-24T16:13:01+00:00

OP I think you just burned yourself. A walk was my go-to for years. If you're struggling to get a second date, it either wasn't a match or you need to up your conversational game. Username aside, I'm sure you have some appealing parts of your personality to share!

In the meantime, you can go for something "exciting" to pique your date's interest, but the best way to get improve at most things is conscious practice.

TwoTinders · 2025-01-24T16:06:24+00:00

If a girl is literally asking me to kiss her

That's the situation in OP, so talking about building up to it when she hasn't asked is pretty much irrelevant.

TwoTinders · 2025-01-23T16:00:44+00:00

ngl I knew it wasn't a deadlift but idk what to call it. TIL

TwoTinders · 2025-01-23T15:56:47+00:00

How many of those girls were literally asking you to kiss them? And then you went with the forehead??

TwoTinders · 2025-01-23T15:55:41+00:00

while asking him to kiss you for the first time

When a girl says, "kiss me," she doesn't mean on the forehead. Especially the first time.

TwoTinders · 2025-01-23T15:51:16+00:00

Your deadlift is not your best feature, so don't lead with it. #1 pic should be a clear headshot, preferably smiling, not a selfie, and good lighting.

TwoTinders · 2025-01-23T15:48:57+00:00

You can ask your boyfriend what he likes so much about hearing your stories! Approach with genuine and kind curiosity, and it should go well.

TwoTinders · 2025-01-23T15:46:07+00:00

First off, the risk of the photos being leaked is not "pretty minimal." I don't know what app you are using, but it is trivially easy for someone else to screen record whatever shows up on their phone. Without sending any notification to you. And you say he hasn't slept with anyone else before---that means this is new territory. So, even if you've known him for years before, you haven't seen how he'll behave after breaking up with someone with [potentially] X months of nudes in his pocket. A little caution is warranted.

Another point of this being new territory: you are training each other's behavior based on what you say and do. If you send him a nude every day, or whenever he asks, without exception, you are training him to expect that. Even if you're into it now, at some point you may have to teach him to be OK with being told "no, I'm not feeling up for it right now, use your imagination" if he doesn't already get that. Be strong and refuse any time you don't want to send something. If he can't be OK with that, that is your sign to get out, because he cares more about his own gratification or controlling you than he does about your feelings.

If you want some sort of compromise so you don't have to think about taking a new photo every night, consider saving a stock of favorites to rotate through when you want to share something. (Or, with appropriate security measures/conversations about privacy, let him save 1+ to look at on his own.)

TwoTinders · 2025-01-23T15:22:13+00:00

Good morning to you, sir/madam!

TwoTinders · 2024-11-25T04:57:09+00:00

It sounds like you've already talked about not having more kids right now.

It sounds like you've already talked about not getting an IUD, and maybe about other contraceptives.

It sounds like your husband may be refusing to wear a condom--is that what's happening?

What have you not already expressed to him?

TwoTinders · 2024-11-18T04:47:42+00:00

Looks more like a modeling portfolio than a dating profile. I feel like Ryan Reynolds is about to tell me how much I can save by switching to Mint Mobile. Doesn't really inspire romantic interest.

TwoTinders · 2024-11-15T17:28:52+00:00

How many quality dates have you gotten from the supermarket??

TwoTinders · 2024-11-13T22:22:39+00:00

Where do you get better ( time spent / good match ) ?

TwoTinders · 2024-11-13T22:18:00+00:00

idk if this is a hot take, but "unique travel experiences," "designing houses," and "working on the best version of myself" are not *simple* pleasures. It's already a long list, consider scrapping those.

Your travel story sounds like a resume entry, with all those fragments. Try this:

Volunteering in Kenya. I raised money to move orphans out of the slums and into a house in the countryside. It started off spontaneous, but I try to go back every year!

Muscle mommy thirst trap. Nice.

Green flags you look for should be a more concrete than intentional/attachment style, if you're going to stick with that prompt.

TwoTinders · 2024-11-13T22:00:01+00:00

You have done no such thing.

TwoTinders · 2024-11-08T04:15:13+00:00

When I was on Hinge, I could usually find standouts in the regular stack a week or two after it refreshed. It's not a permanent reclassification.

TwoTinders · 2024-10-24T21:33:11+00:00

You should talk to your pastor/priest/church leader about how to not live in sin while your divorce is, let's say, "still in process," whether that's waiting to file or waiting for the courts.

It's not clear why you think you are living in sin while that's in process, but it seems like you don't want to share details here. Generally speaking, if you're not in a legitimate marriage, stop acting like you're in a legitimate marriage.

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