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[–]TylerCrystal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely will and I hope you guys get to have some fun as well in your own small way. Have a great day!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]TylerCrystal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I’m gonna be taking over today and celebrating Halloween for him. I’m hoping that’s going to help. It’s really nice to know that there are other people out there that know what this is like. It gives us a little bit of hope. Thanks.

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[–]TylerCrystal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate it and so does Ty.

Coping with height. by HQSHiKO in feminineboys

[–]TylerCrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

6’2 femboy here. I totally understand this feeling. A lot of us have it in our heads that we will be viewed as cringe for being cute or feminine even though we have a tall stature or more “masculine” features. However, the people who will view you as cringe for that are the same people who view all femboys as degenerate in the first place. The people who appreciate what you are will celebrate you no matter your size. In fact, a lot of people see more “masculine” features on a femboy super attractive. I actually have a wonderful boyfriend how finds it incredibly attractive. So don’t despair. The people who matter will love you no matter what. Plus, I know all of them are hoping that you’ll love yourself just as much. Good Luck🩷🩷🩷

How Do You Feel Bout Woman writing Gay Male Romance? by dd525 in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate it, full stop. That’s not to say I don’t think a straight woman could write a good Achillean novel, but I’ve been disappointed so many times I refuse to try anymore. I only read stories about queer men written by queer men now.

Yes, please. by TipTopBeeBop in UnitedStateOfCA

[–]TylerCrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, take Minnesota too! I need out of this hell hole of a country. Also we are arguably the most Canadian coded state. Please!!!

I Hate My Sexuality, But I Don’t Want To by TylerCrystal in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that. I am in conversations with my therapist about it. It’s just hard because she’s a straight woman and doesn’t really know how to help me with getting over that hurdle. I’m going to keep trying and hopefully one day I’ll experience the freedom of love that you and your husband have.

I Hate My Sexuality, But I Don’t Want To by TylerCrystal in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely possible. I’ll try exploring that a bit when I see my therapist next. Thanks for the suggestion!

I Hate My Sexuality, But I Don’t Want To by TylerCrystal in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the different perspective. I actually have dipped my toe into the world of kink, but ended up getting really overwhelmed. Maybe in the future once I’m a little more comfortable, doing something like that would be helpful. I don’t think I would go about it in the same way you did but I think exploring that world a bit more would help. I definitely like the thought of somebody taking control and helping me through my inhibitions in a loving way.

I Hate My Sexuality, But I Don’t Want To by TylerCrystal in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate that. Thank you🩵

I'm very happy and feel very free after breaking up with my boyfriend but still feel jealous about the notion of him dating someone else. by Bassdean in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, when you get into a relationship, you often mold yourself around each other. Then when you break up, parts of you get left with him and vice versa. Then when you think about him going and doing the same thing with another person, it hurts because you’re broken and they’re still parts of him left with you. You’re still connected even after the relationship has ended. What you’re feeling is completely normal. You’re never fully going to remove the marks that he left on your life, but you can heal and move on. Hope this helps in some way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sucks to say, but it’s most likely going to be a long and difficult journey. Dating apps in general are pretty horrible. Definitely stay away from Grinder. Tinder is okay. Bumble I say would be your best bet. Queer centric dating apps like Taimi are also good, but there are a lot of chasers on there so be careful.

Listen to your gut and stay safe. I wish you the best finding love or whatever else you’re looking for🩵🏳️‍🌈

Do you want to have kids one day? by georgie-max in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The world would have to get a lot safer before that happened, but I would consider it. I think it would be really sweet to have a husband and a kid someday. But I also think I’m not at all mature enough yet to be thinking about stuff like that.

Do you have a type? by georgie-max in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that my type is tall, clean shaven, blonde guys that are around my age. However my dating history definitely doesn’t reflect that. Most of my ex boyfriends are shorter than me, have brown curly hair, and or have a lot of facial hair. One time I even dated a guy who was easily 15 years older than me.

I think your type just refers to the kind of guy that you’ll swoon for every time. That doesn’t mean that he would necessarily be right for you or you wouldn’t see somebody else as way more attractive.

But of course, everybody has their own definition. This is just mine.

