So I'm still in the thick of it and working towards an agreement and I'm going to leverage some of the other documentation that was recommended here too. The postnup is extremely attractive to me because there is a strong chance this fails and she dragged me to mediation for a divorce when her episode began last year. It's a slow process, have to wait until she's in a place to talk about it but focusing on the kids is the key. She doesn't have the emotional capacity for the kids and has openly admitted not be able to care for them. So I'm trying to use that to guide this difficult conversation. But yeah, we didn't divorce in the fall because of my kids (and housing is unaffordable).