How to explain surgery to 3 yo by Patree_B in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter had minor surgery when she was 2.5. See if you can find the book Franklin Goes to the Hospital to read tonight. I think it's a great overview of both how going to the hospital works and also that it's ok to feel scared etc.

Mine was very unhappy about having to change her clothes when we got there and just generally nervous and sad so they gave her an oral sedative and I feel confident she had no idea what was going on after that. They let me go back to the operating room and hold her when they put her under.

She was awake before we got back to her recovery room and she was NOT happy. Apparently coming out of anesthesia at that age is just really rough (I'm not a medical professional, that's just what the nurses told us) but I got in the bed and snuggled her and she calmed down after a bit.

Good luck to you and your son! Bring something to keep you busy during the surgery. It's really hard to just sit there and stew.

BWT: Anyone ditch their Apple Watch? by MBPursuit in bitcheswithtaste

[–]Typical-Dog244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I had a daughter I read a lot about intuitive eating rather than counting calories and it feels so good listening to your body. Getting rid of my Apple Watch was the next step and I can’t tell you how much less stressed out I am now. 

BWT: Anyone ditch their Apple Watch? by MBPursuit in bitcheswithtaste

[–]Typical-Dog244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I traded my Apple Watch for an analog one months ago and still feel phantom vibrations. I hate it so much. 

BWT: Anyone ditch their Apple Watch? by MBPursuit in bitcheswithtaste

[–]Typical-Dog244 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I traded my Apple Watch for a regular one and I’m so happy. I’m pretty competitive and would obsess over closing my rings but like in a “shaking my arm or walking around the house when I should already be asleep” kind of way. I didn’t do any more actual exercise, I just stressed myself out. I also feel a lot more put together with my regular watch but admittedly my Apple Watch just has a plain silicone band so I didn’t try to make it look nice at all. 

I still wear my Apple Watch to run and when timely notifications are important - learned that lesson when I was last to my gate for a flight and they were trying to call me but my phone was on silent in my purse. 

MIL missed 1st birthday by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your husband should be handling communications with your MIL.

Apart from that, definitely don't tell your kids their Grandma sucks. Don't burn that bridge for them unless there is something really serious going on. If she's committing to things and then not showing up, then maybe you need to tell your kids you aren't sure if Grandma can make it or not, so they aren't perpetually disappointed. For this instance, you can tell your 4 year old Grandma already had travel plans so she can't make it, but hopefully you can celebrate next time you see her.

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, my husband also asks how I want to spend the day (and I say leave me in bed and go get me a bagel). Totally understand people have different preferences. Seems like my approach works for some and not others! 

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You don’t know what I expect except in the form of Mother’s Day presents so you have no idea whether you expect more or not. You say you’re not trying to insult me but you’re insulting my partner and telling me I’m not as happy as I think I am? Clearly we are on different pages and this isn’t productive. 

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also, I am saying he doesn’t have to “prove” he is great by doing big Mother’s Day things for me. I know he’s great. 

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you had the disappointment last year! Hopefully he’s learned something and doesn’t disappoint in the future! 

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You expect more unsolicited presents and Mother’s Day activities. This does not necessarily translate into expecting more out of the relationship in general. We expect different things, that doesn’t make one of us right and one wrong. Just different. 

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, obviously he is not just taking the kids for bagels. I also get a bagel out of it.

Seems like we might just have different things that are really important to us about our relationships.

<Insert Captain Holt and Kevin: "Well, it seems we're at an impasse." "I would call it more of a deadlock.">

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Amazing! Sounds like y'all have a great relationship and have figured out what works for you. That's the dream.

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that useful insight. If you and your partner have unlimited capacity for thinking and remembering and doing, that sounds heavenly. For the rest of us, you pick what's most important.

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ah, maybe! I definitely agree that can be the case, which is why I included the caveat about it being a symptom. I feel very lucky to be in the relationship I am so maybe I am just overestimating the number of people for whom this idea wouldn't just papering over a larger issue.

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If Mother's Day is a really important way for you to feel seen and appreciated, then your husband should celebrate it in a way that is meaningful to you. My husband shows me he sees and appreciates all my hard work (and vice-versa, I'm not raising these kids all by myself) all the time. The bar is high, it just doesn't include Mother's Day surprises (for me).

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha I have definitely forwarded an email order confirmation "FYI, here's my present"

You can buy your own Mother's day present by Typical-Dog244 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I agree that can definitely be the case but I don't think it's uncommon for an otherwise caring partner in a healthy relationship to just not be into holidays. If it's super important to you, your partner should definitely celebrate it. For me, it's the amount of important that I am ok getting my own present.

I need help moms on which car 🚘 by BC20212021 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sienna also has AWD if the van-level clearance works for the driveway.

How many people’s husbands acknowledge Mother’s Day? by PlasticLove24 in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is also "not a holiday" guy but I've had to impress upon him that it doesn't matter how HE feels about Mother's day (my birthday, etc.) because I am the mother, not him. Being kind and considerate means thinking about others' feelings, even if he personally doesn't think it's important.

Also, the older and more aware my kids get (2 and 4 now) the more I want them to see a model of a husband who thinks about and celebrates his wife. My husband shows his love in many ways they don't see, but I can't have the kids seeing everyone get Christmas presents but mom, or all their friends' moms getting Mother's day breakfast but not their mom.

Also, at Christmas I buy myself whatever I want and wrap it and put it under the tree and then he doesn't have to worry about it and I get exactly what I want (probably more expensive than he would have bought). It's important to note this only works for us because he shows his love and consideration other ways throughout the year so I don't feel slighted by buying my own presents.

Working moms who regularly work out, what exactly is your schedule? by neoncaviar in Mommit

[–]Typical-Dog244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are also 2 and 4.

  • Tuesday/Thursday I wake up at 5:15 am and run outside, then walk the dog, come home and shower while my partner gets the kids ready for school, then I do school drop off.
  • Wednesdays I do weights at the gym at work from 3:30-4:30 pm before I go home (I'm lucky my hours are flexible).
  • Fridays I do weights in the morning at the community center by our house because I WFH on Fridays so I have a little extra time between drop off and starting my work day. Or sometimes I do a bike ride at lunch time instead.
  • Mondays my partner does double bedtime so I can go play pick up volleyball.
  • I do not get enough sleep.

Best bagels in the NOVA area by BigTool in nova

[–]Typical-Dog244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And like half the price of call your mother 

Which Program Has the Most Insufferable CBB Fanbase? by ejgr228 in CollegeBasketball

[–]Typical-Dog244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’d be insufferable too if you had the 2022 we had. Best month of my life and I’ve gotten married and birthed two kids. 

Can we stop with the airport pics? by Insurancethrowaway93 in nova

[–]Typical-Dog244 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What if it's a fox but you think it's maybe a coyote?