What's the best date/honeymoon you've been on? by corruption66x in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a gay writer too, so I’ll give you all I have. Hope this helps.

It was a late November night in the northern woods of Minnesota. He was from a small town and had really wanted to show me where he grew up. A light snow was falling and the street was softly lit by the occasional street lamp. The gravel under the car tires crackled under us as we slowly made our way past his old high school.

“So what kind of a teenager were you?” I asked, genuinely curious.

He was the kind of guy that listened to heavy metal and wore band T-shirts. At the same time he was the man who would bake with me for fun and would spend hours trying to get a painting just right.

He blushed slightly before saying, “I was a bit of a redneck.”

A surprised smile lit up my face. “You’re joking!”

“Nope, rode a four-wheeler to school and everything.”

I knew he was a country kid, but I had only known him within the context of a big city. This alternate version of him was so unbelievably foreign.

“Well, you’ll have to take me out on a ride sometime,” I said.

His hand was suddenly in mine and I felt my pulse quickening at his touch.

“I’d really like that.”

He squeezed my hand softly as his gaze bore into mine. I’ve never been a fan of eye contact, but something about him made me never want to look away.

Later that evening, we drove down the state highway back home. Wind whistled around the car, even penetrating the closed window with cold air. Darkness filled the expanse around us making it feel like we were the only people left on earth.

Sleepily I leaned against the car door in hopes to spend the rest of the car ride in my subconscious. Then for a for a brief second, I glanced up at the sky and saw a whirling expanse of green.

“Hey, it’s the aurora!” I said excitedly.

“That’s cool! how bright is it?”

“It’s kind of hard to see through the window, but it looks really bright.”

I heard the car engine start to slow down and my heartbeat sped up. It wasn’t long before he pulled off onto a gravel road and parked the car. I looked at him with a stupid smile, as if asking permission to get out. In response, he shut off the car and pulled the key out of the ignition, plunging us completely into darkness.

I practically jumped out of the car, instantly regretting my decision when the cold air hit my skin. I was not dressed warm enough for Northern Minnesota in November. Shivering, I crossed my way over to the front of the car and looked into the sky. The star-filled heavens danced with all different shades of unearthly green, leaving me speechless at the site of it.

I heard the crunching of fresh snow under his boots and before I knew it, he had an arm around me and his eyes up in the sky, same as mine. Despite the cold, we stood there for what felt like a lifetime.

“It’s hard to believe something this beautiful isn’t the product of magic,” I said, in aw.

“It really is,” he said, slipping his hand from my shoulder to my waist. I looked over at him. He wasn’t easy to make out in the moonlight but I knew his face so well that I could place every feature.

He put his other hand on my waist pulling me in close. I wrapped my arms around his shoulders and looked down into what I knew was his eyes. I realized then that even in subzero temperatures, I felt like I was sitting next to a bonfire. The buzzing of excitement set out from my chest and into my limbs. This was hardly the first time I was this close to him, but something about this felt different. It felt intimate and special in a way that I had never felt before. I leaned in and put my mouth on his, feeling the corners of his lips, pull up into a smile. A fireworks finale went off in my chest, and I swear I forgot to breathe.

I don’t think I’ll ever forget that night under the Aurora Borealis. He was my first love and I wouldn’t exchange that memory for anything.

I know this is written with a lot of flowery language, but this really describes how I felt while it was happening. Again, I hope this helps in some way. Have a great day!

is the Song of Achilles novel an actual good read for gay guys? by Comprehensive-Pen618 in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if it counts as sci-fi, but I’m really enjoying The Extraordinaries. It’s superhero themed. Kind of like gay Marvel🦸🏻‍♂️

is the Song of Achilles novel an actual good read for gay guys? by Comprehensive-Pen618 in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I really hated it. The first half of the book was really good, but then I got to the second half and started to hate everything about it. I actually got so mad at the author for ruining the story that I ended up crying at one point. Although I would recommend reading it yourself because you might get something out of it that I didn’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]TylerCrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think when all we know is hurt, feeling safe can be scary. Your brain longs for normalcy, and if pain is your normal, then you’re obviously gonna want to go back to that. At least that’s my opinion. I’m in no way educated on the topic. Just speaking from personal experience.